Anger, Resentment and Forgiveness

Anger, Resentment and Forgiveness
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[TVMakeBelive]

Your channel is amongst the most blessed. Thank you, Dan.

[adamrosefire]

Self compassion has been very important in regards to forgiveness for me. I spent so much time, trying to forgive others while unknowingly I was abandoning myself. Forgiveness becomes far more real when I take care of myself first.

[rajbilla]

I think it’s important to feel what you feel, and keep releasing it with self compassion. What you’ve experienced is valid even if you get no apology/closure whatsoever. If you had to educate yourself on what you’ve gone through i.e making the connection of narcissistic abuse and chronic pain, then you can start to heal. Focus on getting your body out of trapped fight/flight etc. because the past is the past, and a new you is trying to surface. A much wiser and stronger person with boundaries in place, and recognising your unmet needs and red 🚩in people. You are the priority. 🕊️🦋✨

Also I read this yesterday “The people who abandoned you, also abandoned themselves”. 💜

[tominnc]

Ive at times been angry at myself for being steamrolled by my parents & others. Trusting, always bieng loyal always saying yes. Im a trustworthy & loyal person- i cant redo the past. You are saying exactly! What my local therapist says: forgive for Tom. Let go

Im 11 months in zoom call now & im so much better. Im about ready for my crown! Ive learned alot thus i still enjoy it

[sandrachisholm]

"Stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry about." Anyone familiar with that beauty?

[TheVaultwest]

In our home, it was, “I’ll give you something to cry about!”

Which meant that any emotion wasn’t okay. It’s no wonder we find ourselves in pain.

I think forgiveness for me is really important. I still have anger toward parents who weren’t there emotionally. They didn’t know how to be because their parents didn’t teach them. And, it goes back for generations. It stops here with those of us doing recovery. Another critical message, thx Dan, and welcome home! 💖

[jeanninegiordan]

I’d love more of these types of videos. I think understanding why the brain perceives certain thoughts and emotions as dangerous is helpful. The WHY of it all. Thank you for dedicating yourself to helping others. It’s so tricky and it’s hard to find anyone in my life that will accept TMS as a diagnosis so I just don’t talk about it. But that also causes anger. The cycle is so so hard. Im glad your here.

[Nonessential]

Thank you Dan. I have anger that I have held for many years that I don’t even think about. Now I can see that it is harmful. I will work on forgiveness. I already feel some relief. Thank you.

[tessinmaxwell]

My best advice about forgiveness is to stop trying to forgive, and let yourself be angry when you are in fact angry. There was a point in my life when I had reason to be very angry at someone and it was a situation that was ongoing. I was religious at the time so there was pressure to forgive and fear and guilt about not forgiving, and I could not forgive by force of will (I don’t think it’s possible). I eventually stopped being religious, admitted that what had happened was wrong and it was appropriate to feel anger, and I let myself be pissed off and rant to a friend when the issue came up. I also started meditating regularly and gradually my nervous system settled down quite a bit, though I still have a ways to go. My anger gradually faded over over this period of time without me thinking about it at all. I still don’t like what happened and when I take the time to think about it, i can still get a little pissed, but it is not intrusive (it takes effort to bother to think about it). I wouldn’t even necessarily say I’ve forgiven, just that I care less about it and the anger is kind of exhausted. So yes, intentionally holding grudges or feeding rage doesn’t help, but I personally think forgiveness is often overrated and to have it as a goal can be counterproductive.

[Inge]

Most of us can relate to hurtful experiences.. it’s called life.
I was not good in forgiving, but I realized I kept myself stuck in the past !
Like you say Dan, those who hurt us just go on living their lives happy or artificially happy..
It’s me who became chronically I’ll, not them..
Injustice is a big one for me too!
But feeling that all the time keeps you stuck as well..
I don’t want to stay stuck in that past, I am worthy of a better future ❤


Very inspiring insightful words Dan!
Thank you 🙏
I wonder if disappointment in some people is allowed ?
I’m trying to get to light version of disappointment, but not sure if I can get rid of that feeling / state completely..
Have a good day, Dan and everyone !
🤗🌻🌻🌻

[LilyOscar]

Morning Dan you look very happy and refreshed after your break. Yes I have felt anger, resentment etc on hurts I received during my life. But thankfully I have now forgiven them as I have come to realise they are the ones with the problem not me. The hardest part was forgiving myself for hurting my back! But with the help of a therapist I have let it go.. Thank you for excellent teaching. 🙏 How is Finn ? I bet he missed you. 🐈‍⬛

[maryanderson]

You hit the nail on the head! Ruminating is horrible and hurts only the person engaging in it! I forgave someone for myself and after I did it went on to have an incredible relationship with that person!

[yaamas]

Thank you dear brother, this was for me...all of it. I love you Dan, welcome home!

[Lenneke-bt]

Hi Dan well painful emotions plenty. Now full on with grief and am very nervous because on this Wednesday i am going to scatter Corine's ash. She didn't have a funeral because she didn't want to so this ceremony on Wednesday is the final goodbye. I have never done this before so ver very nervous. I walked in the dunes and talked to Corine. Helped but sooo nervous. Cried already a lot this morning. I had some good days lately as you can read in my comments. Forgiveness i do for myself... I forgave many people and the ones i could not forgive myself i left them to the so called karma. I strongly believe in karma. By the way you look great! Ok love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me see you all tomorrow 😘😘😘

[monishareddy]

Thanks Dan - it was perfect timing. i have been holding on to anger and ruminating about something my Dad did and like you said the person you areangry against is happily living their life . I guess I have to try to forgive

[sallyfoley]

Thank you so much Dan, this was incredibly relevant to my present situation. I am currently sorting out the mess my 91year old mother is in, on both practical and financial levels, so that she can stay in her home as long as possible. My mother neglected me as a child and offloaded my care as much as was possible. My narcissistic sister was her preferred daughter, even though she has taken all of my mother's savings (with my mother's consent) and now has dropped all contact with her. My mother is very grateful that I have picked up the baton, but there us a lot of bad history there that is too bizarre and lengthy to go into here. I have very mixed emotions over this present situation, so this was the missing link I needed at this time. I have found your videos extremely helpful in dialling down post operative foot pain Everything you say makes so much sense. Thank you so much.

[cindybrown]

Excellent Dan, thank you once again. Nothing to add, as this is full of truth and wisdom. 💚

[massagepublications]

Welcome home Dan! You look so rested and healthy. I’m so glad you gave yourself that gift. This is an important topic and right now to be honest, I’m having a horrible flareup or extinction burst, I don’t know which, and it doesn’t matter. Doing well then out of nowhere a huge spike. I feel intense rage at my symptoms. A friend of mine said I need to forgive my symptoms. I don’t even know how to begin to do that. Before I went to bed last night, I listened to your crashing waves video and it helped a lot. Will light a candle for all of us today - the light that guides us. ❤❤

[MissDoreen]

I highly recommend meditating with the ancient Hawaiian prayer Ho’ O Pono Pono prayer of forgiveness 😊 Give it a try it amazing and it works beautifully The prayer is . Say in your mind or out loud. Breathe in and breathe out while repeating this powerful prayer of forgiveness # 1 I love you #2 I’m sorry #3 Please forgive me #4 Thank you 🙏🏽 I truly hope this helps to whom ever this prayer resonates with 😊 Mahalo 🤙🏽♥️☺️

[ruthie]

Thank you, Dan, for what you called your ramble but to me was a beautiful and important message from your own experiences and from the heart. I agree so much.