Dealing With Resentment & Anger – Sadhguru

Dealing With Resentment & Anger – Sadhguru

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Sadhguru answers a question on how one can deal with feelings of resentment and hostility, when one feels they have been wronged or abused.

[jeyanthiramanathan]

Thank you sadhguru I made a change today. I stopped taking the poison and tried to make myself pleasant. And it helped me change my surroundings pleasant too. Thank you once for helping me to make better choices.

[johnignacio]

I needed to hear this so badly right now

[redgemini]

The more outlets the better: talk, exercise, write & even sing. Time will forget the transgressions. focus on your goals! Thinking about it too much is the worst part!

[ujjwalkumar]

simply i love you sir for your every contribution that you have made millions of peoples lives better
i am one of them i am very much thankful to you sir i love you i hope one day i would get a chance to meet you once

[Rlee]

Hatred-anger-resentment act in ways very similar to alcohol. So far it has been impossible to quit both because I still enjoy their effects on me. So choose your excesses wisely.

[joe_]

I believe Sadhguru failed to address the different severalities of resentment. While he seems to have attained a master-level where he can treat an abuser, a coworker, and a spouse all with the same techniques, it leaves lower-level and younger people without a sense practicality.
"How does 'not resenting an abuser' help when I resent my 10 year old for getting all of my spouse's attention?"

Resentment begins with unmet expectations. When we move the responsibility of meeting those expectations (we loosen the expectations or take on the responsibility ourselves) from the person we resent, we can start healing.

The level of speech with that person is also a sliding scale i.e. to a stranger: "can I really not rely on you to use a blinker?", to a coworker: "others are relying on you to get here on time. It's not just your schedule that's affected", to a closely related abuser: "I can't rely on you for love."

The transition of expectations doesn't have to be private. You can tell a neutral 3rd party or the "resentee". Open the dialogue and make genuine efforts to keep it open. The time to "quit giving the person chances", i.e. forgiving a toxic person, will feel natural. Or you'll have "outgrown" the person and the separation will flow more smoothly.

Most importantly tell yourself that this person is not responsible for those expectations anymore. Repeat it to yourself. Soon you'll be an expert at relationships. Platonic relationahips are kept cordial because you don't expect too much from them and romantic ones grow because you little by little give more responsibilities openly (through conversations).

Sorry so long.

[Olduser]

So the question remains, HOW do you release the anger? Telling us not to feel it is counterintuitive.

[sophiearif]

simply love ur motivational talks love n light and 💥❤

[buddingnaturalist]

'It's up to you'. Didn't actually explain how. Great.

[jarvisbinks]

So either be above it already or perish. Great. I’m absolutely doomed.

[AndriCloud]

Fair enough Sadhguru.
For years I've been stupid enough to take the poison with my unconscious choice. How can I remove the poison from my system?

Because if I can't remove the poison then it will definitely hurt me, but it will also hurt my target as well as other unrelated person accidentally

[Mohamed-bmyk]

i wish i have something or know something to get rid of arrogance and resentment in humanity but i didn't know wether this rise from my compassion or my arrogance I'm not innocent

[PPPPSSSSCCCC]

if it becomes too much pleasant, we call it MANIA

[JoseFlores-eyls]

I just want to learn to forgive.. Easy but how do you forgive

[ajayvj]

Namaskaram Sadhguru! But what if he/she is your family member always putting you down and using abusive language in front of others all the time . it's easier said than done. Need a solution to deal with such people.

[meganmarie]

yes but how do you not feel what you are feeling....if you are feeling angry saying dont feel that way doesnt give you anyway to change that, it just makes you feel more powerless and that is where anger comes from is from

[robertimmanuel]

I resent this world because everyone's better than me

[davecash]

I thought we were going to learn what to do about resentment, not just be judged and ridiculed for having it 🤷‍♂️

[shashi_]

For the first statement the question is... What about the person who infused the poison in you which lead to think of them to be hurt back and die...!?!... Is that how it works then?!

[rainmanj]

I can't control my anger I feel it's not my choice