How To Cope When The Narcissist Has Moved On

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[hellothereinternet]

my ex hid me on social media, ruined my birthday, cheated on me, gaslighted me and blamed it all on me, (even though i would bend over backwards cleaning up after his shitty housemates, supported him when he found out his mum was homeless, constantly tried to support his dreams and tried my best to be a good partner in his life)… the new supply is getting taken on holiday after 2 months of being with him (we were together for 1 year), shes getting flowers, fancy dates, posted all over his platforms but he kept me like i was a dirty little secret. and its so infuriating watching him pretend to be a good person, he was so different with me but said we were soulmates/i was his person blah blah blah… looks like it.

[NarcSurvivor]

When the narcissist has moved on, you need to grieve them and recognise that it was a false character that they used to manipulate you. Then you can use this opportunity to put the focus back on yourself and your own life. Use this time to heal and become stronger. So that you will be ready, just incase they come back. Narcissists hoover their victims 7 times on average, before it’s finally over.

[MsLibertyorDeath]

He took her on the same trips and even gave her the same gifts that he gave to me. At first, I was stunned. Then, I felt sorry for her.

[sushmayen]

Them moving on might be the best thing that can happen..its a miracle. We should learn how to cope if they don't move on. their getting away after being horrible and they might come back

[petralee]

My heart shattered into a million pieces 2.5 years ago - the pain was incredible- I was so enmeshed …. The steps you described really helped
1. Exercise - a new routine
2. Traveling, a new hobby … anything that gives distraction
3. Definitely no social media - no lurking, etc and no contact
4. Staying home / soothing environment
5. Time, Time, Time
For everyone, who is just at the beginning of this journey, please know that every day that goes by will bring you closer to the light at the end of the tunnel. Freedom is priceless

[massimo]

Rejoice in knowing that you no longer deal with toxic waste

[stranglestrong]

I don't want to have another relationship. I just want to heal. Eventually I get to die and be free

[lysaarvideo]

Their entire life strategy revolves around adding insult to injury.

[janeloraine]

My ex was on his third relationship in less than a year, by the time we got to divorce court. The judge admonished him for posting his escapades online where everyone could see them. It was devastating that a 35 year marriage meant nothing to him. I wanted to warn the next wife, but love bombing makes one think the rescue attempt is just bitterness or jealously. Grateful to be taught this is a pattern and it was not just my lousy experience.

[l.]

I was married 23 years to a narc. He was previously married 18 years. I noticed that he repeated the places he took his first wife with me. Same trips, same restaurants, same activities. In the devalue stage, he repeated the same disgusting behaviours (previously I did not know these things. At the time of devaluation he bragged about what he did to his first wife. Up until then, I thought that he had been the victim.) Then, after I divorced him, he sent pics of his new pursuit in the same park where he had taken me, despite living in a large city with about 100 parks. He had this script he kept repeating with endless number of women.

[melissapaultre]

"You don't see checkmate yet but it's coming... " I needed to hear that. Thank you for all you do.

[MariaCeaMIca]

My breakup happened very quickly, but at the time, I didn’t even realize I was being discarded (hadn’t figured out the whole Narcissism-thing yet). There was so much “on again, off again” behavior going on that I didn’t know what was happening. I was very confused & crying a lot. Finally, a mutual friend told me that he was going to a bar and seeing other women. I was shocked at this behavior because I never thought he would try & pick up girls from a bar! But that NEED for SUPPLY is so great, & I guess he hadn’t yet groomed anyone new. Once I heard that, I lost a lot of respect for him due to the ease at which he seemed to be able to just “move on”. In hindsight, I don’t think we really had a real relationship. I was just a “fix” for his addiction to Supply. It hurt a lot at the time, but now I thank God he broke up with me!

[angelamitchell]

No longer suffering I feel sorry for my narc He’ll be in a perpetual cycle of dysfunction and has lost the best thing he’s ever had…me!! 😉✌️❤️

[Gradhmhor]

Not just broken heart, but broken spirit as well.

[SenSakura-djbq]

A broken heart from a cluster b relationship is not even a broken heart, it is trauma as bad as it gets. PTSD as if you just came out of a combat zone.

[morpheusmirror]

They never really move on unless they think the target is completely destroyed.

[Unknown-t]

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭23‬ ‭NIV‬‬

[Megs]

I know there are people suffering with this struggle right now. Having been through it and maybe going through it again I know that there will come a day where I realize how lucky I am that that relationship ended. Sometimes rejection really is protection.

[Rosie]

DO NOT tell the new supply…. I tried to tell my ex best friend/roommate that her new bf is a narc… he was fresh out of a divorce playing the victim and she gave him a key to our place not even 6 months of them knowing each other. I found out he started bringing women home during the day and sleeping with them in her bed because I literally caught him in the act. When I tried to tell her she got mad at me and let him get in face and scream at me….THEN since I was single at the time she ignored me and pulled the “you’re just jealous” card…. I was heartbroken….10+ years of friendship with this girl in the trash over a guy she knew for a short time…. He also wound up dumping her later on. She had to learn and I wasn’t going to be around for her. I actually saw her not that long ago and I could tell she wanted to talk to me but I have nothing to say to her.

[zrcioct]

It's hard to call my ex narcissistic because I still have deep feelings for him and I feel the need to defend and talk him up, even though there is no reason to. He moved on so quickly to a new supply and I found it heart-shattering, comparing myself to her in every way, wondering if she would go through the same cycle I went through, or if I was the only person he'd ever abused. It has helped to hear that this cycle will occur and yes, while she might be in that love bombing initial cycle, I went through it as well and know very well how real and alluring it feels. I've had a habit of looking at social media but I think I'm going to use all my skills to cancel on that because I know it's harming my healing. I need to work on my life and healing now.