My Husband Yells When He’s Stressed (Is That Okay?)

My Husband Yells When He’s Stressed (Is That Okay?)

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[gudlrgf]

My ex used to say I'm not hitting you so what's the problem? Emotional abuse is abuse too. Walking on eggshells is awful.

[nk]

I'm so glad that John called out this behaviour for what it is; abusive.

[melionaire]

I could never live with somebody that throws adult temper tantrums. I grew up with a father that still does that to this day, and I am so glad I don't have to experience that on a daily basis anymore.

[sydniruth]

I confided in our pastor who also did our premarital counseling about my soon to be ex husband screaming at me, berating, and demeaning me, his response was “yeah, maybe he yells a little to loudly and says things that aren’t nice sometimes”

Both my husband and him and well loved, educated, and community oriented. This told me I could never trust our “pastor” ever again. To this day, his behavior has not been condemned.

I left when my son was 7 months old after he decided to scream at me again in front of our child. I said never again. I couldn’t protect myself, but I am protecting my son from witnessing this behavior. AND I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE PROUD OF MYSELF.

[shashamarie]

Listening to this in bed, with my husband sleeping. He doesn't care. I wish i chose differently. He scares me.

[daughter_of_yeshua]

One thing no one tells you is you can have wonderful years in marriage. You vet your spouse heavily while you date, look for red flags and then suddenly years of stress built up and bad circumstances turn a person into someone who yells and rages at the slightest stress. You feel guilty because why didnt you see it before, and blame yourself heavily for being blind to not seeing the future.

[TheAgentmigs]

Its definitely abuse. Makes everyone in the house feel unsafe..uncertain, and it just destroys any sense on tranquility in the house. You can never trust that you will be fully comfortable in your own home when you feel there's a ticking time bomb that might go off at any moment. It destroys the ideal of what a home should be. I've lived it. On an internal sense..I still do even.

[secondplace]

I learned this behavior from my father, and I’m pretty sure he learned it from his. It’s a terrible cycle that needs to be broken.

[lindajordan]

I'm 60yrs old and when I hear someone yelling (not at me) I still want to run and hide like a small child. I never quite thought about yelling as abuse but of course it is! I just got that! An adult temper tantrum... yup.
Thanks for the wake up. I've got some healing to do.

[smustipher]

As someone who has struggled with outburst of anger in the past, I must say that it is not ok to expose family members to yelling, screaming, and other behaviors that may make them feel unsafe, even if it is not directed at them. A home is meant to be a sanctuary from the chaos of the world.😮

[RobPetty]

My Dad had a temper and we often walked on pins and needles trying to avoid being yelled at. I once heard a discussion about kids rights and I thought, " Kids have rights?! Whoa!"

[sabrinay]

I don't tolerate yelling from anyone. Not family not employers, no one. I just don't. You won't yell at me or yell at anyone in my presence.

[beccalou]

My dad screamed at my mom for 71 years. I became a master at being invisible, so he wouldn't remember i was there to scream at too. He's narcissistic, but also has manic episodes. My mom always made the same excuses; he's wonderful except for this one thing. I'll spend the rest of my life trying to work my way past that "one thing".

[ketobarbelle]

It never ceases to amaze me how society brainwashes women into tolerating crummy behavior from mediocre men - and then to rationalize is as “he’s wonderful except for one little thing” and the women convince themselves that they’re the problem and the reason behind the crummy behavior. It’s so sad.

[rebeccaoprea]

Sometimes you help people help themselves by no longer tolerating the behavior .

[CraftyStayAtHomeMama]

This behavior is exactly why I recently left my husband. The one difference is that he yelled at me and the kids. We constantly apologized for his behavior to others. We intentionally do not plan things with the kids friends when he is home (he is an over the road truck driver). We were always on eggshells. He has been diagnosed with PTSD (I think it is actually CPTSD), but he doesn‘t feel like he needs help. My body has actually been more relaxed since we left and my brain is finally coming around. I stayed way too long and feel so guilty over what this has taught my kids. We have a lot of healing to do. Thank you so much for your videos.

[creature]

She's making excuses for him from the start. OMG! They both need counseling for different reasons. NO-ONE needs to yell - EVER! It's abuse, plain and simple.

[everyone]

Lived with this on a daily basis for 24 years. My advice is to get away while you're young and able to rebuild your life easier. Do not wait til the kids are grown. They will blame YOU when they are older!

[oskchfr]

This is my life constantly. He yells all the time.. to the point that I get so anxious.

[Laura-nsys]

My father would scream in my face like this as a young elementary child. I have soo much anger towards my stupid parents for thinking this was okay.