Healing from Toxic Relationships and Abuse — You Don’t Have to Go to War to Get PTSD

Any person stumbling through this rough-and-tumble world is bound to encounter some people who have been banged up by life. Some of those people will cope with their pain through self-destruction, some will heal their trauma, but there are others who will lash out from their pain and abuse others.

Oftentimes in abusive relationships, the physical, verbal and emotional abuse aren't the only wounds. There is manipulation, dishonesty and humiliation that leave scars long after the relationship has ended.

Nobody deserves abuse. You are not responsible for someone else's abusive behavior. Though it may feel like life is scary, dangerous and cruel, I promise you there is a future beyond suffering. There are people out there who will care for you and protect you like you deserve.

In this YouTube video, I share a few steps we can all take to heal from abuse, develop trusting and loving relationships again, and learn to shut off our survival mode so we can relax our central nervous system and become our most confident, strong, brave selves again.

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[KellysMagicalRealm]

Thanks for this! Your right it’s not always easy to see abuse. Now a day with these twin flames and soul mate names we confuse it with toxic trauma bonds. I am changing my diet, yoga and trying to focus more on myself. I have been watching videos about detachment. I love how you said shift our minds to the present moment!

[Colleen]

I was in an abusive marriage for 16 years and finally woke up one day and told myself I would rather be dead than to live like that. I had a 11 year old and a two year old. He fought me all the way through but in the end I was safe. It was the most difficult thing I had to go through in my life and still suffer from anxiety.

[mackenziehauger]

Thank u for this . I cried watching. 26 out of a dv relationship. Left everything. Restarted. It was a valley of the shadow of death. I was a lucky one

[TicTacYo]

She keeps pulling me back in and I can't get away, my mind keeps getting pulled back to her... feeling like she's the only person who will ever love me, who ever could love someone like me.

[curiousrooster]

Needed to see this tonight. An hour ago I had that conversation with my wife that it’s time to end this toxic relationship

I have been suffering for 10 years, and after serious self exploration thanks to psychedelics I finally found clarity and bravery to act.

What complicates things is I am also an adoptee. I am scared but also optimistic, I already integrate things you speak of just to exist, but now I am ready to find and hug the inner child, the real me.

Thank you❤️

Edit: 25 year marriage, 10+ yrs of toxic hell

[suzanneslaw]

Thank you so much, Todd, for sharing this. I'm a survivor of such a relationship, and yes PTSD, in my case C - PTSD, is very real in the aftermath of an abusive relationship. Each day is a healing process and the further in the past this experience gets, you're so right in saying the perspective shifts. The true healing began when I began to forgive, and now I look at that experience as one of the greatest experiences my soul could have ever orchestrated for me on my path forward. Namaste ❤️ 🙏 and thank you.

[philkilcommon]

I feel totally stuck. I've been through prolonged domestic violence. I'm over six years free after relocating, but after being assaulted literally countless times, even having to go to A&E on one occasion, after a particularly horrendous night, I'm still having flashbacks, breaking down in floods of tears on a regular. It's like the trauma is hardwired into my head now. I also have M.E and Fibromyalgia.

[GodsBlessing-bs]

I was in an abusive relationship and my ex screamed anger and blamed me for everything it tore me down I gave her a place to stay thought it would help, it just made things worst she wanted me to chase her and be intimate even though i was discussed at the situation I had enough so I finally left, after she got physical and started breaking things and hitting mental and physical abuse is real, it almost cost me my life she would threaten me and I started self destructing blinded wanted to feel, its been a month and I think I have PTSD from it sleepless nights, I'm also 1 month sober.. getting my energy back and self caring by avoiding all the people and mutual friends just got rid of everyone, we are not alone ❤

[rajasoumyajit]

Thank You for this video. With 6 years of Toxic Abusive Relationship and Abuse to Forget.Healing since 3 months

[donnawoodford]

Todd, you're right. You don't have to be in war to have battle scars, visible or invisible to others. Unfortunately, by extension, you can be a family member of someone who is deployed, returns and mistreats you. Yes, there can be manipulation, dishonesty, and other toxic behaviors which can leave the military spouse or child confused and depressed. TY for recognizing that the real battle znd pain may be at home.

[HowaboutnowBenson]

I was in an abusive relationship with my partner of two years,
I felt everything in this video and i didnt know who i was
Now I'm scared to trust any relationship. I'm healing myself and i found God, I'm a lot more happy now but i still have flashbacks from those two years, it's been at least a week since I went away

[lunamia]

Thank you 🙏 this is so beautiful 😍 and your voice is so calming and perfect for this topic it’s very healing itself 💚 I grew up in a very abusive family environment, I got sexually abused etc and of course with all these traumas I attracted more abusive people into my life until the day I claimed my worth and said NO MORE. I have never looked back since and I am on my healing journey doing the work every day and learning to fully love myself 💖

[faridabedrabbo]

Just in Time! Thanks my brother from Lima Perú ❤

[MarieAK]

The only reason I made it out of my domestic violent relationship safely is because they crashed and totaled their car on their way to stop me. They had to be physically prevented from reaching me. God truly looks out for you, but healing with that information and trusting someone enough to date after is the hardest thing I have ever done. I pray survivors attract and find the most patient partners because we truly deserve to be handled with such gentleness and care

[Thetimeisntcomingback]

I was in a marriage and relationship for 12 years. Very toxic. Very abusive. It’s not even been two years since my divorce. I don’t have support. No friends. No family. I try to love myself, but it is very hard.

[sabinamock]

I love your short videos they are full of practical and positive messages. Thank you.

[JenniferEmbrey]

Thank you for this I was spiraling before I watched your video now I’m able to breathe and I can start focusing on a task now ❤

[TaritaChester]

Your a legend mate! I tell you why before I want he'd ur video blog I was very scared where my mind body and spirit I side my body I long and truely lived for after 4 years of trauma having to listen to you and hear from someone else no one ever told me when I was well before trauma if in life I was on track or no one never ever complimented as a women and single mother to 5 beautiful children when I worked for years no one complimented for it not once even tho I worked at a very young I knew then and now and how to heal was to think what was reality is telling me with your video guidence and listening to you. Not excepting PTSD or trauma is who you are as a person when knowing I felt to heal was my body is still adjusting by trauma back in 2021 incident letting exceptance and say I won't let that define me of what happened putting myself down like abuser say to me I had become what I hated in life that's is not I wanted to feel everyday and to stop thinking like abuser!

[patriciadennison]

Very helpful
. Thank you so much! ❤️

[amberv]

I have ptsd. I was abused as a child from birth for all my life by a narc mother.