How Modern Dating Is Destroying Us

Ever feel like modern dating is just... well, a hot mess? Let's talk about modern dating and all its craziness. From dealing with the endless dating problems to figuring out why modern dating is so messed up, we're here to chat about it all. Let's talk about love, relationships, and maybe even share a few dating tips along the way. Is modern dating really as broken as it seems, or is there a silver lining to it all? Maybe, just maybe, there's a way to make sense of it all and discover the true beauty that lies within modern relationships.

#relationship #dating #love

Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Naphia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Mur-zoUxw]

In this age, I still prefer old fashioned dating and romance.

[Already.Forgotten]

Technology shows how empty modern connections are. In a meaningless world, even love is just another shallow transaction.

[Whoknowsanymore-sg]

Modern dating has been ruined due to “icks” dating apps/websites and people having toxic relationships and behavior and the greed people desire and cheating it is so terribly sad

[Notknwn]

The psychology behind dating apps is also like the phrase “99% gamblers quit before hitting it big”. When you find yourself excessively swiping out hundreds of people in hopes to find someone who’s the embodiment of perfection because you’re unwilling to settle for “less”

[RedInkTheOneAndOnly]

I’m a 17 year old kid living in this modern nightmare, and it sucks. People say “I miss the old way” but I don’t even get something to miss, I was never around to see it. All I’ve ever known was a society based around screens and technology. I’m just fully stuck with this reality. It’s gotten so bad that I don’t even know if I want to date anymore, despite how lonely I feel.
Society sucks.

[Eric-gphi]

I’m 25 years old and I agree dating is hard in today’s society. I have never had a girlfriend before and I’m scared to talk to women. I’m worried that I will die alone and will never find my soulmate.

[PixelaGames]

I’m 24, female, and i never dated anyone before, never had a crush, never been in love, and of course…i never got married. Love and dating is so new and foreign to me, I’d like to get into it, but I’m still working on myself. If god has plans for me to find love, then…ok! Sure. If not…then I guess I’m just destined to be alone. I often get lonely (we all do) and I sometimes just crave wholesome forms of affection (hugs, cuddles, kisses, stuff like that) I sometimes feel like I’m touch starved, and so I…get really shy when it comes to showing love and affection. My family isn’t the most affectionate, so I just didn’t experience much affection growing up (my family isn’t neglectful or anything, their just not the most affectionate) plus I was not that much of a hugger growing up (probably due to my autism and me being more prematurely) so…I don’t know, I’d like to find a soulmate/life long partner and best friend, but I don’t know when or where I’ll find him.

[floydblandston]

When we were just two dorky teenagers scared to ask girls to dance, my best mate and I sat down and thought the whole thing out;
Why were we afraid? Fear of rejection....
Why were we afraid of rejection? Social shaming and the reminder of our own (perhaps) lack of desireable- ness.
With that in mind, we stumbled on the idea "well, what if we just didn't care about those things?" and made a pact to "thrive on rejection", and to support each other by laughing off our failures together, just chalking them up to the everyday sufferings of life, like soggy sandwiches and study hall.

Within two years, he was Class President, I was Secretary and Student Council Rep, the two of us were organizing monthly student dances where we danced with *everyone*.
By graduation, I was going off to University sharing an apartment with the girl who became my wife, and he was juggling about a dozen 'steady dates'.

The moral? First, a good 'wingman' and best friend is more valuable than good looks, style, or 'riz'.
Second, thrive on rejection! 😂(nothing really matters that much, to be honest!)

[InuSocials]

I agree, deleting my dating apps is what actually made me start improving myself and gave me the confidence to meet other guys irl. Those apps are engineered to strike your insecurities to keep you hooked on them. It’s similar to a addictive substance looking for that dopamine hit of a like or validation.

[ShinjiInui]

People are openly malicious these days. They get more joy out of causing others pain than anything else.
Trying to date just gets you trolled, at best.

[Rika]

Whenever I encounter the word "Trauma Dumping", it only reminds me of the negative impact it has given to me; specifically to someone like me who's diagnosed with depression.
There is always that guilt of speaking up about my problems, especially when I'm having an episode. That fear of getting called out for trauma dumping when you're just not okay at all in the first place because of a depressive episode.

[beamcore]

Nearly 27 years old and I’ve never been on date, kissed a girl and no girl has ever showed interest in me in my entire life. I started using dating apps maybe about a year ago and I have had maybe 3 matches with a total of 0 dates. I just don’t even know what to do anymore. At such a young age people always said there’s someone out there for everyone but the harsh reality is there isn’t.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Gray areas 0:35
2). Paradox of choice 1:33
3). Face to face 3:06
4). Rise of me 3:48
5). Trauma dumping 4:52

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[A.Musing.Streamer]

I honestly have no idea how to meet anyone now. Everyone is guarded even at places where being social is expected.
People don't want to leave their social bubble in person anymore than they do online.
The constant harassment and bullying both Online and Off is one of the reasons for it...sigh.

[spicymemes]

I've dated with and without apps. The best thing I can suggest is in the face of the paradox of choice is to make your selection pool smaller. You get some good and some bad no matter what, that's normal. What isn't normal is broadening your search to the entire globe as apps trick you into doing. Keep your circle small and let others enter your space. Love finds you, never the other way around.

[maabat]

I deleted the apps because of how social media has completely flipped the switch on dating in the 21st century. People claim to be ready for relationships, but I end up getting strung on. I rather keep my peace at this point

[alexlovehall]

I don’t like the modern dating angle at all. As much as I’m working on adjusting to it and it’s not all bad, I miss what we lost on the way to get here.

[kayskreed]

As a Millenial, I feel for Gen Z and Alpha especially, although this problem touches many. Social media has really been an important factor in making an already challenging situation worse. Mostly, I'd blame it for the rise in anxiety, social withdrawal, the inability or unwillingness to communicate in person, as well as promoting many false ideals and unrealistic expectations, and let's not even talk about body image issues. Social media, in my mind, should be used to supplement social relationships, not to replace in-person interaction entirely. Our entertainment such as online gaming and streaming allows us to be more isolated than ever as well. Gone are the days of couch gaming at a friend's house over the weekend. Everyone's too busy, yet we manage to spend hours online everyday. There's an obvious irony to that.

[Anti-mlrw]

To be honest, I agree with you. I don’t like texting people that much because it’s not really intimate to be tapping on a piece of glass all day.
I like to talk with people in person, hold hands and hug, There you get a feeling of fuzzy warmth inside you.

[cardboard_boi]

im sorry, but the start up sound at 1:30 hit me with so much nostalgia i had to stop and take a breather bro. i thought it was in my head till i rewound