Signs that It is REACTIVE ABUSE

🔥 *One-on-One Coaching With Christina*

Signs that It is REACTIVE ABUSE
#Reactive #ABUSE #signs #buildup #Act #First
*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[izawaniek]

True. If you have been exposed to the toxic behaviour for a long time it has built up and they can trigger you very easily. If you are not abusive with others first, you are not the problem. Thank you for This great explanation.

[LittleLulubee]

They trigger you in a way that’s imperceptible to others. So that when you react, they can point at you and call you crazy! While they act innocent. SO DUPLICITOUS 😤😤

[Insomniacmomof]

It’s hard to come back from. Sooo hard.

[fayray]

Perfect explanation. Makes sense and helps with clarity!

[danieljohnson]

Narcissism 101 : start $h*t, then play the victim .

[linnnea]

Covert narc's baiting can be so ridiculous, too. Every time I go see my mom she tries some ridiculous stunt. Last time she burned the morning oatmeal on purpose in order to make me eat it. It was a sight when a column of hot, burnt smelling steam was shooting out of the pot and she was stirring furiously to make the porrige as burnt and horrible as possible. If I had said something, anything, about the state of the "food" she would have had a tantrum and expected me to apologise. But I kept my cool and just said cheerfully I think I like bread and tea this morning.

[COSMIXA]

The longer the victim stays with a narcissist, the victim may feel like they're becoming one.

[SuzannaLiessa]

It can build up over time. Thank you. You have just explained something that I couldn’t quite make sense of. This is the phrase I use over and over as I explore abuse - oh, so that's what that was!

[comfortzone]

Yes after months and months of neglect and abuse I wouldn’t take it anymore so I started to do and say things to hurt his feelings. Suddenly he says I am being abusive.

[jacquelinefroehle]

True and they need to know you are triggered...it makes them happy to upset people

[KleeKaiBreeders]

He criticized me for not cleaning the toilet good enough, he was disgusted w me. The toilet was perfectly clean btw.
I went silent and left. Clean your own toilet jerk off. No more abuse allowed.
We all deserve so much better.
As each of us leaves the narcs, it helps all of us ❤✅

[leviwhite]

Regardless of if my reactions were from the abuse I will be ashamed of them.

I hope she gets the help she needs for either scenario. I'll be doing the same and keep some of it for me too.

[OkieDokie-ftpm]

Great point in saying that this isn't just one event "but a series of events" that made me finally succumb to DARVO. I used to beat myself up for taking the bait a little. But videos like yours and many others make it so much easier to put that last nail in the coffin of what I've left behind after one too many times. (talking about ex family of origin folks, or a male friend I had, not that eventually problematic ex-girlfriend!).

It's a manipulation-ship by that point. Oftentimes will strike you out of nowhere while things are seemingly going good too from my experience. (No wonder they call NARCS "master manipulaters... But they're all COWARDS at the end just putting on a MASK, pretending to be mighty out of nowhere while taking an uncalled for CHEAP SHOT with a touch of cruelty thrown in there...NO CONTACT cures all!)

[mtlke]

Your videos are everything! So validating. You explain to a T what I’ve experienced. I wish I found these 8 months ago when I was thrown into a harsh discard. I went into a dark hole for months blaming myself and wondering if I was the narc. I know now that I’m not but I still can’t fully shake that blame and shame off. Keep doing what you do! My heart goes out to anyone in the initial stages, it’s brutal! The first 8 weeks are the absolute worst.

[Loveandkindness]

Just the other day my narc husband and I were having a normal conversation about our 2 year old daughter then out of nowhere, he calls her a B**** and says, “what? Are you on the rag?”

This is a 55 year old man! I lost my mind on him and nearly beat the sh** out of him!

10 years of this man!!!

He went to his 2nd therapy session yesterday. I can only pray God can reach him.

[shakinghell]

It’s so interesting that in these relationships there is some doubt as to who is the abuser. My narcissistic thinks I’m one which initially I thought was bonkers, but I’ve been so broken down and altered that I began to believe it. 😮

[SmokeSolo]

I've just escaped a relationship where this was happening to me. Already feel in more control but long way to go to deal with the years of trauma.

[vikkara]

He emotionally abused me for months! I had my breaking point and couldn’t take it no more! I had 2 screaming matches with him! He would say wait do that again so I can record it and show everyone how crazy you are! It was the most exhausting thing I have experienced

[REPENT]

If I didn't react even tell him politely stop it would make him more psychotic

[karlamatsuda]

This is great! God bless you for doing this videos ❤