Which is worse: one narcissist vs a group of them?

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[edelweissdebergbaldrian]

"Having to deal with a lot of narcissists at once: is like being in a cocktail party in hell." So true!

[harleyquinn]

A group of Narcissists can collaborate with one another and commit felony acts upon you. Voice of experience, right here.

[tiffanycorbin]

It becomes very all you encounter are narcissists.

[abracadaverous]

With a whole group of narcissists, I'd imagine all you'd have to do is compliment only one of them and not the others, and then just sneak out in the ensuing chaos.

[tashasmith]

So true. Once you distance yourself from one, you realize just how many toxic people are in your life, and can't wait to get rid of them.

[EarthborneArt]

This reminded me of the mean girls phenomena. Something I assumed most women would grow out of as they mature past high school. To my amazement, I'm in my early sixties and am observing it with groups of women around my age.

[geraldharmon]

I come to realize that once I learned about narcissism, I come to understand that there will always be more than one narcissist in my life...either at work or family an ex. They're everywhere. I just have to learn how to deal with them with boundaries.

[maryroot]

I spend a lot of time alone these days, and I'm VERY careful who I let into my life.

[drppr]

Dealing with many is worse - whether it's a family situation or the workplace- it can really be frustrating

[ResearchThis]

My family united as a pack of flying monkeys to protect my narcissistic mother when I finally stood up to her at 45 years old. The extreme gaslighting from all angles is a nightmare and now they've all shunned me and painted her as a victim of my disrespect. I can't distinguish if more of them are narcissistic or just enablers? Either way, my trauma bonds are finally broken, after the confusion of being shunned for two years and counting. Thank you Dr.Ramini for helping me understand why this happened.

[sallyleads]

Once I realised how toxic and narcistic my close family were, I could see them everywhere! I was so use to it over decades, I realised my repeat broken love type/marriage were a pattern and took responsibility for my part. When I was so broken I could not give anything to anyone, even myself, the family were evil. Pure evil and I was quite as I was so broken due to life's happenings. I observed all they said and did and they were sick. I have healed since then and I can see control and abuse especially emotional abuse everywhere. This is how I know I have healed lots. It feels like a curse but really it is a blessing and I am going to get totally well and assit others, as DA and DV the real victims are totally overlooked. Editing as posted before watching and you mention family and siblings. Generational mine is, in hindsight but now I have had to walkj alone as family have so many hidden secrets and holds over each other that they blocked me, reported me for DA and then when they started breadcrumbing, I ignored them and they dont just turn up, as they have for years. They dont know what to think, and I do not give them good or bad its really freaking them out but keeping me safe. Thank you Dr Ramani you have helped keep me sain.

[catalinafirefly]

I remember when at a new job as a nurse I noticed how my coworkers were all defrauding the hospital with falsified time-cards. They called me to a private meeting where they all ganged-up on me. I had to resign. A shooter later killed 2 at that workplace.

[celinej]

It is such an accurate expression that once you start to remove one narcissist from your life, the floodgate is opened, and life really feels easier and happier without these "people", Dr. Ramani, Thank you so much for your sharing!

[LeLeB]

I spent a few years involved in what a called a sociological experiment with an entire group of various types of narcissists. It was quite eye opening. Indeed.

[susiesalome]

My two narcissists started out as great friends and were united against me & my coworkers. One was our boss, the other was on our level. After about a year, they started fighting . It was hell. The rest of us were dragged into the mess. They each mistreated us in their own ways as well as subjecting us to the tension and conflict between them. The company ignored our cries for help. It went on for years. One eventually left. It was easier to cope with the remaining one’s outrageous behaviour as she wasn’t as agitated now that the other was gone. I was eventually able to leave. Dr. Ramani’s videos are so helpful.

[Maria-zzfw]

I recently realized my siblings and one child are narcs. Also, my best friend of 30 years. But I only started to notice it after my father died. Now i see them everywhere i look. It's kind of sad because I don't have a good group yet. I can only think of one long time friend that i am sure isn't narcissistic.
I'm so glad I can come here for support and a reality check.
Thank you for sharing info in a clear concise way. I always feel a little less crazy when I watch your videos and less alone when i read the comments.

[Savagewithaheart]

A group… it really doubles down on the insanity.

I developed extremely aggressive tendencies because I dealt with groups for 2 decades, it wasn’t until it got to my ex girlfriend and my nephews is where I realized how deep the narcissism went, and it sent me into a deep suicidal depression, then I got out of that darkness, the point where I started fighting all of them. But I didn’t see it for so long that because there was so many of them. It can be extremely gas lighting and you have to become a demon to fend them off.

[joelblackford]

The Group. In my case, many in her family. They gaslight together in unspoken ways. It’s much more powerful and controlling.

[kristylynn]

Many is worse. I lost the ability to keep up with life when I was surrounded by many in close relationships. It did open the door to understanding why I literal struggled to keep up with all the nonsense around me. It was like living in limbo till I cleaned house. And surprise life was not so difficult to overcome challenges of life. I do not feel drained daily like it was for a while. It started with cutting ties with my parents, then my partner, followed by a few friends and finally two of my three adult children. My children I still struggle with accepting and not blaming myself for the choices they make. However, the improvements to my daily life is so much better I can no longer deny the impact it has on a person.

[TheKadeRose]

I was the family scapegoat, and it was definitely difficult to break away because I made some bad choices. I married too young, married what I believed to be the “opposite” of what I’d been living through, only to find out later he was a very similar kind of narcissist, only male. Spent my whole life poor because of this man, never really able to break away from those who had abused me growing up.

When my step mother died, my half sisters/siblings took on the same role as their mother, never realizing what she’d done to me. Thinking their mother was virtuous and kind, when it was only a role she was playing for her gratification, to get sympathy from others on the outside looking in. It was easy for her to make my dad look like the bad guy, because he was vulnerable to anyone who “showed” a little compassion, or what seemed to be compassion, but was really a manipulative move on her part to be the one who was REALLY in control.

Dad had a temper, and he controlled the money.. out of a fear stemming from childhood, but truly had a compassionate heart I did not see in my mom. So he appeared to be the narcissist, when all the while it was her. It took me many years to realize it was her I was running from, not my dad.