Which women do men find most attractive?

THE DATA DOESN'T LIE PEOPLE*
This (admittedly quite heteronormative) example is taken from Dataclysm by Christian Rudder.
The book is a few years old now, but a really fun read and definitely worth your time.
*Sometimes it does tho okay so don't take this literally please

[BlueAsh-MilitaryAviation]

"most attractive" and "who you'd want to spend [time/the rest of your life] with" are not the same thing though.

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[theadamabrams]

TRUE, BUT THAT'S NOT THE WHOLE STORY. These two graphs come from OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder and are often re-posted without the additional graphs he released at the same time showing who men are _most interested in dating_ (based on search queries and messages sent). For example, while 47-yr-old men do think that 20-yr-old women are _hottest, _ they send messages to women ages 32-50 with a peak at 40. Again this is all based only on OkCupid from 10 years ago, and we have only Rudder's summaries, not the raw data. Still, it seems entirely believable to me that
• older men think women in their 20s look the best, and also
• older men aren't actually trying to be with 20-yr-olds but rather with women closer to their own age.
Somehow people often skip reporting the second part. The first part is still a very interesting set of statistics, and I'm not even saying that those graphs alone are misleading. Just incomplete.

[whiskeytango]

Perhaps the question was not worded correctly. I am a 62 year male, and there is a difference between who you find attractive and who you would like to be your partner. Not the same at all. I think that the most physically attractive women are between 18 and 23...generally speaking. Would I want one for a partner? Not on your life. I much prefer women my own age as a partner.

[SurfRock]

That's crazy, people look the most physically attractive at the peak of their youth, who would have thought?

[GroovingPict]

I mean... raw physical attraction is one thing, and "I want to have a long term relationship with this person"-attraction is another. And I think maybe what those graphs actually show is the difference in how men and women view (or viewed) a dating site like okcupid. The men clearly saw it as a means for a hookup with someone young and hot, while women maybe were looking for something more long term.

[rephill]

Speaking as an old man, I am not sure I needed a study, or a graph, to tell me that!

[EvansdiAl]

Imagine the same chart where women say what income from men is the most attractive...

[bendowney]

It's pretty simple. On an instinctual level, women desire men that look like they can be a provider/protector and they are more practical about this than men are Men CAN NOT depend on women for provision/protection and men that try that are shunned by women. Since men are expected to take care, not only of themselves, but of the woman, what's in it for him? Youth, beauty, fertility. That's the bargain. I don't know how many times we're going to have to look at data like until women realize that 1. They are most valuable when they are young, beautiful and fecund. 2. They are trading sex for resources.

I can do men too. Men need to realize that 1. They are most valuable once they've become competent and essentially proved they can protect and provide. 2. They are trading resources for sex.

[dorkultra]

attraction is one thing, but a 40+ guy does not want a long term relationship with a 20yr old lol

[hooch]

Young women are the most attractive? Say it aint so!

[nerojay]

In terms of sexual attraction it’s pretty obvious that women in their early 20s are more attractive to every age of man… sexual attraction is about making babies, from a biological standpoint.

[mikegb]

I used to think I was a pervert for being attracted to women 20 years younger than me. Because of this video, I now realize I'm just a normal guy.

[MySisterIsASlytherin]

Personally? 40 year old red-headed mathematicians

[athompso]

There's an inherent bias because of the question: "what are you ATTRACTED to" means something different to men and women.

[catpaintypo]

This listing reads. “Which women do men find most attractive? Hannah Fry.
Not just me then.

[patavinity]

The fact that you find this so objectionable is very silly. Clearly men and women have *evolved* to fit these patterns. Men have *evolved* to find young women more attractive. It's not some kind of moral failing on their part, it's natural.

[sodalitia]

Did she just virtue shame men's sexual preferences? Men consistently liking younger women is "problematic" to her (as if she discovered America). But young women lying about their attraction for monetary gains and when hitting the wall themselves realizing that looks and being young matter is not a problem at all.

[martineyles]

And as the lines never cross, it's a wonder we're still all here.

[UmpireStrikesBack]

This video seems to be conflating two seperate questions. Initially you asked "How old do you like your partner to be?". Then you showed graph of "Age of the men/women who look best to him/her?".
It seems to me there would be no reason for the age you find most attractive to vary considerably as you age. However, that is a completely separate question to what age you prefer your partner.