Cutting Off Toxic Parents.

[PeriwinkleB]

Right, we don’t WANT to cut them off but we’re left with no choice. No child leaves a relationship with their parents for “no reason.” And we don’t owe anyone an explanation when we are the ones that got hurt. Being a parent doesn’t give you the right to someone’s connection, especially if you abused said person 💯

[hayden]

When you stop seeing you’re parents as your parents and start seeing them as people, you realize you would never tolerate that behavior from anyone else.

[Staticbrain]

Sometimed they are just kinda crazy and you need stable people around you to feel at ease. Do what is healthy for YOU.

[ArgentoFan]

Having children doesn't mean you'll be a good parent.

[ruthieyiu]

I loved my mom from a distance it definitely worked for me….. I do not mess with people who energy would bring me down…. I do not feel guilty

[kasager]

Thank you for sharing this. Your story is identical to what I am facing right now!
Sometimes I believe my mother’s behavior is a resentment for having me. Regardless the reason, I’ve had enough of this behavior.
My family, particularly, feels it’s a license to behave this way…
I’ve recently adopted the perception that my brother, mother, sister are just titles given..Until you can act like a mother, brother or sister there’s really no need to acknowledge you as such!
You don’t know how many people you just helped.

[shiatsufurlan]

I've cut of my mother before and I sometimes didn't talk with her for years in a row.
She is very toxic.
After some time she seems better, so I came back into her life and reconnected. After a couple of years, I realised I shouldn't have fallen for her again. That child inside me misses her and needs her, but I need to cut her off again.
It is such a conflicting feeling.😢

[PromisedLandLife]

Aww I know how this feels. I love my mom too. But unfortunately she is not good for me. She has done a lot of things to hurt me and she NEVER supports me no matter how well I’m doing. She always redirects the conversation to talk about her favorite ppl and used to always tell me to leave my husband for any little thing. He is a good man. I put up with that for 20 years. I finally had to say goodbye. I love her and still pray for her too. I hope she heals from whatever hurt her. But I still can’t understand because she doesn’t treat my sister this way. Or my cousins. I’m the black sheep or something and I never understood why. Good riddance to the extended family. Oh and when I finally decided to cut things off, she sent me a Christmas card for the first time ever. She never sent my kids a birthday card even when she missed their parties. I think she did it to hurt me. But I just threw it away in the trash. I can’t handle the mind games anymore. Remember guys. It’s okay to put your mental health first. Stay healthy ❤ 🧠

[non-fictionaltoughguy]

Making this decision on Christmas of all days, as adults we can’t tolerate emotional abuse especially at home

[Shaun.is.typing]

“I don’t want to be around these types of people. Why would I allow my mom to do that to me?” 💯

[IAMLAKEIA]

Parents need to understand that mistreating their children can have lasting consequences. One day, those children will grow into adults who can choose whether or not to keep you in their lives.

[jacobTheeCreole]

I felt this real hard . I love my mom but she’s toxic af always have been ! She was the first person to ever call me ugly ! (I know I’m not ) but it’s the fact that my mom was saying this to me and much worse at the age of 6 imagine the mental things I’ve had to correct . Keeping my distance has helped a lot I don’t feel bad

[bambijones]

Cutting my mom out my life as of today! She treats me different from every one else and I’m tired of it! She will no longer hear from me, and I will no longer be calling her my mother .

[judinolan]

Acceptance is the hard part for me. I know I need to take care of myself first and she has forced my hand. But it hurts!

[DessaJustAProphet]

Especially as a Christian, I keep trying and I know I need to let it go

[wsrtwetr]

I tend to tell people, they should mind their own business. And if they are so staunch in defending my mother, I am happy to choose different friends.

[Alphawarrior]

Mel from someone who has a toxic mother who doesnt know boundaries, you have EVERY right to cut anyone and everyone who is hindering your path out of your life completely.

[sunnyflower]

Its been 3 yrs no contact with my mom. Im an only child and it was always just me n her but .... 😞 It was hard to disconnect but my heart and mental health matter more.

[memunadamore]

Totally understand. Just changed my phone number and the parents and rest of the siblings can’t have it. I look like my mom too. I am the youngest. It’s a tap order to leave but the deception and mind manipulation is intolerable now. Keep the faith to us breaking the chains❤

[Trashpanda]

Honestly I spent 31 years trying to have a healthy relationship with both parents. If it hasn't happened in that time frame I need to cut my losses and protect and love myself.