4 Reasons Why Dating is So Hard (and how you can fix it)

It’s not just you. Everyone’s confused, frustrated, and about to lose hope. Here are the 4 reasons why dating has become so hard (and what you can do about it).

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[TheGabrielberki]

Keep it simple, if you like someone ask them out. If they say anything other than, "Hell Yes, I'd love to" don't take it personal, move on and find someone else. You will save yourself a lot of heartache and time. It is truly their loss and someone else's huge gain. You did the work, you deserve someone who sees that being with you is a privilege.

[silvermine]

This is very true. I'm 38, and remember dating being completely different 10-15 years ago. It was a lot "easier" and a lot more fun!

[nexusSix_]

Communication and being upfront is my favorite thing to do. I love laying out all the rules and expectations in the beginning and going over them every so often. I don't want to leave any wiggle room for misunderstandings that could potentially derail a relationship that I really want to be successful

[patty]

I say it's not hard. Have no expectations and have fun, no matter who you go out with. Do not take personally things people do, or say; their shortcomings. Men just like women want to have a genuine connection. Weed them out from the very beginning. There are genuine and kind people out there. Don't expect people to be perfect, nobody is. Have fun and trust the Universe will send the right one for you. Good Luck!

[emilexx]

You look so beautiful Susan. 😍 a compliment from another woman coach!

[fatcatontario]

Wonderful advice as always! I would also add "normalization of sex work and porn" to this list. I have been encountering quite a few men lately who openly admit to using escorts and sugar babies and insist on talking to me like I am one. They say how they want a woman to dress, how her body should look (what surgeries she should have had), how she should behave in bed....when I hear that, I knock them down into reality and I AM NOT NICE about it.

[JonathonAslay]

Hey Susan, I loved this video because it is spot on... well said.

[MikeJackson]

Hit so many nails on the head. I'm 35 and I've never found it so tough for something on a serious level. Casual seems to be so easy, and I've had some great, transparent fun, but if you want something more, it's rarer than ever.

[Reilly]

I was thinking today that maybe ghosting and indirect communication is tied to the younger generation having helicopter or "Karen" parents. So, whenever we were younger, we learned that direct communication was punished with harsh reactions, or the parents sheltered us from conflict so we never learned how to cope with difficult conversations. All of this has been made worse with our modern indirect communication methods where people can hide themselves.

[meganwhalley]

Susan, you have been helping me for years and you help me not feel so alone and in my own head. You genuinely have such a great aura and everytime you post it makes my day. I’m going through a tough ghosting situation with a guy who was head over heels to me to nothing, avoiding me, treating me like I don’t have feelings or don’t exist and it’s been so hard and hurtful, but your videos have helped me so much. I’d love to have a session with you someday. Thank you for all you do to help others❤

[biondna]

Thanks for this. I'm learning to ask people what they mean. For instance, "I'm up for anything" usually means "... except monogamy."

[alessaxn]

I sat Youtube notifications on. The highlight of my week is when you post a new video!! Watching your videos is like chatting with a friend who gets you💕

[flowerpower]

Yes Susan I agree with your video Filter filter, and keep your core values in tact, 💖💖💖🙏

[Malefica_Sibylla]

How hypocritical those who are "trying to be nice" but actually doing the exact opposite thing

[LuisArias-uidw]

Great advice Susan lookin lovely as always keep up the great content 🌹

[sherriflemming]

True gentlemen are rare these days. Judge peoples character not their words.

[lillianguajardo]

Good advice, & points Susan . Thank you !

[lolachlih]

It should never be this hard dating, dating is definitely isn't what it once was times sure has changed and seen alot in dating at 46 what ever happened to communication and working out issues as a couple rather then flying off the handle or the blame game that happens today in dating im all about communication and honesty now yes there are alot of that ghosting or just cowards. Thank you Susan!

[datingdiaries]

It shouldn't be hard ! Susan you are always a breathe of fresh air !

[luketaylor]

Hey, Susan!
Thank you so much for this video today. Funny enough... this has been on my mind recently and loved the positive veiws you have on this topic. Thank you 💯🦁