I was toxic #toxicrelationships #healing #trauma #traumarecovery

[Hello_Spaceboy]

Realizing you are the toxic one is painful. But doing the work and putting that behind you and unlearning all those bad behaviours is so worth it. Best feeling.

[ShimmerBodyCream]

We can all be toxic if we're honest with ourselves. It's not about good or bad people, but choosing love and kindness in each moment.

[glukkan]

Does your book cover how to stop being toxic yourself? I know I have toxic behaviors from my abusive upbringing and I can recognize them sometimes but I can't always stop myself when they're happening. It's a lot easier to recognize it in others but so much tougher to stop them when you're triggered and hurt

[OpalSilkMoth]

My mom is definitely like this and it hurts knowing that no matter how many times I put down boundaries she will always still act like the same...

[gummy]

Being the former toxic one gives a perspective that isn’t possible from the other side. It’s good when people are self aware and can give their take on things.

[__Truth]

I was the toxic one for bout ummm 15 yrs or so. I spent an entire decade fixing myself. Ive always wanted to write a book about it especially on how i was molded that way.

[Nick-higx]

Yeah I kinda picked up on that, that you are where you are through accountability. Learning how to not let trauma make you into someone you don't want to be. I appreciate the honesty. That shit is hard. I know I definitely can be toxic too, try really hard not to be. It is a constant project.

[travisamiot]

This resonates with me so much. After a 9 year relationship, it took me only a year or so alone to realize that I was really the one who ruined the relationship. It still hurts but I’m happy I’ve grown from it to never repeat it again. Thank you for sharing your experience because not a lot of people speak up about it.

[gloriacastellanos]

It hurts more when you realize you became toxic after all the unheard troubles in your life

[tlaoltjenbruns]

First step towards fixing a problem is identifying said problem. You're so strong for publicly displaying your journey and improvements! Thank you!

[ShadowYaz]

I think this is a very important message. Many people have a false impression that if you’re toxic, you’re bad and wrong and a cartoon villain with no redemption arc planned for you, but a problem with this is it blinds people to problematic stuff they have cuz *they’re* not bad.
But everyone has the capacity to hurt others and learn from their past. Thank you for this!!

[Shesnotgonna]

I have also been the toxic one. I've been the oppressed as well. Thank you. You give us a voice.

[helenwhitlock]

For all those caring people out there who are in relationships with toxic people, do not use this book as an excuse to stay with the toxic person in your relationship. Some people change and some don't, please do not tolerate toxic behaviour or any behaviour that is harmful to you because you hope the person doing that to you might change sometime. Have boundaries. Respect yourself. Treat yourself with love.

[krystalnguyen]

I'm having a rough time right now. I have a really low self esteem, like I can almost literally feel the bottom. But what you said gives me some hope that I might get better and be a better person to myself and others. Please pray for me or wish me well, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this today even I am a little off topic.

[loreleir]

Immediately followed. It's hard to openly admit that you were the one who was the problem and I have so much respect for this person. I used to be the toxic one in my last relationship and it hurt to see that I was the one causing problems. But I've been in therapy for three and a half years and I'm doing so much better. There is hope!

[KhadijahW.]

This makes me feel so much better about myself, I've been recovering from my own toxicity,
thank you Jaime!!!!

[blackfoottall]

The eyes never lie. It's muted in some of the videos, but when she is honest and recounts and remembers the cluster b shines out of the eyes.
Best wishes on your journey. As soon as she falls in love and her partner triggers her injury the cluster will take control and the triune brain will assert control.

[AG-suij]

Thank you. You are so beautiful to do this. You're transparency is special. You're living proof it's possible to recover 🌹

[cynhofer]

It has been a blessing the videos I have watched. When we are raised with disfunction, we don't know any better. I just knew real young there is something better. I have spent 40 years navigating toxic relationships. The last one left me homeless, poor and mentally broken. The only person I can work on is myself. I see where I was part of it and I also see what I did not get in my past to be a better adult. Reparenting yourself at 55 is an eye opener. I am thankful for you and your content. You really have been a blessing to all who hear you. Thank you❤

[gracens]

Yes, my ex partner and I both were the toxic ones. You are right, it is very hard to admit. Thanks for speaking up✌️🌟