Why Did The Narcissist Discard me? - (5 Reasons Narcissists Discard People)

There are 5 typical reasons Narcissists discard people and in particular their intimate partners. Knowing that there is a behavioural pattern that all narcissists follow may help their target’s understanding that what feels very personal actually isn’t. Narcissists treat people as objects and highlight functionality as a primary objective. At least one or more of the five reasons Narcissists discard in the video will apply to most discards.

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[melanieleon]

NEWS: I AM under contract for a new home, sold ours and we are about to do final signing of divorce Paula and friends!! I made it 🎉

[giovannilevoci]

They discard you if and when you bust them for cheating...

[alexismerrilldragonqueen]

The two I can think of off the top of my head are: the narcissist can no longer control you or you are of no use to the narcissist anymore. They will definitely discard you after those two.

[foxygayla]

My narcissistic boyfriend did it in cruel ways. Lack of intimacy for 6 months, ghosted me for 5 days, devalued me then discarded me. In that order. Such a horrible person. It's going on 8 months of no contact. What glorious months they have been. Peaceful.

[Eleniexp]

You may have exposed them, finally saw them for what they really are. They can’t stand that.

[desertangelfish]

I called him out on his bad behaviors. He told me if I wasn't happy I could leave. I basically pushed him to his limits and forced him to discard me. He kicked me out! He said I was being disrespectful and he didn't like my attitude! LOL Then when he hoovered I refused to go back. Two months out and still refusing hoovers! I'm enjoying my peace and freedom, don't want to go back to jail! 😂🤣

[chriscole]

The new supply that your ex narcissist is with is not in a relationship with your narcissist. Their really in a relationship with you!!! 🤯 They were mirroring you the whole time. They stole your identity.

[terrancemcclendon]

You become close to them which makes them feel exposed

[HuricaneChampagne]

#1 reasons why you were discarded was for not complying to their wishes. part of their wishes was for you to not acknowledge your own suffering and never to speak of it in their presence

[johnpichla]

Once you see the red flags 🚩 you must distance and take care of yourself! You cannot help them!

[womanclothedinthesunq]

He left because I stood up to him . Thanks to your videos 😁😎.

[ak-intelligence]

I was SO HAPPY to be discarded 😂
I couldnt stand the needy, jealous, greedy, stingy, incompetent, lazy, rude, mean and highly critical nature of the Nex.

[nicolesiemens]

This is exactly what happened with the narcissist I was involved with.

I was tired of the emotional abuse after about 6 months- so I just didnt respond to his text one morning and blocked him.

I started healing over the next 6 months. Reading my Bible, watching videos on narcissism, working out, etc.

But I wanted closure. I wanted to make sure he was a Covert Narcisssist.

So I reached out to him. He was shocked. And he began to do exactly as you described. Pretended to be "nice", acted like "he couldnt talk long, because he needed to go take a nap." 🙄😆

I asked him if he had just used me for 6 months. He said, "you provided stimulation- but it can never compare to a TRUE relationship."

Well that statement backfired on him. I believe he thought I would wallow and beg for him- but I was much stronger now.

I asked, "are you ready to commit to a long term relationship?"

He acted like a child and gave me the silent treatment for 2 days.

In the past- that would have worked- but now all it did was confirm that he was a narcissist, so I immediately blocked him.

A narcissists tactics ONLY work when you are still captivated by them.

Once you realize who they truly are- just a user and a manipulator- ALL attraction to them is gone, and they dont have power over you any longer.

[jeffreymurray]

Being discarded after 33 years of marriage and the discard is painful (being characterized as having personality disorder) and having to find comfort in know the truth without having the opportunity to tell my side of this situation…glad to have a circle of friends that know who I am and are being transparent and keeping me focused…this is soooo painful/traumatic…😢

[l.]

I was discarded because I called them out. I never heard of 'narcissism' but I called out their lies, their entitlement, their arrogance, their envy, and their hypocracy, and their hatred. (Not all at once of course, but over time). And of course they expect unconditional the while lying to and stealing from you.

[louisekleinman]

I am glad he discarded me …
now I can enjoy life .

[buzzzzzd]

I set firm boundaries, finally, after 12 years! He flupped out, had a 6 month long tantrum and totally turned out lives upside down. He put us in one terribly exhausting and dangerous situation after another, until i finally saw the evil and knew i had to leave. His hoover and power play was to cut off all financial support for me and the kids, and to tell me he wanted a divorce. I reeled for 6 months, scrambling to get us into a safe home, into a school, get winter clothes, food on the table, all of it! Then i filed for divorce, after 8 months of him holding that over my head and not doing anything to move it forward. He was furious! That made all so clear to me. It was all about control. Im sure he planned to hoover after his year of freedom. No way, buddy. That chapter is closed.

[goldilocks]

So true. It feels very personal but it truly isn’t. We are appliances and the reason they move on to a new appliance is that they haven’t broken that one yet. It really is as simple as that. They are always looking for that perfect, shiny new appliance that is still functioning well - as their servant.

[bodysuit]

Holy crap, I was getting sick. I couldn't sleep and my health was going to shit. I really had nothing left in me to give. I had completely lost myself, the things I used to self soothe didn't even work anymore.

[nunnaurbiz]

He told me at the time of discard, “ You’re too smart, I can’t cheat.., you catch me! And I want to cheat, and I’m going to!” After 10 years..this is what I’m told. What a Mc Douche!