Trauma dumping: The foundation of a toxic and unhealthy friendship/ relationship

#Trauma #friendship #Relationships #Victimmentality In the video I speak on when a foundation of a friendship/ relationship is built on trauma dumping, The effects it has on the person receiving the trauma dumping and actions to stop this from happening again.

[llCakes]

This video made me feel so much better to know I’m not being a terrible human being for cutting someone off. I blocked the person a couple months ago and they texted me today with a new number. Well guess what I did? … BLOCK again! I refuse to allow someone to weasel into my life only to dump their problems and mask it as friendship. Big red flag when they tell you personal long winded stories of the chaos in their life when they barely know you. I studied psychology in college, but there’s a reason I didn’t go the counseling route. I’m not built for helping people through big life crises. I refuse to let random people turn me into their Christ savior because I’m a decent human being.

[RoseWilson]

No one is obliged to be someones 24/7 counsellor and therapist when they won't take accountability for their behavior and actions.... Detach yourself from anyone that treats you like that. They need professional help and they disrespect you and your boundaries ❤

[evangelistesther.o]

This is like a sermon in itself!! Many of us good hearted Christian’s need to take note cause people need to give us grace too we are humans too. Thanks for this girl 👏🏽 God bless

[luna_soleil]

My roommates in a nutshell... They knew each other first then i came in... When i "interviewed" with them they stressed how important mental health is and being able to discuss it openly -- cool np i have my fair share of issues too. But that is the *only* thing they ever want to talk about. Their negativity and negative experiences and how everyone around them is always doing them wrong. I dont have the patience or energy for it. Why cant we do nice things or talk about nice things? Why is your life a permanent wreck? Then its even worst when their issues are self inflicted because they show a pattern of behavior, but they expect my sympathy. Like girl please can we talk about puppies or something I'm not trying to hear about your generational trauma for the 5th time today. Then she wonders why she doesnt have friends, girl.

Edit: you said be on the look out to see of theyre doing things to heal and get better. My roommate is a THERAPIST, been working as one for a year. She has her masters 😭 She also purposely got into a toxic relationship so she could be miserable since me and my third roommate were going thru a break up and she didnt want to be left out.

Yall need to be checking on your mental health professionals frfr

[FYPNLP]

This is a great video. I actually ended a 14 year 'friendship' due to this on Tuesday. As a person on the receiving end it is exhausting. I think it's a form of emotional abuse because it causes you psychological trauma as it over steps your personal boundaries and emotions well being as it's so insidious and toxic. It's fundamentally a parasitic. Love and support your friends in tough times but never be their free therapist for extended periods of time - they need to speak to a therapist. If they don't seek therapy - start making your escape plan. Also, take a moment to look at yourself and your own trauma that could have fed into that negative dynamic. If you phone rings and you go 'oh god it's X again..' it's time to start exiting that friend ship. You will be a lot happier when you do.

[lifewithalpharoyce]

As someone that has been trauma dumped on, I felt this... To the point where the friend got angry when I was in a deep depression and couldn't support her like I usually would.

That opened my eyes.

[daniela_k]

It is very difficult to have a healthy friendship with people who do not work on their own development. People who on the outside appear to have the situation under control but lack a spiritual compass.
I am looking for new friends and have met some women my age and I clearly notice the reluctance to do the hard work that development requires. They want someone to whom they can dump their traumas of failed relationships with men.
I just want to have fun with nice company sometimes. If this develops into a healthy friendship, that's just great! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[sispeepgame]

Yes!!! I always say this to people and they don’t get it. Everything you mentioned in this video is the TRUTH. People who trauma dump are disordered and disrespectful and if you’re not a doormat you will become the villain in their life story. They do not know that you’re empathetic, they do it to EVERYONE, you’re actually projecting your thoughts about yourself on them. When you meet someone and they tell you their life story, disconnect. Don’t say why you’re not available because they will try to guilt you, just go. Excellent video.

[BigredAB]

I’m a 63 year old white guy. The last thing I would ever watch is a young woman trying to tell me how to act I come across this video by accident and I cannot stop watching everything. This young lady says it’s true it’s like I just heard a new song that is the best song ever, this young lady is unbelievable she’s my new YouTube best friend

[natapolkhamwatanapunt]

I used to be this kind of friend who dumped my trauma on my best friend. I was raised from a very toxic, abusive and violent family therefore I hopelessly looked out for this specific type of person to take all the trauma pain out of me. Little did i know that it was truly wrong to dump your emotional baggage on someone else. I learned this in a hard way as my best friend left me. I blamed her at first but after i learned to become into self and inner development, I understand her now. Your video spits all the fact and reality-check. Hope your video continues to help more people like me.

[GoetheandFro]

"Are they too comfortable in their victim mentality?" < < < YES!!

[SO-xivm]

I feel so validated by this video …I feel so many things that i can’t explain but through this video I know what I’m feeling is not in my head …..😭😭 I am the therapist friend but I am so exhausted 😭finally got the courage to talk to my friend about it but she her response is so selfish and I was gaslight …

At this point I’ve had enough !!

[aFrugalFairy]

brene brown calls this "floodlighting" which i think is a much kinder /compassionate response to when someone trauma dumps. i've wanted to make my own video on it as someone who overshares due to severe anxiety/cptsd. we trauma dump because we've been through something traumatic, i promise it's not always manipulative. ever since the word trauma dump became popular, i heard it back in 2021 i think, i became much more privey to who i share my story to. truth is, not everyone deservers to hear your story.

[annamaegold]

This is so true and so timely for me right now. It's a 100 % match with a recent "friendship". Trauma dump. Brilliant. It's a way to get supply: attention and sympathy. Endless pity panties 🎉😂. Thank you so much for this video. 💖

[Rosco_]

Im now choosing to distance myself from this "friend" who constantly trauma dumps on me.. he always talks about how awful his mother is and everytime he says something negative he makes the excuse that that's how he was raised. He turns everything into something negative.. everything is always negative... im seeing him for what he really is, a negative energy draining vampire... oh and the disrespect! A few times he's hung up the phone on me while we were in mid conversation! I asked him why he keeps hanging up and the last thing he said was his mother called him which i know is not true as he doesn't really get along with her. He is constantly talking about how awful women are and bla bla bla bla 😒 Total toxic narsacist... anyhow im done... and this time for real

[masase]

I'm glad I'm not a friend therapist anymore

[icanthelpit]

Literally THANK YOU for talking about this.
I had a “friend” who would trauma dump on me and my sister all the time. I eventually cut them off, but my sister didn’t. Thankfully she stopped talking to that person after they INVALIDATED her struggles when she opened up🤦🏻‍♀️

[Its_like_the_T-Rex]

I have a random neighbor who has been emotionally dumping on me for YEARS regarding his marriage and now divorce. He FINALLY asked me what my NAME was last week. I've actually hid behind bushes if I see him walking down the street to avoid talking to him.

[fleuve]

This is the therapy session I needed...

[allglammedup]

As soon as you tell them the TRUTH, you become the bad one. Im learning to stop allowing them to come to me with their foolishness! There is no point to keep listening to their stories of their self inflicted problems if they have no intention to change!