Can You Build a Relationship with Someone you’re Not Physically Attracted to? Angry Therapist Shorts

Can You Build a Relationship with Someone you’re Not Physically Attracted to? - Angry Therapist Shorts with John Kim

Therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as he pulls the curtain back and documents his journey to humanize the therapist.

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[ImperialCarWash]

Im facing this issue right now. This was a "god send" thanks

[raykos]

Wisdom. One year after a relationship where the emotional component was phenomenal but the physical attraction was lacking from the start. It didn't work despite how hard we wanted it to.

[lauriejordan]

This is my issue. I can’t find any single men I am attracted to. My family/friends keep telling me to look beyond that. But, if you don’t have that, I dont see how I can.

[Thelittleclipstore]

Exactly, I don’t even see physicall attraction as physical .. it’s much deeper then that. It’s about being a better match at ur core. And that doesn’t mean sexy looking . It means u see urself in them and that’s what gets u excited.. I noticed the more attraction physically there’s also more emotional connection. But it can be very tricky and be fooled ur attracted to someone cuz they dress well and look sexy.. so I also noticed how my real soul mate is excited to me mo matter how ugly or washed out I look vs others get excited to me only when I’m dressed up and taken care of.

[joshuaheaven]

Needed this video because there’s someone I’ve known and had a friendship for years with and we’ve tried dating. She told me emotionally she’s attracted to me but on the intimacy side she’s not that attracted to me and doesn’t feel a spark when being intimate with me even before we got to that stage. As much as it hurts me, I feel the right thing to do is walk away

[bleachedout]

The only therapist to say it like it is and not try and guilt people to be attracted to people just for having the right personality. I was rejected by a guy who loved my personality but wasn't that attracted to me. I was fat so I get it. I lost the weight and we met again and he was super into me but I wasn't into him. He just wasn't attractive to me. I realized when I was fat I settled on who I thought could love me rather than who I wanted to be loved by.

[darkwolfify]

As someone that has dated people that didn’t find them physically attractive, it was painful. I did like them for their personality which is what drawn me to them. But however in the bedroom there was no chemistry on my end, had to take viagra to help but the painstaking reality is even though the sex was great there was no emotional gratification towards it. It felt fake and vain because I still didn’t find them physically attractive to the point where I had to severe ties from the relationship because I couldn’t deal with the guilt no more. It isn’t healthy going against your boundaries just to appease others empathy when dealing with a situation like this. At the time I didn’t realize that what I was doing was considering settling for less. There’s so much that what’s on the inside can do if the external part is missing that eventually it never lasted. And I’ve painfully regretted dating people with this problem 3 times in my life I can’t think of any happy moments that were worth it really as there were only small fractions 😢. In my opinion it’s just best to go with what your preferences are because all of what I’ve experienced isn’t worth it for me personally

[SilviaHernandez-lxzz]

💯 I agree I would think it’s much healthier to have the three all at once, that makes me feel less shallow for not giving a chance to someone I don’t feel attracted but think it’s a great person.

[Kera]

This is soo tough for me. I hate that he’s a great guy but we are just not sexually compatible. When attempting to get intimate it was soo awkward and that was such a huge turn off . Very immature . He also tries to force some type of affection from me to him and it’s draining.

[alenabukhar]

Why not to start with everything - because it is not coming my way

[slowrunnr]

This. I had several therapists try guilting me into dating women “because they’re nice” and that’s it.

One therapist, so terrible, he kept saying “haha I mean yeah, attraction is great, but what you really want is a woman who’s easy to talk to! Beauty fades! Interesting conversations don’t have to - find a woman who’s easy to talk to! Ask her out even if there’s no spark.”

….sorry but that’s not enough

[abcdefghijk]

Yes! I used to be the nice girl giving guys a chance I wasn't 100% attracted to. Sub-par sex & I've learned my lesson.

[whathuh]

1. Attraction has no relevance to a deity or religion, so it doesn't matter how much you consult with a religion about your lack of attraction, the body knows what it's physically attracted to.
2. If you're not physically attracted, don't superficially lead them on and waste their time. Just be friends with them.
3. If you're not physically attracted to them from the initial encounter via social media, and afterwards in person, you'll never be physically attracted to them.
4. Physical Attraction doesn't grow over time, unless that individual alters their physical appearance to one that suits your type.
5. At times, you'll confuse being attracted to their personality as being attracted to them physically, and your body will eventually remind you that you aren't physically attracted.
6. You can end up really confusing that individual and hurting their feelings if you try to string them along while knowing you aren't physically attracted to them. It's not fair to them.
7. If you aren't physically attracted to them, then just admit it and be upfront and honest about it.

[gemz]

Yeah I just had to block someone because we just don’t click and I felt myself forcing myself to be attracted

[saynotohookups]

You're deceiving yourself if you think that physical attraction can grow. When it comes to someone who is not physically attractive everyone has their cut off point or it's a no go zone.

[Hello_kitty]

I'm dating this guy he loves me so much i said yes even tho i wasn't sure about my feelings i don't think i love him i did maybe when we were just friends but now that we are in a relationship i don't find him attractive and sometimes get attracted towards other guys. K don't know what to do if i broke up I'll lose such a sweetheart and it will hurt him.

[karmahleone]

When the kite showed up I died😂😂😂😂😂😂 cause after a while that shit is cominnn

[chidinmaesomonu]

The confirmation I needed, i just ended the relationship today..

[maddiesartchannel]

Thanks for validating and reaffirming my decision!!❤🎉

[mtsb]

I don't need everything. I am just fine this way. 😊 What is most important? The foundation.