Mastering the Art of Conversation: Tips and Tricks for Better Communication | Jamila Musayeva

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Mastering the Art of Conversation: Tips and Tricks for Better Communication | In this video, I share 10 tips on how to become a better conversationalist in particular how to master one of the most important social skills- handling an informal conversation.

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One tip that I got that I've always found helpful is to make confirming statements or questions. For example, if someone tells you a story, in a pause, you say something like, "So you were upset because they wouldn't listen." And they'll usually go "Yes! Exactly!" and then go on with their story, usually with renewed happiness and energy, b/c they feel heard and understood. It helps with active listening, and I feel rewarded when they're like "yes, you get me!" Plus, usually, most decent people will want to return the favor and will ask questions about yourself. Invest in them first and they will invest in you.

[Rosula_D]

Wow, the "here I am" versus "there you are" is such an easy way to understand this! It really showcases the energy some people carry.

[jessicas]

2:59 (1) Small Talk Starts with "Hello"
3:10 Who Greets Whom
4:34 (2) Exchange Names
6:51 (3) Keep It Light
7:39 (4) Choose the Topic Smartly
9:17 (5) Make a Dialog, Not a Monolog
10:39 (6) Be Interested; Not Just Interesting
11:54 (7) Ask Open Ended Questions
15:36 (8) Be Specific with Your Answers
19:24 (9) Be an Active Listener
20:32 "SOFTEN" Acronym
22:00 (10) Know What Small Talk Means in Different Cultures

[NicoleCB]

I never liked small talk. But now that I know that it's an opportunity to get to understand a person's conversational style, it makes so much sense to me, and I can't wait to have a small talk now. Also I'm one of those people that kills the momentum of a conversation by letting people know that I've already seen or heard what they are saying. Now I know better! Thank you so much, Ms. Jamila!

[shapursasan]

She just oozes “etiquette” from every cell of her body!

[jukeldups]

German here: I totally agree with everything you've said, especially about culture. We in Germany don't enjoy empty talk and I often get very confused if not frustrated by exchange students from different cultures. When I get asked how I am, I answer honestly, it isn't just an empty phrase in Germany. People from the US for example tend to be a bit taken back by this honest answer and don't know how to continue the conversation.
Mind you, I'm not talking about any serious or personal problems, but I'll answer with my honest feelings. I even experienced that the person asking me was obviously not interested in an answer - any answer. That was very rude. I'm not the best at small talk, but if I ask someone a question, I look at them and acknoledge their answer. Especially since I was the one initiating the conversation in that situation.

[deependcuration]

Bartenders will know about keeping creative follow up questions up our sleeves. With the right amount of practice, and an ability to improvise a bit too, you'd be surprised at how simply you can impact the group of people at your bar's mood and aura.

[bernadettemarayag]

Thank you Jamila for this video. As an 18-year-old lady, I want to level up my conversation skills and your video came perfectly on time. And I remember this quote from the book that I read by Dale Carnegie, "to be interesting is to be interested."

[julieb]

Different ethnic groups and regions in America have their own rules for small talk. As a New Yorker, I have to navigate so many because typically, everyone is from somewhere else. I’ve found that for people born in the U.S., their propensity for and style of small talk can reflect both their ethnic background and the city/state in which they reside. And then immigrants and visitors have their own differences. I feel like participating in small talk, especially in NYC, requires a sixth sense.

[iados]

Beautiful video!
I would loved you to expand a little info about finishing a conversation, leaving small talk because someone else you were waiting arrived, in a polite way…

[Lisa-spif]

And amen on number six! Be an interested person not just interesting. That is perfect!

[supermichaelssecondchannel]

Aaa there you are I’m sure is what people prefer because people enjoy talking about themselves for the most part.

[deathbrry]

I like this part 2:17 smol talk is not about showing your knowledge on a topic, its showing who you are as a person

[momoblood]

The key to let go is knowing that everyone wants to get to know other persons, and never doing what we wouldn't want to be done, small talk is great to share kindness in a subtle way :)

[gordo]

11:00
and people who try to sneak into the room unnoticed

[sonerithageises]

"There you are", something I'll definitely strive for in my daily interactions. Because nowadays everyone is more interested in what you have to offor instead of who you are. And personally, I would like to have conversations where they are the interest and not me.

[PhilosophyWithLilly]

This is great. It irks me when people say "I hate small talk, it's pointless" but its actually so critical. Thanks for the tips!

[elissafahedghawi]

Please elaborate further on small talks for introverts ❤️

[roxrou]

I’m starting a new job Monday, this couldn’t have come at a better time!! Small talk has always been my nemesis