What is trauma dumping and why do we do it? #trauma #ptsd #mentalhealth

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[kimlec]

When a person is overwhelmed, they either cannot speak or speak too much...so many are alone in this world, handling all the upsets privately...it is human to let it all out sometimes. Traumatizing events are real & frequent in many people's lives...if someone shares the upset with you, somehow they are trusting in you.

[pandoraalberts]

Yes, very real. I did this once with someone I trusted as being a friend and more receptive to confidential information than she actually was. I didn't expect sympathy or even much comment, but actually what happened was that she has avoided me ever since.

[AFFTFOMSICHTS]

My coworkers do this all the time and it drives me insane!!

[TheForestgrl]

Society ignores people who are suffering with trauma. People don't want to know because they don't want to upset their lives or get emotionally involved.

[xxTheMouseThatRoaredxx]

I called it "leaking". I start leaking trauma info at the worst times.

[Sarahew]

I’ve had customers do this to me on several occasions; I have heard of trauma dumping before but never put two and two together that that was what it was. I always try to be respectful and usually just let the person say what they need to say but sometimes it’s difficult when I’m just trying to do my job.

[QurVgn]

I do this - and it Does push people away! People seem to be focusing on the term not being fair to folx with trauma, but for me my goal is to stop making people run away. My dumping scares them. So regardless of whether I think it’s fair or not, I need to stop doing it….because I want people in my life. 🤷‍♀️

[louiseerbslisbjerg]

It happens because traumatized people are often very lonely. Alone and not accepted, even by their closest friends and family.

One if the things you need is to TALK! Not just with therapists but also with people we know. A therapist can not give care, love or comfort. They listen snd do professionel work but it's not the same.
Trauma dumping often happens when ut's been b8ttled up for do long, that one person, even if a stranger, says something that is a trigger and it all spills.

Personally I've called a certain hotline several times. Because they just listen. And I have no-one else who will.

[carlylawrence]

i wish there was a suggestion for a better way to manage it

[ZehShugugn]

I've had to be the friend who listens to constant trauma dumps or complaints. It was draining being around them, constantly trying to listen and give empathy. It was emotional labor, and most of the time, not reciprocated. I'm at a point in my life where if someone just dumps on me without invitation or warning, I make a note to stay away from them for my own mental health.

[CJ-uocl]

We have a couple schizophrenic people in our building. They have both real past trauma plus hallucinated trauma. As a currently traumatized person I avoid these people. One of them likes to trap you into these dumps and I verbally shut them down. I literally say "No. Stop. I don't want to hear this. I am going through trauma and I am not your therapist." They are shocked and angry but I see others nodding, like, "I wish I had done that." Having someone dump their trauma on you, especially extreme trauma with no invitation is like getting a bucket of blood poured on you.

[marryakhaleel]

I am going through severe trauma, my life changes utterly ! I lost many things, i can't speak well, i can't socialize people, i can't look at people eyes, sometimes my face shakes as i get syndrome tourette but what get the matter worse is that how people treat me they are hurting me a lot , they left me, blaming me, .... i am in taugh pain i wish i could overcome all the trouble because i am really done!

[tonymintz]

I know from my end, it’s usually because there’s a moment of security that I feel, and I have to hear it out for myself and see the reaction of the person. Often, it’s less about the person, and more to find the reason for the thing right then and there in an almost “now or never” type of urgency.

[jenn]

People need to understand that if someone trauma dumbs then they don’t have other people to reach out to and they try to reach out to the people they trust the most. Trauma in general is very real and needs to be taken more seriously these days.

[georgepalmer]

I think bartenders get a lot of trauma dumping. I wonder how they feel about it.

[nataliehelmig]

I think I do that sometimes and I also seem to have one of those faces where others seem to dump on me too and it's awkward because I'm not a mental health professional and never know what to say.

[thestrugglingoptimist]

I noticed that I trauma dump more on my friends when I'm not able to go to therapy. I know I need therapy because it helps me process the shit I've lived through. But it's so expensive.

[stvn]

i get it but the term sounds irritatingly perjorative/dismissive for people who may have been forced into survival mode by abusive situations etc

[ToddAutry]

Your videos are a great help to me. ❤. Thank you Kati.

[shamanic_nostalgia]

I struggle with this, i have like several years where i was heavily addicted to drugs, in and out of jail and rehab... I often feel like I can't talk about this to anyone so i have these random moments where i will do this because it feels like there are years of my life people don't really know about and sometimes the pressure of it bursts over