4 Parenting Styles and Their Effects On You

According to child psychologists, there are two aspects of parenting that can influence child development, emotion, and behavior: control and warmth. The control aspect describes how parents react to their children and which methods they use to parent. The warmth aspect is how much affection parents give their children.

Learning about the different combinations of high or low control or warmth of these parenting styles could benefit current and future parents - and their children!

Let's talk about authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting, permissive parenting and uninvolved parents.

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[Dev.Yadav.]

How about the "parent that constantly switches parenting styles depending on how they feel and confuse their children to the point of causing severe mental illness in them"

[AmerieFanbase]

It's about time parenting is taken seriously. Not all that is shown outward is happening indoors.

[zemespiral]

My parents were definitely Authoritarian, and damn proud of it. In fact, my dad would literally BRAG about being a tyrant.
I try being Authoritative, strict with clear and consistent rules, but lots of openness and love. Children should never have to feel like they aren't good enough or undeserving of love. I'm 40, and still trying to unravel and patch up all the damage I was left with.

[kuroyuuep]

I like how you made it Spy X Family themed :)
This is why: *"Not all parents deserve children, but children deserves a loving, happy family"*
Ik why they are being strict but I hope it has a limit.... Parents should be aware of their childrens feelings.And how would it affect their childrens..


Sorry for bad grammar ... Still learning English"^-^
Btw love ur content<3

[okumura]

timestamps !!

0:33 // authoritative parenting
1:29 // authoritarian parenting
2:20 // permissive parenting
3:02 // uninvolved parenting

hope this helps <3

[completlyoriginalnickname]

I had the control type parents.
Usually my father was the one who says the last word and if you try to change it, he gives you even more reason to fear him. He is like a boss at work, can't say anything negative to him, or expect him to understand. He also has 'slight' anger issues and deeply believes in being right.
As much as my mother is different, she still supports him in every argument, even if it's just his anger taking over, over nothing. She does somewhat care about me, but I am the middle child, so I'm neither close to dad, like my older sister, nor close to mom like my younger brother.

I'm just... here
At this place I wish I could call home
But I can't and even when I cried in front of them, first time in years. It still didn't change much, cuz I am just the ungrateful child for what they give to me.
And while we are financially stable. I just wish, to have someone who cares about me deeply. But at this point, it's also hard to believe for me that this day will ever come

Sorry it's a bit long and thank you for reading. Have a nice day <3

[ipettynote]

My parents are Authoritarian. Ever since primary school I’ve always been known as the “goody two shoes” of the class and was always told to be a lady and behave. They never really cared about how I felt as long as I mentioned money or my future careers. I never really had much friends since they all liked similar things and I was always left out and whenever I gave an opinion on something it was always shut down. And as the oldest I am expected to lead a better example and ‘become a 2nd mother’ to my siblings. Now I stay out late (as in like 2-3am) and don’t really care about what my parents think half of the time. Half of the decisions they made for me fcked up my whole education anyway and they still won’t take the blame for it. So I started giving up and lost all motivation. I even started to swear around them a lot whenever I couldn’t bottle up my emotions.

[rxscydanie]

My dad is an authoritative while my mom is an authoritarian.
Growing up, i have always prefer my dad over my mom. Because of my dad chill like nature and allows me to be myself while still balancing it, my mom rarely agrees with how he treats me. She hates it when my dad lets me be myself because she wants me to be perfect and successful.

Growing up, i have always felt so burdened by the heavy expectations my mom gives at me. Whenever my mom gets mad at me because i didn't achieve the expectations she wanted, my dad would often stayed silent because then my mom would pick on my dad. He'll comfort me later when my mom is not around, even now still living in the house. I can't help but to feel that my parents should get a divorce because of how unhealthy and one sided their relationship is.

[dv]

My parents were mostly uninvolved, especially my father. It was kind of logical since even with both of them working full time there was still no money and they had no energy after work and their side gigs. When my younger brother started showing sociopath tendencies and got into alcohol, drugs and petty crime it went unaddressed for a while until my parents tried the authoritarian method. That also did no good and just made my brother upset that they were more trusting towards me, the child who didn't drink, use drugs or stole everything not nailed down and also had good grades and didn't get into any stupid shenanigans or push the shaky family finances to the brink with theft and vandalism. My parents are now both dead and my brother is still an addict and habitual criminal. I am a college dropout after depression and a back injury got the better of me, and I have a severe lack of trust in all and any humans and organisations. Enough that I want to buy a shack in the wilderness and withdraw from society, but all I can afford is rent for a tiny studio apartment so I am constantly surrounded by hundreds of people I can't trust and whose existence I am constantly reminded of with every sound they make.

[vandita]

When I was a little girl I want to believe that I have been through so much. The environment I grew up in was terrible. My mom and dad always used to argue/ fight in front of all family members and in fact it was very common for couples to fight in front of each other. I was raised in a family where I had my grandparents, grand father's brother’s family and my family. And I always saw arguments all the time.

I have a younger sibling(sister) who was born when I was almost 3.5 y/o. She was fair and pretty (which is a very big deal here in India) and on the other side I was dusky and not so good looking. All the family members and neighbours used to compliment her and used to love her more including my parents. I felt left out.

I was excellent in my academics till I was in 2nd grade. I was very average in 3rd grade.I started to score low in 4th and 5th grade and BAM 💥 I eventually started fail in all the tests/ final exams from 6th grade. There was a reason for all of the things that was happening with me. Sexual harassment.

I have been molested by 3-4 individuals who are either my family members or my family friends. The first time ever I experienced SH was when I was in 3rd grade if I’m not mistaken. It kept happening over and over again by different individuals for next 7-8 years.


Meanwhile because of my poor performance in my academics, I used to get harassed verbally by my parents. All this time I was going through so much and had no body by my side to support me emotionally or mentally. By this time I already had picked up a bad habit like lying to my parents almost all the time. Because environment I grew up in was TOXIC AF.

I was insecure about everything because of my sister. I used to hate my sister and at times I’ve even hoped that why is she here with us? Why am I not the only child to my parents? During pandemic, when I was stuck at my parents place for about 2 months with my sister, I got to know that I used to abuse her physically (pinching/hitting) and she never liked me because I used to do this to her. Not at all her fault. I feel SO sorry for her.

I had no best friends in my school because I used to be “lost” all the time. Little did I know that I was going through depression.

Eventually I overcame few of the things I was dealing with once I was in 11th grade. I had a couple of friends who did not know anything I was dealing with but they were sort of distraction for me. I was sad deep down but it wasn’t as bad as it used to be. I became an average student once again.

Now I am a graduate and I work for a good company. My parents are happy for me. I care about my parents and love them to an extent but not essentially love them like how others do. I do not want to blame it on my parents completely (because they are not bad individuals. I always had food on my plate, had shelter over my head and had clothes to wear). I want to believe that the society was responsible as well. It was the society that they grew up in. The way they raised me somehow reminds me of the way they’ve been raised by their parents.

Thank you if you read my comment till the end. I barely comment. But today I felt like jotting down my emotions. I was tearing up the entire time. I just want to say that I’m proud of myself. I’m sorry if anyone here has faced the same problem.

-VV

[Artisan_Of_Chaos]

The way I would parent would be a balance of humor and seriousness. I would joke with them whenever they are joking. Be open minded to their ideas. That way they would listen to me when I give commands

[mozillakins]

I’m grateful to have had Authoritative parents while they were there. They both worked intense jobs which meant they would have to go abroad a lot and so I had a nanny. But when they were there I never wanted them to go again. This shows how important parenting really is in the development of kids, although I wonder if parenting is partly to do with rising rates of mental health issues?

[Fatima-blcb]

Best thing i've read recently,
forgive your family for not loving you the way you wanted,
then forgive yourself because you searched for love in the wrong places.

[GA-ikpi]

Authoritarian and uninvolved. I remember when I was little and was getting bullied, I told my mum what happened n she made me feel like it was my fault!😒
As I got older, nothing changed. She’ll say things like she’s proud of her kids (3of us), but then she’ll hurl verbal abuse at us.
She’s highly narcissistic, so that combined with the parental style has had an affect on me. I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and slight depression a few years back. I sought CBT therapy, and I don’t take onboard anything my mum says anymore. One time I called her just to tell her I had finally gotten a hospital appointment(I have two neurological conditions), and she just flipped! Literally for no reason at all! Saying how she didn’t want hear what they said, and that if I end up hospital she won’t come b see me etc. i hung up the phone on her 😂. I only called her to let her know, as earlier that week I had chased the hospital. But, this classically her behaviour. It’s alot, n I live at home with my family, so looking now that I need to leave.

[shoobidoo]

I feel like I ended up with the same "problems" kids have with authoritarian parents, but I certainly know mine were never like that, maybe a bit controlling as sometimes needed but never aggressive nor hostile. I feel like my own thoughts and the ones internet brought up on me influenced my development in my childhood and how I behaved.

[chaos]

Honestly a lot of problems adults and teens have today are all mostly from their parents. A lot of things fall in parents hands when they have children so its best to know what to say, what to not say, and avoid physical "discipline". Usually they way parents treat you can reflect on how there parents treated them. No matter who you blame there's always someone else to blame. I think that in the end as long as parents try there best and know that there doing something wrong and actually do something about it that's a damn good parent. In the end we're all just humans trying to get by in life.

[QuothTheRavensSin]

My mother had a permissive parenting style, and because of that, as well as other mental health issues that were never addressed in adolescence, I’m still struggling to be my own adult at 25.

[ClairDeLume]

My dad is a cross between permissive parenting, and authoritative parenting. Meanwhile my mother, is just flat out authoritative. She’s nice, and I love her. But I gotta say, I’m definitely closer with my dad. He’s feels like a friend and a father.

[HufflePuff-vxls]

I feel like my parents were authoritative but a little too invasive and controlling. Like they didn’t think I could handle myself on social media even though when I snuck behind their backs I was fine. I’m still alive and have yet to be kidnapped by a stranger I met on the internet so I think I’m ok

[joban]

I had two parents concerned with having the image of loving parents, but only putting in the words, never the actions. Mix of cold and distant or overbearing. Mix of hyper controlling or being left completely without guidance or structure. Depended on the Bipolar swings of the Borderline parent, mostly.