Shall I get married or study? Mufti Menk

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[mdrahad]

Marry then study together, go to the University together. After classes, go to cafe with your wife without any fear of anything. Hashtag halal

[selinaak]

I got married almost 11 years ago at the age of 18 and now have 3 children, one with special educational needs. I have the intention of becoming a doctor and have spent many years working in the field as a nursing assistant. There are obstructions towards studying due to my special needs child, but I trust in Allah that the same way he sent me my spouse and my children, he will clear the path for me in the future easily IF it's something that is destined for me.
At least me and the kids can revise together ❤

[hudycat]

I temporarily paused my university studies to get married. My friends told me nooo I’m too young and my studies and this and that. But I knew the proposal was a good one, I prayed, I asked advice from people I trusted and accepted the proposal. While all my friends graduated in 2020, I married, had a family, and now currently in my third year of online university. In sha Allah, I have a whole life ahead of me to pursue studies and career, I don’t have to rush it and do it all in my 20s. What really matters is realizing you may not get another good potential spouse, a true life companion, a supportive, loving husband that you just declined for a piece of paper, a degree or a qualification.

[rahim]

Adjustment is incredibly important folks! Life isn’t all black and white! May all of your sincere endeavours to find someone suitable, culminate in happiness, contentment and bliss.

[nefsaa.]

It may sound easy to say but schooling after marriage is burdensome. It's duable but if you choose to go to school while you have the responsibility of taking care of another humanbeing, you won't have the time to enjoy the little things, spend time with family, watch your child grow, teach them the deen from a young age, prevent them from being exposed to unnecessary things by spending time with them when they're not in school. Your essentially always busy with responsibilities and often don't get to do things the way you wanted. So for me, I choose to finish my education first, try my best to fulfill my dreams professionally before starting a family. That way, I can focus 100% of my attention on family and raising the next generation. I understand that sometimes opportunities arise but you shouldn't need to change your goals because of it. If both parties are interested, arrangements can be made. Like a nikkah now and move together and start a family when both are ready to do so. I think its important to address the effect of parents going to school on thier kids. Especially the first born. As someone who experienced this, I wouldn't want my children to have such life.

[hanifahm]

You can do both. There are people who did it, there are also people who didn't make it. If you have good intentions and a good plan and trust in god, nothing is going to fail you. Life doesn't stop if you get married. You will still have to study a lot though. Whether it is university, whether daily stuff, whatever, but the idea of stopping education at all is wrong. Of course, you have also other obligations when you're married. But what is wrong about marriage, education, work etc simultaneously? I'm afraid to say that sometimes in our culture the notion is that life is somehow done when you get married. But this is definitely wrong. May Allah always give us new good knowledge and proper education and a chance to study, to word hard for making the world a better place.- Amin

[Risingstar]

That line, sometimes we are really so fussy that we wants so different person who doesn't exists in this world, maybe in Jannah😁😂😅. He speaks the hearts😂😂

[sidali]

I'm 43 still single plz make dua I get married have corona and anxiety

[muneeburrehman]

I'm sorry but this is mostly applicable to the rich kids who got parentʼs money and have no hurry to complete the studies so they can marry at earliest possible age. On the other side, an average person cannot afford even his own expenses before completing studies, how can he accommodate his/her spouse? I need answers. JazakAllah.

[mz]

it ups to you, I personality will choose complete my study

[minhazulislam]

My brother Ismail,

Assalamualikum.

I wish you could talk to parents in Bangladesh about getting their sons and daughters married when they are of age. Fitna is so huge nowadays that staying single itself is a struggle. The economy is designed in a way that it takes almost 26-27 years for a person to get a job (that too if you are lucky). Without a job, it is almost impossible to be married (cause people somehow forgot Allah is Razzak, a mere job is not). If you, with your platform, could voice this important issue, that would be a huge help.

I know you might not read the comments. But, I have to say this.

I love you for the sake of Allah. One day, inshaallah, we will meet and I'll give you the tightest hug that you ever got.

[sanaabdulsamad]

If anyone want to study let them...if anyone want to marry and then continue studies let them...In my opinion studying after marriage requires double the effort and I am currently struggling....Marriage is not everything...Be financially independent and find out who u truly are and then marry... especially for girls...good spouse will come the way

[syedshamshadellahi]

Please brother's and sisters pray for my male cat he didn't come home for 3 weeks

[LB-jwly]

See the problem is if everyone gets married and doesn’t go to college and get a degree in high paying majors such as engineering and medicine who will pay for our masjids and spreading the ummah? The west isn’t Saudi where all the nationals have oil wealth and can just take for granted being able to go to Hajj and Unrah every single year. How will you afford to go to Hajj when the packages you have to buy to get access costs $10k or more and you live check to check? How will we have Muslim physicians if everyone gets married and doesn’t finish college? See what happens when you get married is now you have to work to support the wife. So how can you work full time and do college full time? I love Mufti Menk but he is giving advice based on living a well protected life in an Islamic country being a famous Imam and scholar. His every need is cared for. He only has to worry about guiding the Ummah.

[asmamuhammad]

Study first... 👩‍⚕️💉i think after marriage there are lots of responsibilities and pressure

[umar_aez]

I'm planning to graduate and work first and then bismillah let's start searching for a righteous spouse

[taslimakabir]

Sometimes things are not in our hand. We want to marry, but, in the end, nothing happens . So we wait for Allah's wish. Allah made some one for me, so why should I regret for someone who is not made for me ; And finally I again start to focus on my studies rather than thinking about marrying

[kayesmith]

I just decided to do a bit of study and the rest is up to Allah as I like to say Okay Allah where to Next ? Ya Allah. Alhamdulillah

[abdimaajidbashir]

Wlhi this question always across in my mind I have tried to get married so many times while I’m still my parents especially my mother it’s what I mostly think about

[newday]

I am 33. I have finished bachelor, master and i am currently doing my PhD. When i look back I don't find any regrets. I didn't get proposed by someone suitable for me. All of them were uneducated, jobless looking for a woman to work for them. And in each step of my life i was open to the idea of Mariage. So i don't regret anything. Even though, people judge me and say that it's me who refused for studies and work because they don't believe that i didn't get proposed by anyone suitable.