What Traumatizes People the Most is Malevolence, Not Tragedy | Jordan B. Peterson

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[paulharvey]

I truly hope this man will be seen in the near future as someone like Socrates and many years from now, if not tomorrow, he gets the same notoriety and respect.

He speaks the same truths in today's language while admitting one's own faults in trying to find those truths.

I am truly thankful for the technical advancements of today or hearing him speak would or could not been done.

Thank you Dr. Peterson for your work and passionate devotion to family, God and the well being of others.

[lesleyelalami]

Malevolence is active and willful against you, you're specifically targetted... tragedy is life events that just happen - nice clarification. I'm getting quicker at not only spotting it coming but resisting, acting against or moving away from it. Evil on legs basically is what it is.

[ironclad]

I was the victim of pure malevolence when my ex wife's boyfriend attacked me ruthlessly with texts from her phone, in her name... the things I heard and believed about her (and myself) were so traumatic that I've never been the same since. Fortunately for me, I was able to overcome and become a better person from it rather than a bitter person.... but the pain was overwhelming and a big part of me DIED and NEVER recovered after that. JBP is right on the money here. I could have survived the divorce, but the malevolent force of her psychopathic (now ex) boyfriend tortured my mind for years

[jrc-kbug]

The fact that lectures like Jordan's gets this many views and more, gives me hope for our species.

[teganflyman]

To me this describes why the psychopathic bullying that happened to me as a child from both adults and children still affects me 25 years later. I’ve been ashamed of it my whole life. This describes to me why bullying should be taken more seriously by everyone and why victims should have access to recovery. It takes you apart. I have not recovered.

[johnnyvo]

When a person gets pleasure from hurting you on purpose just to watch you suffer, it's almost inconceivable as a good person to comprehend. I'm still reeling from an abusive relationship. I didn't know what she was doing to me until I got out of the relationship and looked back at the abuse I could not see while in the relationship. I was shocked beyond belief that I had let her abuse me for so long. I'll never fully recover, I'll think about what she did to me until the day I die. She will always be a part of me. I will cope with it though through the grace of God.

[gemo]

"a huge part of them are killed, and they often don't recover." so true

[losplojos]

Few days ago i realised that my very first and all time best friend from my life was trying to break me psychologically, he twisted almost every conversation the way that it was driving me insane, and tried to ruin my relationships with my family and friends to turn their backs on me, i knew him 30 years and were in touch almost daily, all this changed my perspective to everything, the most horrible thing to realize was that the only human who i trusted more than anyone, same time tried to destroy me and my whole life, from now on only person who i trust is myself

[theprodigal]

malevolence is the greatest human tragedy.

[IzaakCha]

I was in a high speed collision a few years ago, it really messed up my body and mind at the time, and I simply thought it was a tragedy, an accident. I found out during the legal proceedings that the guy driving the other car did it on purpose, treating the lives of my father and I as if they were dice he was betting on, it is a miracle I survived, but I won't forget the gruesome scene I witnessed that day. The fact that it was a conscious decision on the other drivers part added a whole other level to the trauma, absolutely terrified me knowing that it wasn't actually an accident, instead of fearing becoming the victim of another accident I came to fear becoming the victim of another person's intentions like we were that day, knowing then that some people can see the life of another as an opportunity for some entertainment, just a pawn in someone else's game.
It ruined a good part of my life, but the life I have rebuilt out of those ruins I owe a lot to Dr. Peterson and people like him. I would still be a living dead nervous wreck if it wasn't for him.

[arikaGME]

Richard Grannon has an excellent CPTSD channel. He teaches a lot about building proper boundaries so that people who survived trauma can rebuild and move on to a healthier life.

[AJ_Jingco]

Jordan Peterson is a MODERN day philosopher like Aristotle and Plato.

[LD-juge]

WOW. less than 4 minutes just changed me more than 8 years in school 6 years in secondary & 4 years in college

[againsteternity]

Tried to explain this revelation to some friends a few weeks ago, but I had not articulated my thoughts on it as well as JBP here. I tried to explain that even though one's aware that evil of acts varying and scary degrees occur in the world, you actually don't understand malevolence or how evil and malicious one can be until you are faced with it. 1st experience is sink or swim, you gotta role with the punches the moment they are thrown and out weave and bob and you WILL come away with scars and significant less trust in others. No one was able to relate at all, I wish them well on their encounter

[AnnaLVajda]

Even if you are not naive you can still by victimized by malevolence lots of people like to just ignore signs or are scared to leave an abuser especially if they are threatening your family etc. I'm about the last person anyone who knows me would have expected to be victimized so it can happen to anyone sometimes they target the strong independent types on purpose because they are like a bigger trophy to destroy. You would think they would target meak and mild types but not always.

[bardbard]

Doctor Peterson should work as advisor to heads of state to address criminology research.

[johnyman]

The western world is at a chaotic moment right now... aproaching climax... keep your eyes open.

[JoyceWSolomon]

Jordan, I love your content. Keep up the good work

[HelloThere.....]

Today this girl I was talking to left me on read and then when we got to work, she completely switched up on me and was being cold and kind of mean to me. She also was blatantly flirting with every othe guy at my job, and bragging to my friend about leaving me on read and showing him the messages like it was fun for her to lead me on. She also told him she was talking to at least 10 other guys outside of work, and wondering which one she'd choose tonight. This is the same friend she straight up told she liked me a few days prior before I got her number.

I now realize that everything was carefully manipulated. She acted so interested in me, we laughed together SO much like our humor matched perfectly, she was so nice to me, reciperocated everything, she must have even been watching who my close friends were, and told him that she liked me purposely so he'd tell me so I'd ask her out. Then she played a little game, left me out to dry, bragged to my friend (which she knew would tell me about her bragging, presumably to hurt me) and then IMMEDIATELY started flirting heavily with another guy and flirting with every other guy there in front of me.

That is true malevolence. She literally just felt like manipulating me for no reason. I never did anything to her, I didn't pressure her or act clingy or anything (I'd admit if I did).

I am very glad it lasted a very short period of time and I never had any intimacy with her before that. I should've listened when she told me she was crazy, and when my friend said she was flirting with everyone. I wanted to give her a chance.

I will NOT let it make me vengeful or a coward. I prayed to God to forgive her and not punish her, I asked him to help me forgive her. I will not let it give me trust issues. I believe God showed me this but made it happen quickly so I wouldn't be destroyed, but so I would see that maybe my exes weren't so bad, maybe I don’t need to feel so bad about them. Maybe I'm not so bad either. And now I have more appreciation for actually nice girls, I am also stronger and wiser and will be more careful in the beginning, and be more capable of choosing courageously to trust someone rather than naively trusting them.

It was a blessing in disguise. Thank you, God, and girl.

[onwrdandupwrd]

I've been watching peterson videos for like 5 years and only just made a realization he has been harping on about for so long but I never quite made the connection. Many people believe that the devil is not real but evidence points to the fact that the devil is very, very real - and until people truly integrate this into their belief system - i.e develop a theory of malevolence, when the reality strikes them across the face it will continue to cause un-necessary trauma. Because it's such an important part of reality that the brain is screaming at you to figure out what you did/have wrong in your perceptions system and FIX IT.