Addressing FEMALE DISRESPECT: why this is essential to relationship success

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What most people don't understand is that disrespect is a process. The best predictor of overt disrespect is covert disrespect. And this is why it is important to address disrespectful behavior while it is still in its nascent form. Failing to do so will jeopardize your relationship, primarily due to the fact that it is not possible for a woman to love a man she does not respect. I will discuss further in this episode.

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[psychacks]

What most people don't understand is that disrespect is a process. The best predictor of overt disrespect is covert disrespect. And this is why it is important to address disrespectful behavior while it is still in its nascent form. Failing to do so will jeopardize your relationship, primarily due to the fact that it is not possible for a woman to love a man she does not respect. I will discuss further in this episode.

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#respect #women #relationship

[jcnlaw]

Experienced divorce lawyer here. Pro tip to keep you out of my office: if you are disrespected by a woman, RUN. Do not marry. It never gets better. Once you are married, it could be painfully expensive to divorce a nasty, disrespectful woman. Also, learn about narcissistic abuse. You can thank me later.

[TravelsoftheCat]

There was a girl I was in a relationship with. She asked to borrow a power bank. I lent it to her with a small pouch, instructing her to keep it inside to protect it from unnecessary dings and scratches, as she likes to throw keys, make up, pens, and everything else together inside her bags. When she returned it to me separately from the pouch, it was completely scratched up. She said she didn't want to use the pouch, which was of black cloth, thin, and lightweight with a drawstring. I asked her why she didn't keep it in the pouch so this wouldn't happen. She replied that she doesn't care with her things getting damaged. I reminded her the power bank is mine, not hers, and that I work hard to have the things that I have and want to maintain them as much as possible. She flipped it and said it's sad I define myself with the things that I have. I knew right then and that she was on the way out, because the power bank did not matter; it was the fact that she did not respect my wishes and therefore does not respect me.

[Steve]

If a woman disrespects you, let her know you don't like it. If she gives you a hard time about it, or if she does it again, just leave her. It won't get any better.

[michaelhellerslien]

"Women can't love a man that they don't respect." Remember that brothers.

[SaceedAbul]

My left ear learned a lot today.

But yeah. It’s true. If a chick disrespects you. That’s the death of the relationship

[POPJack]

My ex once called me "dummy" in what I guess she thought was joking in front of the car salesman while he was explaining how the new car worked. I stopped everything I was doing with him, looked her dead in the eyes and told her straight up, "Don't ever call me that again." She got the hint.

[idesel]

A woman who disrespects you doesn't love you. And if you have kids, they pick up on this disrespect and join the disrespect bandwagon.

[manuelcastillo]

I said the same thing to my soon to be ex-wife, "You don't talk to your boss that way, you don't talk that way to your co-workers, you don't talk that way to your friends. Why do you think that you can talk to your husband that way?". She never got it. She continued to disrespect me. I served her divorce papers.

[munequa]

As a woman, one of the most important pieces of advice my father shared was that if there is no respect, there is no relationship. I was raised to conduct myself with class and treat others with basic decency and respect, but not tolerate disrespect when I’m faced with it. Women who are disrespectful towards their partners grew up in homes where there was no respect demonstrated in the family.

I’ve seen men get disrespected by their wives in broad daylight. I once worked for a husband and wife team where I was skilled in something they didn’t know, and the wife wasted no time making her husband feel stupid for not knowing equipment that I knew because I had prior training.

I’ve gone on couples dates where the wife was disrespectful to the husband. Husband and I vowed to never vacation with them.

[trzmdpath]

Once upon a time, an adult female in her fifties and I were chatting at a club meeting. At that time I was a man in my thirties practicing diagnostic medicine. Her husband was a very important elected officer in our local county government. In my presence, she disparaged how little money he made. I was so shocked that I immediately ended the conversation. I have learned that many females are NEVER satisfied with anything that any man ever does for them!

[modickens]

Covert disrespect by women usually is most common in passive aggressive behaviors. The " I forgot's" or " I didn't realize " or gaslighting to make you believe you're making a mountain out of a molehill for a legitimate complaint. In my experience if it's not nipped in the bud ( and sometimes it will be necessary to leave to do that) what will usually occur is the man will start to have a brooding resentment of the woman. And as Freud said about unexpressed emotions never going away and just coming forth in uglier ways, this will usually cause the man to be overt in his reprimands and comments. Believe it or not, this was the womans goal. Because it simultaneously allows her to leverage your " monstrous " temper as an issue, while also getting to play victim. The best solution is to leave. If a woman doesn't respect you, she most likely never will, and if she does, only under duress. And then your implied demand for respect will breed resentment in her, and magnify her passive aggressive behavior. Its basically a circle of dysfunction. Only solution is to leave. When a woman respects you as a person you could be drunk in an alley and though she may pity you, worry, she won't disrespect you. If she doesn't respect you, she'll be ungrateful by the pool in your mansion.

[victordragos]

Totally agree. I let my ex with tons of disrespectful actions, thinking that she'll realize one day she would be wrong. WRONG! She left.
The other days, I went out with a woman. Wee agreed to a first meeting at a certain day and hour. She postponed it for a silly reason. I accepted, just because I knew her. After the first meeting, who went pretty well, she invited me to movies. I agreed. Few hours before the movie begins, I call her to confirm. She said she is not sure, but she would try hard to come and she will let me know a little later. I told her not to come anymore. She was a smart and very attractive woman, but when I see these red flags, I don't care. It's better to have discovered them early.

[anonmouse]

I once had to spend a night in jail in a dangerous neighborhood because of a false accusation. The police knew I was innocent. Before they sent me in they told me, "Don't look at anyone, but don't look at the ground. If someone fights with you, FIGHT BACK." This is how you have to act around people who behave like animals.

[simoncameron]

I address the disrespect on an almost DAILY basis. I get so tired of doing it, I'm ready to just give up. Its like I have to explain it to a 5 year old over and OVER and OVER.

[ScheenNierSteen]

Dated a girl that rolled her eyes at me when I would adress issues. I warned her once, warned her twice. She did it again and she was single.

Looking back there were a lot more red flags.

[jasoncarter]

The best predictor of overt disrespect from a wife is how weak the husband is to put up with that kind of sh!t over time. After my first 9 year marriage experience, I learned to never allow any woman I was in a relationship to ever disrespect me, even a little. My second marriage is so much better. 15 years, 5 kids, and a wife that has gratitude and respect. I’d much rather have a woman’s respect than any feelings of being in love with me.

[edwardyoutube]

Disrespect can never be tolerated in a relationship. It gets only worse.

[solarchos]

Absolutely valid because I experienced this myself years ago.

Covert disrespect becomes OVERT disrespect.
Overt disrespect becomes overt ANTAGONISM.
Overt antagonism becomes active ABUSE.
That abuse can be devastating.

Stop that cycle by any means necessary.
_By any means necessary_

[phillipcotton]

A tough lesson I've learned is that playing the role of Peacemaker is ( subconsciously) an act of sabotage to a relationship. You MUST be prepared to address, and check all forms of disrespect. By letting it "slide" to avoid conflict, the seed of resentment is planted. In a