How to Forgive Toxic Family (and Still Cut Them Off)

Can you forgive toxic family and still cut them off? That's the question we answer in today's video.

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[curtistinemiller]

You are allowed to terminate your relationships with Toxic family members, You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you, You don't owe an explanation to anyone for taking care of yourself ....

[maryblushes]

I forgive her, but I will never forget the evils she has done me.

I "shake the dust off my feet" at her and leave herto God!

[PhanTimo]

Thank you for this. My mental health has significantly improved in the absence of a toxic family member.

[betanialacoste]

Forgiveness just means we stop wishing for ultimate revenge...

[giovanniamadorrosales]

I just learn to love people from a distance and not interact with them so that way they're toxic Behavior won't rub off on me. Or their toxic Behavior won't ruin my day. Despite even if they are family members.

[noturningback]

"Did you think I came to bring PEACE? I did NOT come with to bring peace but a SWORD, and I have come to turn a daughter against her mother and a mother against her daughter...a man's enemies will be the members of his own family." Who said that? JESUS!!!

[Godlywoman]

I used to intertwine forgiveness and reconciliation too. It kept getting me ran over and hurt. And yes, toxic people demand to be close to you. Mybsister was abusive but never understood why I kept her at arm's length. I eventually cut all my immediate family off. A primary source of guilt for me came from, "Who's going to take care of my parents (I was family caretaker)?"

I had to really pray about that. The Lord revealed that the guilt comes from the enemy b/c he wants to keep us bound. With prayer, inner work, and time, the guilt subsided. I was very codependent when I left.

[elenifotopoulou]

It's sad just because the hold the title 'Parents' they think they are entitled to treat you like you don't exist only when they want you to attend to their events or help them but they never have time for you and it has to be on their terms, that's not love and is based on their conditions and take advantage the fact that they are your parents and hold that title over you but they don't care about your needs or you can't even have a voice or you are walking on eggshells and if you do speak up to how wrong they are treating you they play the victim and start smear campaigns with other family members etc.

[tobyharbuck]

I'm speechless...you just spoke into the very details of my situation with my mom. I feel guilty for cutting off the relationship because I feel I might be the only way she'll hear or see the gospel. But her toxicity is life draining. You are definitely filled with the Holy Spirit and guided by him. Best advice I have been given in my situation. Thank you for taking the time to pour into others lives.

[cazhickling]

I believe when a person has narcissistic parents your angels protect you more and bring you to the truth 🇬🇧💐

[sheilaregal]

It's true. My sister drove me to the edge of my sanity and the brink of death with her dogmatic gaslighting. It was demonic and downright diabolical. I don't have hard feelings. I still pray for her and will be generous on her birthday and Christmas. We don't talk on the phone anymore due to the toxicity. It's best this way and so liberating.

[sassytk]

I decided to keep my distance from some family members for my mental health. And my life has been peaceful since then. 😊

[HomeFrendsten]

My mom acts in such a way that I have done bad to her and others do not know the way she misbehaved or degraded me everytime she is often suspescious and envious of me and I can't concentrate in my work she also has given me low self esteem and confidence

[lovebutterfly]

Wow Kris great answer. I have a very toxic family, two years of not talking, I forgave them. I allowed them back in my life and thought it would be different, however nothing changed. All it was doing was, is them keeping me in a dark hole, and negative energy. I love them, I forgive you, but I need positive energy to follow my journey with the Lord.

[jannaarcheta]

Being Christian, having to forgive others as we have been forgiven by the Lord, was something very hard for me to do. People who knew I was Christian and disregarded or abused me would take my forgiveness for granted. It's as you said, just because you forgive others doesn't mean they get to keep your trust and violate it.

[vikkicarr]

My mother and adult son are toxic on all levels! I’ve been battling cancer for 10 years. I also became a widow 3 years ago. They could care less about my health or pain. I want to just get away from them period! I have forgiven them, However l don’t want to reconcile. I pray the Lord allow me to move to another state. Please pray for my strength in the Lord!

[kme]

forgiveness and trust are VERY different things. Oooh yeah 💯

[YahToldMe]

This is exactly what I was looking for. I didn't know how God may feel about me going no contact with my narc mom. He has given me dreams of her physically attacking me and I got the revelation that our spirits are NOT in agreement. I have to cut her off and allow God to work on her. Love her from a distance. She continues to disturb the peace of God in my life and attempt to stunt my mental health journey. New sub!

[susandumbill]

If they're making you seriously ill, mentally &/or physically, & you've done all you can, it might be time to stop contact. Leave them in God's hands & pray for them. Can be liberating. Christian counseling can be helpful too. Forgiveness doesn't mean you should allow others to play with you or kick you around. Learning to live as an adult is a wonderful thing. You can live independently.