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[akanicolerocks]

They only want someone who will kiss their ass and not question anything that they do!

[youngblood]

Forget what you feel, remember what you deserve. Narcissists fake love you, until they don't need you anymore.

[cherylsibson]

If they tell you good bye consider that as a gift.

[janellewash]

I stopped going along and started questioning things. I think this caused a narcissistic injury and he broke up with me!

[sushmayen]

It's a great thing if they breakup with us. We may not know at that time.

[spacegirl]

After a more than a decade of having the life sucked out of me, I became difficult because I couldn't keep up with the demands and not having any help or support from him. He'd threatened to divorce me multiple times those last few years, and the final time he said it, I agreed because I was tired of him being such a garbage person and my life going literally nowhere because I had given him all my power.

There was nothing left for him to crush or destroy because he'd smashed it all. I was discarded. A younger woman replaced me, a coworker that he conveniently never told me about though they'd worked together for a few years at that point. He remarried less than a year after our divorce was finalized. Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a place to live.

My life isn't great, but it's mine. After three years of trying to get my health back in order, going to counseling, and figuring out who I am and what I want to do, I may be on the road to contentment.

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. Hang in there, survivors. Internet fist bumps to all of you. You'll get through it if you keep going.

[heatherlaine]

Dr. Ramani has this uncanny way of uploading a video with what I need to hear at the moment.

[Kyshalise]

I needed this so bad!!! He broke up WITH ME after he abused me for 2 years, and is now playing the victim just because we got into an argument that I “started” so that was his get out free card to blame everything on me! So mind Fing.

[angelicamaster]

The new supply!!! He had turned 75 and found a 48 year old woman online. During the pandemic they had a big romance and affair. He became cocky and sadistic to me and wouldn't tell me why. Finally he admitted his betrayal and I didn't hesitate. I got a divorce and left him and everything. He's married to her now and looks like an old man. I know what life with him was like so new supply deserves him! 😂
I'm really happy to be free of the abuse. Thanks again Dr. RAMANI ❤

[l.]

Although my husband of 23 years discarded me, I feel that I was actually the one to end the relationship because I would no longer put up with his abuse and I gave him an ultimatum. He chose abuse, and simultaneously discarded me. Took some time to get back on my feet because he kept the house and most of the stuff in it (threatened to bankrupt me in court by dragging it out) but I'm still much better off without him (PS He tried to replace me multiple times but none of his new relationships actually stuck).

[cindyallen]

Those last 30 seconds of the video -- breaking up with us the GREATEST thing they will do (for us). Took me four years after discard, but I realize the toxicity I had learned to live in. My life now is fulfilled, peaceful, meaningful with no nonsense. Hang in there if you're having trouble.

[Goddess.Cash]

I’m still single and not dating. Not interested right now and the person would need to be extremely special to change it.

[Witchofthewoods.]

I was broken 💔 for several years because of this happening to me. He even divorced me for a DOWNGRADE, then he died at 35yo, 7 months later 🤷‍♀️ GO figure.

[ssfcyzq]

When he stopped giving me intimacy, I did stop doing any kind of favors he asked me to do. No way. I pushed back, and he didn't like it. This was within the last 6 months before discard.

[sparkygump]

She discarded me because her mother taught her that's the way you treat people.

[rickmaria]

Wonderful, as always Dr. Ramani.
30 years with a narc husband; 28 years of chipping away at my heart and breaking it; the last 2 or so allowed my heart to heal before he filed for divorce. He's in his 70's and moved to a senior complex in the Midwest. In all the chaos he brought, the greatest thing he ever gave me was removing himself from my life!

[cherrybacon]

My Narc Ghosted me because he couldn't control me. I'll live 🙂. 🍒

[the.toxic.phoenix]

My nex hated me educating myself and standing up to him. The abuse got worse. Then I think he wanted to leave but wanted to be able to claim "she kicked me out" victim badge so started a ridiculous argument that blew up and I finally asked him to leave (for real, as I'd done it half heartedly before)

[CS-ivtk]

They know you feel how difficult they are so they have to start over and the cycle starts again.

[lorettanericcio-bohlman]

My spouse ran off with an ex; couldn’t even bother to fish for new supply. When I realized how shallow this person I married was, I was shocked. Took my heart a long time to catch up to my brain. And yes, Dr you are correct, it is a gift but it should be called something else because I like gifts. 🦋