Trauma Dumping Culture On TikTok Has Gone Too Far...

Trauma Dumping Culture On TikTok Has Gone Too Far... | Today we're deep diving into trauma dumping culture on the internet, mean world syndrome, whataboutism & how all of it is making gen z the most lonely and isolated generation yet.

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[millia_honey]

I feel like trauma dumping can be so harmful because, you never know someone else's mental state which can be so dangerous

[nmiller]

I will never forget that one woman on Twitter who tweeted out "I love spending the mornings with my husband in my garden. We drink coffee together and are in love :)" and all of the responses were like "WOW I cant believe youd tweet something so insensitive. I cant relax in the morning because I need to work 24/7 to survive and my ex-husband was abusive to me so youve ruined my day and are a terrible person for tweeting this."

[Egh]

Girl- 💀✋🏻you'll never catch me putting my "mental breakdown" shaking convulsively like that on the internet

[anonymouspotato]

I feel like trauma dumping has caused people to develop victim complexes

[buffunicorn]

i think social media just has desensitized us to what REAL trauma is…one of my siblings said our dad making us drink milk as children was traumatic and i looked at her in disbelief as this is what our generation thinks trauma is.

[trinityharris]

I work at a Dairy Queen, and the amount of times a customer has unleashed their deepest, most depressing issues to me it’s insane. I have this one regular who tells me EVERYTIME she sees me, about how awful she is doing. Whenever I try to give advice or be nice, she just KEEPS trauma dumping. It’s exhausting, it’s to the point where I actually hide now when she comes in because it kills my mood 😅

[TaylorX]

I remember commenting on that Starbucks video saying that would ruin my whole day and someone said "I think there's something is wrong with you if just hearing about someone's tragedy ruins your whole day. You lack empathy." As a former customer service rep for Walmart the returns line is not a therapy session.

[gabimaza]

That’s really disturbing to see what that woman did to that Starbucks worker… she needs actual help.

[jeni]

I met a girl at the beginning of the year in one of my classes (I couldn’t escape because it was walking class and we all walk together) who all day everyday would just talk about how she had a shitty childhood, her boyfriend cheated on her, she was insecure, she was raped, she had sexual trauma, she used to be addicted to drugs, she tried to kill herself, she self harmed all the time, etc. I would come out of those classes so fucking drained and exhausted and hadn’t even said a word. One single time I commented on how I was depressed when my grandma had died for a long time afterwards and she said “you weren’t depressed. You were just really sad. There’s a difference.” Spending an hour a day with this girl fucking damaged me. Everytime I feel sad about something I feel like it’s not valid because it’s not extreme trauma. If this girl sounds like you or someone you know, you need to check yourself because you can fucking damage people by doing this.

[alyshaking]

That line "just because you encounter hardship does not mean you are traumatised". My 12yo is so often exposed to this trauma dump culture that they equate everything difficult or upsetting with "traumatising"

[ks]

There’s a difference between discussing trauma and trauma dumping.

Trauma Dumping: Inappropriately complaining about your feelings and problems, chasing sympathy and attention with no intention of trying to help yourself.

Discussing Trauma: Talking about something you’ve gone through/going through in an attempt to understand, relate to or help someone (including yourself) in an appropriate manner.

It’s ok to talk about struggles but like….right time, right place, right listener ya know? Common sense, people.

[bruja_cat]

I hate how people treat TikTok like research or as a replacement for therapy. People are ruining friendships/relationships by psychoanalyzing everyone. Also thinking mental illnesses as “quirky”

[MichellaneousMe]

I didn’t realize how bad trauma dumping got until I went to checkout some groceries a few days ago. The cashier asked how I was doing today and I jokingly said I’m great no trauma dumping here! And I saw them sigh from relief and relax their shoulders. I asked if people dumping their problems was common. They told me it’s easier to count the people who don’t and thanked me for not contributing. Definitely an eye opener

[iantaggart]

It's not that privacy doesn't exist anymore. It's that people don't seem to want to keep anything private anymore.

[shannonchristian]

Brene Brown talks about this problem in many of her books on authentic vulnerability and emotional intimacy. Her conclusion on the trauma dump is that yes, its inherently selfish because the dumper is trying to get the benefits of real emotional intimacy without doing any of the labor of being authentically vulnerable. She calls it the smash and grab tactic.

[HJ-juui]

We really need to fight this hyperindependent and hyperindividualistic culture. I constantly see people online fighting for it and its so weird? Like why would you fight for your own misery? We as humans like it or not are social creatures and we need community.

[lexye.]

As a mental health student, this video is absolutely necessary. People are normalising mental health problems. Words lose their meaning. I hear people calling each names in a playful way and with a normality that it really doesn't seem ok. One I hear a lot, in my country is adolescents calling each other "autists" just... Because.

[moonchild]

"I love my mental illness" is telling me you don't have any.
I do and I hate it. It makes me so angry how especially my illness is so romanticized

[JustAr]

The clip of the girls saying “I love my mental disorders, my mental disorders are me!”

They don’t understand how tiring and miserable it is. It’s so triggering when so many people try to be “relatable” for attention, negating from people who genuinely suffer— you’re taking away help from people who actually need it.

[julianajordon]

As someone with diagnosed PTSD, I would give anything to not have trauma. I really hate that it’s become a trend to have trauma and any mental illness for that matter.

Reducing stigma and talking about mental health can be done without making it the newest trend.