Losing friends & family when you level up ~ why successful people are lonely ~ my realization

Losing friends & family when you level up ~ why successful people are lonely ~ my realization

No one talks about the shady side of leveling up, just the glamour, but so much pettiness and jealousy comes with being successful and leveling up, it will actually break your heart, thats where the saying, it's lonely at the top comes from.

[Luna-kbsr]

I lost 100 pounds, I stopped being a doormat, and people lost their minds…. I’m talking about family. This is too real.

[shadimodise]

People don't change, they just get tired of pretending and start to show who they have been all along.

[chrissya]

Once you learn to be your own best friend and enjoy your own company, it becomes easier to cut off people who don’t serve you.

[Peacepeacelovelove]

This is why it’s very important not to tell everyone all your wins and all your losses, because they don’t define you. And just like the young lady people will use both to throw dirt on your good name🙏🏾

[tiffanypittman]

I stopped being nice. I'm polite to strangers and kind to people who I ALLOW to be close to me. There's a difference between nice, polite, and kind.

[mashae.]

My boyfriend broke up with me when I kept on growing my real estate investments. At first he was very supportive, because he thought my ambitions were cute. But when I started kicking butt at it, all of a sudden the energy changed, and different snide remarks started rolling in from him. It got to the point where I couldn’t even share any news of my success with him, because I could just see his face changing :(
Soon I realized that he has no ambitions and no drive, and wants to pull me back down with him.

[auty]

I went through this, when i bought my dream car to celebrate my business milestone and since then I’ve been solo dolo. I’ve been able to get more accomplished, date quietly, and have a new experiences. Private life is amazing

[grapesoda]

I'm a firm believer in never telling anyone your good news because 9/10 after you tell them, everything goes to shit. Keep the good AND the bad to yoself 💯

[lilbbymoon]

You know what they say “People want to see you do well, but never better than them.” I’ve rly had to boundary up this year with people. As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed peoples support fall off more & more but I let whoever wants to go, go. You can’t make everyone happy all the time. People don’t realize what I had to go through in my “losing” period before I got to my “winning” phase. There is always gonna be struggle before any happiness.

[angelica-ikmk]

Currently going through this.. I made the mistake of thinking everyone would be behind me, supporting me. Lost most of them. I couldn’t figure out why but overtime the message was clear. I spent my first business anniversary alone. I regret letting all of that get to me. I would’ve been a lot more grateful if I stopped ruminating about the least important part of my success. It really is lonely. Everyone who ‘left me behind’ .. I feel bad for them!

[Rosie]

No one wants you to be better than them, even your closest friends

[machelkategaya]

In my teens and early 20s, I was popular but I very unhappy and unfocused. Dimming my light to fit in was slowly killing me. When i decided to truly chase my dreams and live my best life, lost everyone! 🧐🤣 I wish them all the best but now I'm the happiest I've ever been. This life doesn't have part 2. LIVE YOUR LIFE! Shamelessly 😉😎

[jessf.]

I had friends who went from liking my posts, wishing me happy birthday etc to nothing for a whole year. They purposely stopped liking my stuff but yet were the first to watch my stories. In person they were overly nice in terms of first greeting me at events than after the initial hellos they would talk to everyone but me. Even though it's just social media it can be used as a metric to gauge people's behavior combined with their in person interactions. Cutting them off from my socials and having limited interactions with them in person was the best thing I could of done. That level of pettiness gives me the ick.

[sparkle]

People will be jealous when you even start loving yourself and setting boundaries once you learn your value.
They were never your friends.
Who cares.
Be happy for yourself.

[felicerobinson]

Successful people are not lonely, we are surrounded by other successful people. The missed opportunity is the unwillingness to acquire new social circles that match the new state of success. Forgive yourself for the unwillingness to let go and the resentment of the old tribe disappears. Best wishes to all on the path!.

[victoriagregoire]

I’ve always been an introvert as I never felt the need to tell people of my struggles or wins. For example, my dad shared my graduation pics when I didn’t want anyone to know yet and literally the energy in my external family changed and that exact night my dad ruined my graduation in a drunken stupor. Im a big proponent of keeping your peace and successes on your own. I have never felt the urge to prove myself to others as you are your only competition at the end of the day

[lauriejordan]

People want you to do well, just not better than them.

[MotivationAsh]

I can’t wait to find genuine friendships..I don’t trust a lot of people.

[junopierre]

I’m early thirties now and it’s so clear now who is so miserable and still stuck in that high school mindset. I had to cut some people out because all they did was complain and try to drag me down with them. I come from a family with a crabs in the bucket mindset. Once I came to that realization I had to cut some people out

[iamafollowerofChrist]

Currently I'm going through this. I lost all my friends and now I'm alone. I have no good friend to talk with. No messages on whatsapp. No phone calls except my family. I'm leveling up with university and even if sometimes I feel alone, I focus on my studies and my goals.