Why Is Dating So Difficult Now? (w/ Brett Cooper)

How to find a boyfriend/girlfriend? How to go on more dates? And why is it so hard to go on dates or find people in real life? It's a tough dating landscape out there, especially for Gen-Z after COVID. Brett Cooper (aka The Comments Section) shares her advice for how to go on dates, meet more potential mates, and re-connect with IRL relationships. She also shares how she met her husband and instantly knew he was the one.

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[bluecollarbuilds]

As an average guy there’s just absolutely no reason to go up to a girl anymore and no because she’s cute is not a reason everything is just so shallow and superficial today

[heatison]

Social media and dating apps give women an illusion of infinite choices, thats whats messed up

[mrEsub]

1. Dont be a 304
2. don't play games
3. Let your intentions be known
4. Don't put up with irrational behavior
5. See 1

[UndeadLavender]

Been single for 5 years. Dating is a joke now. Everyone has their phones in their hands constantly and no one can be consistent enough to spark any interest whatsoever

[micahg]

After a bunch of failed relationships that started in person over years, I finally met my wife on Christian mingle. ❤

[cryptojihadi]

Of course they will ignore the elephant in the room.

Female narcissism. All in the name of the self-esteem movement, we were told to drill into our daughters' heads that they are wonderful and perfect JUST THE WAY THEY ARE, they don't need to change a thing for anyone - you be you, you DESERVE the ABSOLUTE BEST, Don't you DARE settle.

All this and we wonder why they honestly believe they deserve a top tier 1% guy. We joke about the 80/20 rule, but women that end up with a top 10% guy feel like they are settling.

We've created a harem culture where 80% of women will only consider the top 10% of men for anything long term. They will certainly sleep around with guys in the top 20% but one night stand only. So needless to say, the top 10% of men have zero interest or need to "settle down" when literally ALL the women are throwing themselves at them. ESPECIALLY with modern women who are 6's or 7's but think they deserve a 10, and who will INEVITABLY get bored with the relationship, because they've destroyed their ability to pair bond with all the guys they've slept with, so the guy will lose half his shit and 40% of his future income, when she decides she wants something new.

When you can already sleep with whoever you want, to tie yourself down and commit to future financial ruin, would be the definition of insanity.

Deal with THOSE things, and all the little stupid, inconsequential shit you talked about, will correct itself.

[bcjammer]

Internet/social media culture is unbelievably destructive. Young people today have no clue how to have real relationships, let alone face to face conversations.

[davidbischoff]

Online dating does work if you take it seriously. I met my wife on coffee meets bagel. I am 7 years older than her and I would have never met her in real life. Our social circles and interests would never intersect. The only way i would have ever met her is online, and I am very grateful for the tool.

[BrianWaller-qegr]

I gave up I’m done with the bull crap done with the endless ghosting, rejection and being ignored. All I get from the apps are foodie dates or scammers nobody legitimate.

[TOhara-eblp]

Speaking as an older viewer, dating is so difficult because the younger generations have lost their social skills. You don’t know how to date because you can’t go anywhere without your phone. PM, text, etc….you never talk to anyone face to face. You think I’m an old fogey, I know, but that’s the answer. Also, it has always much more difficult for men because we have to do all the asking and deal with all the rejection.

[RobbytheRobot]

I dont approach at all. The only way I will talk to a girl is if shes making it 100% obvious that shes interested. Its not enough for a girl to look at me constantly or to even throw in a compliment. She has to flirt with me and tell me that she finds me attractive.

[Seven]

I went to 2 weddings in 2023 and both couples met at work. It’s very confusing to me because so many strongly advise not to let yourself be involved romantically at work.

[VictoriaKlippy]

From what I’ve seen a lot of it has to do with the “grass is greener on the other side” mentality, people think as soon as they run into hard times it’s time to jump ship. Or, they keep the back door open instead of closing it and fully committing. I think social media influences that mentality because all people often see is only the good in relationships. In reality, a successful marriage survives and thrives by working through those hard times together before God. Also, the younger you get married the better because you get to grow up together and shape one another (the older you become the more set in your ways you are, leaving little room for growing WITH your spouse). Been with the love of my life for 12 years and counting.

[BunnyWatson-kw]

People need to get off their phones and get real about dating. It's is not a relationship unless you are meeting regular in person. Dating apps including Instagram have killed the old school dating. Guys get frustrated because the algorithm is stacked against them. The Chads will get most of the women. Women are left frustrated with non commitment from men they meet online. And few people are serious about marriage and family in their 20s anymore.

[raynor]

As a man who had a good amount of success on dating apps (both meeting my wife and prior to that), this advice is fantastic.

Whenever men are complaining about a lack of romantic possibilities, the first thing they should be asked is what they are doing to change that. More often than not, the answer is dating apps and nothing else. Dating apps are a fine option, but they should not be the only one being used. People need that face-to-face interaction, both for romance and everyday life. And the only way to do that is to practice.

I also frequently see men complaining about the deck being stacked against them, and my reply is to stack the deck in your favor. Find an environment where you are comfortable, be yourself, and be nice and polite to everyone. Your suggestion of run groups isa fantastic one, but pretty much any social gathering can be subbed in as long as it is a comfortable environment. And occasionally putting yourself in an uncomfortable environment is also a good idea, for no other reason to increase openness to new environments and experiences.

And thank you for letting women know that they are as responsible for finding dates as men. It can be a tricky dance, but both sides are equally in need of practice.

[priyankarmajumder]

Not having patience and being too obsessed with people's red flags only are one of the real reasons why modern dating is so difficult.
People are being fed by the social media gurus and pop culture narratives that if you find out even one red flag in your partner, then walk way.
But every person in this planet are filled with red flags!

[jacksparrow]

Creepy isn't really a thing, it's just guys going up to women and talking/asking them out and the women just think they're ugly and unattractive so to not put the blame on themself being vain and self-centered they deflect and just say they're creepy and assaulting

[zcorpalpha]

Not for me, I’m very straight up what I want & direct .

Also,

When we are out or home 🏡, smart devices are “ OFF “ ‼️

So, we can enjoy private time is “ AKA Private “ 🔥


People need to be more up front about what exactly they want in a relationship

I don’t use dating apps, I see someone I’m interested in, I approach them.

Quite Simple

[TheTifier]

"An excellent wife who shall find. For she is far more precious than rubies." (King Solomon, approx. 850BCE)

It's not that dating suddenly became difficult. It was always rare to find someone you truly connect with and can be good life partners with.

[Firstwastheword]

First seek the kingdom of heaven and all these things will be added to you. The Lord knows the desires of your heart ❤️