How To LET GO, MOVE ON & HEAL From A Toxic Relationship! | Dr. Ramani & Lewis Howes

In this episode you will learn, the red-flags of knowing you are with a narcissistic partner, how the sunk-cost fallacy plays a role in our relationships, why you need to stop being afraid to change course and so much more!

And now, let’s jump right into Episode 1,344 of The School of Greatness with the one-and-only, Dr. Ramani Durvasula!

[sarahkercheval]

People who have not seen first hand or been in a narcissistic relationship really underestimate how incredibly difficult it is to leave We need more help for people who are trapped inside these toxic relationships to be able to safely leave 😢

[theneatlist]

Love is calm. I’m never doing chaos again

[susanshaver]

Don't jump into another relationship. Stop and learn to know yourself. Give yourself a year. I find it may need to be even a longer time. Have a life on your own to not get caught up into another's life. "I'd rather be single than get into a relationship that's not healthy."

[a.cole]

Narcissists suck up all the air in the room. You will suffocate in their presence. Run before you you cannot breathe. ❤

[embracing_self]

I decided to be single, and it wasn't until 5 years later that I started dating again. I had so much healing to do... ❤

[yukio_saito]

37:29 Don’t Go DEEP with them:
🚫Don't Defend
🚫Don't Engage
🚫Don't Explain
🚫Don't Personalize

It's a mantra.🙏

[mimimusic]

The moment we start to detach emotionally from narcissists and start to learn to attach in a healthy way to secure people, and kind people, we can spot all the narcissistic red flags afterwards. It's pretty crazy to see. When we learn to respect ourselves, and to create boundaries, which did not existed for you to have for a narcissist, we see when someone really disrespects us and aren't able to love. Aren't able to love themselves trully and others. Healing is so important.

[ReRe_]

Just because you got fooled into a narcissistic relationship does not mean you don’t love yourself. It means you didn’t know and was fooled. I always have loved myself I was fooled.

[sunsetamor]

Omg Lewis is so sweet and gentle. It’s so wonderful to see a man in this light, vulnerable and intentional. I wish him all the best in his relationship, he deserves the best.

[otiliahugelschaffer]

One year wasn't enough for me, but I learned that, once I realised how it feels to be healthy(er), I am not putting up with any kind of toxic people. I cut them off, no matter how long they have been in my life.

[piotrdubiel]

The a** wiping test really spoke to me. My toxic/narcissistic ex and I broke limbs one after the other. She broke her leg, then the day she was off her crutches, I broke my foot. I remember I arranged to come into work later every day, and would start my day off by making us coffee and getting croissants ready, then I would help her take a shower with her cast, prepare a bigger breakfast and all her food for the day, make her a thermos of tea, ask her if there was anything else she needed (I'd usually sneak some of her favourite cookies in) and then make the drive into the city to get to work for 10:30 or so. When I broke my foot, in the morning she'd just say "there's breakfast stuff in the fridge!" and head off. Sure, I hobbled over and took care of everything myself, but the difference in approaches was palpable.

[edytapaszkowska]

Exactly, I rather be single then be in bad relationship. Take time for myself and learn what is best for me.

[markieworks]

I'm filing for divorce this week. I've endured nearly 30 years of the covert narcissist abuse.🙏

[tosca]

There are worse things than being alone!!! If there is not trust, comfort and peace it’s not worth you’re time! 🦋

[oliviakrause]

I love Dr. Ramani. She's a brilliant lifesaver. This information needs to be spread. Every narcissist is different, but their manipulation patterns are so similar. And it's so important to remind yourself of these frequently, so you don't fall into the trap again. Manipulation preys on our nervous system and human mechanisms and is made to work. No shame, if you fell for it.

[pjferro]

There are no words that can describe how grateful I am for these sessions

[dawn_baird]

It's so rare for someone to be present and notice you. Those people are the ones to have in your life, the ones who remember you had something – an important meeting, a stressful project, a scary health important, a cool trip – and remember to ask how it went.

[madguruJ]

I needed almost 2 years, but spent the time working on myself and developing self love and confidence, I noticed after just 3 weeks that a dating situation was becoming toxic and never got myself hurt just ended it and felt so happy and proud of myself, you can clearly see where someone is not willing to have the self awareness to develop intimacy and learn and grow together

[changingwithchelsea]

It is difficult when you don’t have a solid good example from your parents. Learning from education and videos such as this has been extremely helpful! I appreciate the valuable information on this channel!!! Thank you!

[jernardshepherd]

Leaving was the best thing for me. I realized how happy I became once removing myself from this relationship.