I’m Scared My Husband’s Going to Hit Me

I’m Scared My Husband’s Going to Hit Me

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[RaleighLink]

DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE LEAVING! JUST LEAVE.

[jaqueitch]

No woman should be scared of her husband. RUN, don't walk

[kenziebender]

I’m an SA/DV trauma therapist and I *cannot explain* how many women have said the exact sentence “I sometimes wish he would just hit me so that I have a real reason to leave.” The verbal abuse is abuse. The financial abuse is abuse. The emotional abuse is abuse. The sexual abuse is abuse. It’s all f*cking abuse and it’s all just as damaging as physical abuse. Maybe more so, because those kinds of abuse are harder to see.

[dsma]

I was this woman. My "Christian" husband would threaten, intimidate me, call me names like "b****" .and finally put his hands on me. I went to my church, and my woman mentor told me I needed to be more forgiving :O When I finally decided to leave my husband, my church cut me loose and I literally was on my own the entire time. But truly I had the One who I could count on and God lead me through it all. It was so hard! But I'm free, happy, and don't live in fear anymore. Get out Brittney, it's hard. You can do it!

[RachelReaiah]

She won't leave. She's not ready to leave. But thank you Dr. John for telling her the truth.
Her husband is not walking in biblical truth

[RobertWoodsAlabama]

Even if her husband never would actually hit her, the fact that she’s scared in her marriage is enough for me. No one should have to live in fear of their spouse. I agree with John that she needs to find somewhere safe while her husband works through his issues.

[TexasAlabama]

I'm a therapist and I agree completely, there is nothing she can do but leave. Right now she's delusional in thinking it's going to get better.

[aprilm]

Filed for divorce when my husband threw something at my face and missed me but that was enough for me, that scared me enough

[JustinCase]

I live near a church that houses women that escaped abusive homes. You are NOT alone and you MUST LEAVE. You will never regret it and help is available.

[SpoonHurler]

Christian husbands are called to not only love their wives but to love them like Jesus loved the church. Making your wife feel like you might hit her is the polar opposite of that. GET OUT yesterday.

[carolyncornett]

Britney he is showing you who he is, Believe Him!

[WonderwomanG]

Pick yourself up and leave.Go to a women's refuge, if you had to.For the love of God, do not tell him you are leaving.

[privacyplease]

The most dangerous moment for a battered woman is when she tries to leave. If she leaves, she cannot look back. The moment she goes back, she’ll have a target.

[auroramothergoddess]

If your scared he will hit you …he will. I had an ex who threatened me. “If you don’t stop cursing I’m going to hit you” …he tried to say it was a joke. I’m so glad I left him. Dude was a complete loser …it’s so embarrassing I was with him. There were so many red flags before. I wish I could go back in time AND NEVER GIVEN HIM THE TIME OF DAY.

[strnglhld]

Any mature guy isn’t gonna even pretend to hit you. Some of these callers are so used to what they’ve been getting and don’t see how crazy it actually is. You WILL be fine on your own…you’re ALREADY on your own.

[nanchesca]

Ugh, I've been in this woman's shoes. I got out before he hit me because I, too, knew it was coming. Honestly, I didn't know that I was already being abused until a good counselor opened my eyes

[AlexisDavis]

I’ve been there. It’s VERY hard to leave, but I’m grateful for a call just like with my sister. She was the first person I told the 1/2 truth and her reaction was so intense it surprised me. I didn’t realize how much danger I was in.

A man that can punch a wall right next to you is a man that can kill you. You will never be able to get it right enough for him.

The first book I listened to, “Why Does He Do That” gave me strength. I also got a dog while living alone. He rescued me in so many ways. He alerted me when anyone was outside the house, including my ex and he helped mend my broken heart. ❤

You CAN be in a relationship where you feel safe, secure, loved, nurtured, beautiful, sexy, and adored with a kind, sweet, generous Christian man.

[joygernautm]

Her laughter is such a cover for her pain. It is hard to listen to. He’s telling her what she’s been feeling all along, but is afraid to acknowledge she thinks he’s going to change, but he won’t. They never do. They never do.

[Crumpets]

Please leave Britney. Keep yourself safe. Sending hugs

[marianne]

Please don’t tell a woman to say “If you show your fist again I’m out”. This infuriates the partner even more. I lived this for 18 years until I could get out. After the first sign of potential hitting I no longer argued until I had a safe plan to leave. I’m 66 with a lot of wisdom of abuse.