How to Cope with the Challenges of Living with BPD

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

If you're living with BPD, then you know that life can be a struggle. This video we'll discuss some of the common challenges and struggles that people living with BPD face. We'll also discuss how to cope with these challenges and live a more healthy and fulfilling life!

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

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If you or a loved one is struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), then this video is for you. In it, Dr. Fox shares advice on how to cope with the challenges of living with BPD.

[lauramcclain]

I self-sabotage when things seem too calm because I feel like if I punish myself enough I will finally be able to “atone “ for my inherent wickedness. It’s a constant and vicious cycle . I can’t break free .

[itsmejoy]

I will feel depression after hanging out with people, even if it was seemingly a positive social interaction. I am convinced that the other person has decided that I'm weird now and that I said a lot of weird things when that's probably not the case. I will be stuck in an intense spiral for a week or two afterwards. I hate it because I know I need to be more social but it's hard to when these feelings are so extreme.

[painoftheheart]

Chronic stress is such a trigger for BPD. I thought I had things under control, but BPD never really goes away. Go too long without checking in with yourself, and you can find bad habits coming back to the surface.

[borderline]

I'm 38 yr old male and I want everyone to know that has BPD that I do hope we have another chance in another life and I want you all to know that I know how hard we love, how heavy we feel abandonment I feel your feelings too you are not alone and to all your Souls I send a piece of my love. I'm feeling your feelings dont forget you are not alone ok ❤🖤❤🖤❤

[selfsabotagingbanana]

Being broken is my comfort zone. I mean constant instabililty and misery is a kind of stability on its own, when you think about it. Thinking about what my life COULD be on the other hand makes me feel incredibly anxious and sad, anxious when I think about all the obstacles I have put in my own way over the years and sad because I`m mourning all the things that could have been. I honestly prefer feeling angry and like a bad person all the time over feeling anxious, sad and hopeless.

[CanadianPhinsFan]

1) It's too hard.
2) I feel like I am a horrible liar no matter what I try to tell myself.
3) I am never going to be CURED so what's the bloody point?
4) Sick of being alive, but don't have enough courage to take my own life.

[vanessap.]

I did it 😁. For once being alive doesn't hurt. It's been months since I've had a crisis. You're videos have helped me through the years. Thank you 💜

[JeyFox]

I have no fear of self-abandonment anymore. I've terminated all personal relationships, so there is no one to abandon me any more. Take that, BPD! 😂

[Lex-jejd]

I’m married but now that I know I struggle with BPD, I often think I would be better to everyone else if I was not in a relationship. I feel bad for my hubby but I’m trying my best for him. He’s put up with a lot of drama from me and deserves the best for sure.

[alpbasar]

I m a person living with bpd in Turkey and i follow you for sometime and in the most darkest times you are helping me out. I am also an actor and i will be on stage when your video starts but i d like to watch it. Hope everyone who has this condition can find a council like you at some point. Regards.

[Huntington]

I've given up on thinking I'll ever be "cured." My brain is just too fucked up to fantasize about that, anymore.

I'm just hoping to find some... some... "thing" that can help me get through my difficult times/moments. A mantra. A saying or anything.

I've tried a thousand different coping mechanisms. Nothing really sticks. It either loses effectiveness after saying it a dozen times or is just not memorable enough.

I pray for the day I find an inner voice that's just as effective as the one currently in my brain, constantly telling me I'm a fucking idiot and a loser. Now, THAT voice has been going strong for YEARS! 😅😢

[dcullen]

I'm 42 and after a life of chaos n pain, to finally understand, this is such a bittersweet pill for me, thank you for your work Sir I finally see a little bit of hope ✌️❤️

[MamaCancer]

I desire greatly to be in a healthy & stable relationship, as well as career. I’ve had plenty of opportunities for that but self sabotage came into play 😔 so, I’m taking the time & necessary steps to become better. It’s certainly not easy but I will have these things! ❤

[SlyLilly]

Seeing everyone commenting gives me hope. I’m in a very high period with symptoms and it’s making life hellish. Much respect to everyone struggling with this illness. I just received the workbook and I am very much hopeful it will help bring much needed balance to my moods and life over time. I’m really glad I found this account.

[hard_at_work]

I once was given advice by a pastor who had gotten out of a hole many of us find ourselves in. He said whatever shape you wake up in, do your best to work with that shape. If one morning you're a circle, be the best circle. If one morning you're a square, be the best square. If you are a triangle, be the best triangle. I'm 44 and I have never heard that before so if it helps credit to the man willing to give advice.🙏👍 I wish to put it to practice more 🙂

[BonitaBrandt]

I'm 77 years young and had this label put on me at age 22; and I can verify that the label itself makes a person's life difficult....in too many ways to mention. I wish the "powers that be" would change this label.

[drankjuice]

I’m so tired of being my worst enemy! 😢 I’m an author and I have a degree but I’m so ready to give up! I have no support system

[InstrumentvanVrede]

I am using your book, a DBT workbook by Matthew Mckay, Jefferet Wood, and Jefferey Brantley. I seem to live in this cycle of doing well and then falling apart in a very destructive manner. Your videos have helped my sister and mom understand this disorder and why I act as I do at times. I am 42 and male, in case you are curious. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos as they seem to show up on my feed at just the right time. Could be divine intervention, who knows! I am a subscriber to this channel as well.

[la-liz]

I so so so needed this tonight. Bf of three years was secretly married and I found out in the most crushing way. I didn’t eat for three days and ended up at urgent care with anxiety *but* what helped me was remembering that I could not overly attach to these feelings, that they are telling me a much more intense tale than actually exists. I was fine before this (lying) man and will be fine after 💪 the dramatic voices fearing otherwise are just that—voices that mislead me away from calmness and sanity and into darkness. Definitely a work in progress ! :)

[zero_bs_tolerance]

I can't tell you how badly I needed a little perspective, a little validation, a little hope just now and boom! This video popped up.
Thank you.