Building Connections: How to Be A Relationship Ninja | Rosan Auyeung-Chen | TEDxSFU

Rosan presents the steps required to build and maintain good relationships. She proposes that the breaking points in our weaker relationships are not found in the other person, or even in the interactions amongst us, but rather in ourselves.

Rosan is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors and has been working for the last few years at Vancouver General Hospital. In her work, she provides individual and group psychotherapy treatment to adults dealing with depression, anxiety, adjustment and personality issues, obsessive compulsive disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorders.

[mrpeace]

Main Points:

To know Others, Know Yourself
Be Vulnerable
Evaluate When you get bad vibes from someone
It always takes TWO in a relationship
Its all about Delivery: be honest but be kind and pleasant when saying it

[properpsychology]

"Each person is an island unto himself, in a very real sense; and he can only build bridges to other islands if he is first of all willing to be himself and permitted to be himself" - Carl Rogers

[jenznwachukwu]

I appreciated this talk so much, especially when she pointed to knowing yourself well, being aware of your strengths and weaknesses in order not to be offended easily.

[amirulariffofficial]

3:07 - know yourself
5:00 - show good and bad side, people closest to us usually know our good and bad side
5:49 - dont take it personally
-people said nad thing, actually not about us, it maybe because of what happen to them
8:16 - bad vibe
-take some times, what is it about that person borders u?
11:04 judgement and assumtion

[embodiedauthenticity]

Point 1: "Know yourself." Probably the hardest thing to do, but definitely powerful for building authentic connections.

[cusozsb]

One of the things I appreciated about this talk was the fact that she said if someone doesn't want to connect with you you won't be able to connect. It doesn't matter what you do.

[ethanbelle]

I see a lot of people saying in the comments that she was not clear enough, but I feel the lessons were in the stories she told of how she did things wrong and how she did things right. I think it’s up to us to decipher the best ways to keep an open mind though out our connections new and old.

[ThePartyScientist]

A relationship like driving a car with two wheels. There is open
communication with every turn and decision we make. Relationships take
effort and courage and understanding that it is not just one sided. Strong connections involve two different individuals who are fully aware of their strengths and weaknesses

[maryjulius]

I really connect with her opinion on being Vulnerable. I actually find it hard to be vulnerable with people because I think no one can actually like that part of me😔

[Drewgonsalvesacro]

I have an issue with feeling like a failure and her comment about acknowledging and unconditionally loving our weakness was what I needed to hear.

[onepercentruleeveryday]

building great relationships is the key to an amazing networking. And, networking is the key to finding the right people who you can help out, and who can help you in return!:)

[ruthcoates]

This talk was not only great content wise but the delivery was so entertaining. It should have more views.

[ReconUnPro]

Underrated. I love her delivery (but of course, the slides could use some work)
The content is also something that everyone could use more of.

[cchristinaw]

One of the most powerful and practical talks I’ve ever seen. It’s empowered 1000+ people in our community

[annieev]

I loved this! I love her enthusiasm- it's contagious

[TheSandsplash]

Pretend to like people, works everytime for short term. And be genuine and share problems, works for long term.

[otshepengditshego]

The sad part is that the people we trust (family) are the ones who actually attack us

[MinutePsychology]

Building meaningful relationships is hard. Every relationship. I don’t believe a long lasting relationship can be built effortlessly. This is perhaps the reason why so many people break up. They search for a fairytale romance that would last a lifetime.

[itsxrystina]

I think she has read the four agreements by Don Miguel ruiz. :D Great talk!

[noyb]

I hate Ted Talks but she was wonderful.