Ben Shapiro: Why You Should Get Married Young

You have to make the decision to get married before you find the right person.

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[toolegitquit]

Instead of waiting to find the perfect person to marry, one should aim to be the type of person someone else would WANT to marry.

[Professionalbsdetector]

Honestly I find it harder to find a good person and get married for my generation since social media has screwed up dating so much that people keep cheating on each other and relationships don’t last very long

[NotElusivePanda]

I dodged a few bullets by not getting married. Knowing what abuse is and knowing what healthy looks like was the best thing for me. I’m just waiting on the right woman now.

[Dunkinprodigy]

Not to play Devils Advocate here, but not all of us have had the convenience or privilege of meeting the right person or being in the right post to be married. Finding the right person is hard enough as it is. Can someone out there tell the rest of us how to navigate this mine field? Cause I’d love to hear it.

[luciddude]

I'm a 23 years old and I've been married for 3 years and have a baby on the way. Everyone my age seems to try to find meaning in partying, drinking, drugs, and sex; like everyone got stuck being 16 years old

[nickymiller]

I got married at 20 to a guy I had know since I was 9. Him and I literally grew up together, watched each other change into the people we are today. We started dating at 15, agreed we wanted to get married one day and worked towards that goal. Every single person outside my family things I'm an idiot and should've waited until I was 30+. But why? We both knew what we wanted and we still choose to love each other and work towards being better for each other. What I have is rare, yes. But if you keep waiting for the perfect partner, you'll never find them. Find someone with similar values and work on making each other better.

[blissfulmomentsfarm]

I’m 40 and single. I was married to a man who became an addict, unfaithful, and physically abusive. I thank God for removing me from that situation, but until He says otherwise, I intend to spend my life working on myself and seeking God. If He has someone for me, that would be wonderful too. I suffered for someone else’s choice to sin and continue sinning, but I know that I did right by seeking God’s will throughout the years I was living in that chaos.

[migs]

Married before 25. Good luck.
You’re going to need it.

Divorce lawyers are making a killing during these times.

[TheAgaveSpirit]

Getting married was by far, the biggest mistake I made. Never again.

[michaelmcgregor]

I delayed marriage and always regretted it, but late in life I found the most amazing person and we both got married for the 1st time and have a beautiful son!

[mr.s]

I'm not against marriage at all, I'd very much like to be married myself someday. But modern marriages are giant minefields for men. No-fault divorce means a woman can leave you, take half your money, and get sole custody of your kids just because she's "unhappy." No fault on either party required. The laws need to change so it's much harder to get divorced. One of the reasons marriage isn't taken seriously anymore is because everyone knows there's an easy out 24/7. Boomers started the trend by handing out divorces like candy. No stigma anymore.

Not for me. I only believe in divorce if there's adultery or abuse. Barring that, I'm stuck for life no matter what because those are the vows you take. And any woman of mine had better be in the exact same page or I will not put a ring on her finger. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not some fairy tale ending to your problems.

[angelusskye]

I agree with Ben on the importance of marriage, but Ben never talks about the ugliness of divorce, how men are destroyed by it, and/or ways to reform it. People need incentives to do this, but I see no benefit for a man to get married until men get a fair shake. I don't think I've ever heard Ben ever broach this which is quite telling. I think he knows there isn't a good answer so he avoids talking about it all whilst advocating for an institution that hurts so many men.

[Jon]

When I was younger than 25, the idea of getting married was just so alien to me, my brain just could not compute it. It’s just something I never even thought of, to me it was something you do when you’re older. Every single authority figure (teacher, counselor, parent and even pastor) drilled in dating / relationships were a distraction, focus on schoolwork and getting your career started. Even now when I hear about something getting married young it doesn’t compute for me.

[jeffdorris]

I am 38 years old no wife, no kids, no pets, no responsibility. You don't have to follow the social norms just to try to fit in. Just do what makes you happy.

[wutryulooknat]

I’m 28 and have wanted to get married for years. I envisioned I’d be married with 3 kids by now but I can’t seem to find a good man even to date. He doesn’t need to be perfect. But dating in this day and age is so difficult for so many reasons, including the ones Ben talked about here. I didn’t want to wait this long. But for now, I know he’s out there, somewhere. I hope. And I just keep working on my own self. The desire to be married is what hurts right now, I’m not lonely.

[carmensandiego]

Some people want very much to get married while they are young but they are not able to find a suitable mate. It's not that they are being picky or looking for the perfect mate. In many cases, it just so happens that they have limited options. Especially when one is looking for a mate who shares the same beliefs, morals and values sincerely and genuinely. Also, in many circumstances, there are more single women than men or vice versa.

[justobserving]

I believe you should get married when you are mature enough to know what it means and entails, and when you find the one person you want to live the rest of your life. Age enters into it very little.

[edforres]

I plan to get married young but not too young. Also it’s hard to trust anyone from my generation cuz loyalty has long been thrown out. No one is willing to tough it out and just leave

[DonsaiRoadsOfficial]

It's situational. If i married young, when i was a blithering imbecile, I would have damaged my marriage beyond repair and now would be divorced. I married as a more mature adult and now have the foresight to make my marriage work healthily.

[jdestef]

Don't you think most people would if they could? Dating is a hellscape.