Should You Get Married Young?

00:00 - Intro
00:17 - Reasons People Gave Me For Why I Shouldn't Propose
00:54 - #1: What Is The Right Age To Get Married?
01:51 - #2: Should You Experience Other People First?
02:55 - When My Sergeant Told Me I Had Made A Mistake
04:14 - A Fairy Tail Made By Men For Men
05:08 - #3: Should You Live Some Life First?
07:17 - What You Should Do Before Getting Married
08:58 - Marriage ≠ The Wedding
09:22 - Am I Telling You To Get Married Young?

[khalexi]

"A marriage should be the beginning of your adventure not the end of it" -that is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard.

[Mondaycat]

Married at 20 my husband was just 5 days after his 21 birthday. We were in a great marriage for 49 years until I lost him to cancer. We were each other’s one and only and neither of us ever regretted that.

[lindathompson]

I married at 19 and my husband was 21. We met in high school and were married 52 years. He died two years ago and I miss him every day. We both came from parents with bad marriages and we were determined to never be like them. We worked at it and it lasted because of it.

[husseinkobeisi]

When he said "we watched the birth of our 3 children" man I teared up.
This dude knows what he's talking about and it should be taught more.
I believe committing to someone early isn't "settling down", it's allowing yourself to have more experiences with the right person.

[SaltyTribeCo]

Married at 20, husband was 19! Married 19 years now and had 6 children!!! Everyone told us we were crazy - those people are either divorced now or never married and still unhappy! We grew together, learned together and adventured together. We would do it all over again and choose each other! 💗

[raij]

Regarding what was said at the very end . . . A bad marriage is incredibly lonely, isolating, stressful, heartbreaking, and full of regret. It’s much better to stay single than to marry someone who is not on the same page as you.
Get to know the person well. Make sure you’re both mature. Don’t ignore red flags.

[zacharymccoy]

“We’re still married and they’re divorced” wow that’s a powerful statement. It’s so moving and communicates the point you’re trying to make.

[deannamcmanigal]

So thankful for this message! We were 20 and 21, husband in military. What a great adventure we have had! 3 adult married children and 12 grandkids. God has been so good to us. How thankful we are for 51 years!!

[georgeanderson]

AMEN! I agree with everything you said. We've been married 62+ years (she was 17, I was 20; she was Filipino I was Caucasian; she was from a different culture & a different race; "they" gave us 6 months, but by God's grace we are still together & love each other more than ever). 7 children; 21 grandchildren; & 22 great grandchildren later it's been a great adventure with no regrets. We didn't miss out on anything & wouldn't have had it any other way.

[clarity]

Didn’t get married too young but at 25 last year. Both of us waited until marriage to have sex. We both have zero regrets about that decision and wouldn’t have it any other way. If your spouse is your best friend and love of your life—don’t worry sex will be enjoyable. My advice to other young people is to wait for sex but get to know each other really well in the dating process. Know each others goals and values and you’ll do awesome. For us our Christian values were the best wisdom we could have gotten anywhere

[Tincan]

My wife and I were 20 when we married. It’s now fifty years later and we’re still madly in love with each other. We have two kids and five grandkids and love each other deeply. It’s about love and respect for one another. We’ve gone through 21 years of Navy life, 2 strokes, 4 heat attacks and cancer. We supported each other through it all. Oh and one last thing, we abstained from premarital sex and I’m damned proud of that.

[simplymattern]

Married my freshman high school sweetheart, but we waited 10 years because we weren't ready until we were mature enough to make the commitment for life and equally ready. During the 10 years, I got a degree because it was important to me, and he figured out his career path. We grew together instead of apart. Our engagement was a year and a half because we saved up and paid for it ourselves. We didn't fit everyone else's mold of when or how it was right. Since the beginning, others said we wouldn't make it and bet against us. In our marriage, we've lost three infants, had almost every immidiate family member live with us, lost and started jobs, and so on. We made sure when we got married, it was for life, through good amd bad. All that said, the true glue, what sustained us and carried us through? GOD. I knew I would marry him at 15 years old after we had conversations about our shared faith in Jesus. We even attended the same church for years and never knew each other. I could give all the ways we made good choices along the way, but there are plenty of mistakes too. God was and is the grace and the love that sustains us through it all.

[jenniferyoung]

Married my high school sweetheart at 19. We had so many people tell us not to. We both waited for and chose each other only. 15 years and seven kids later we are still madly in love and each other’s best friends. It’s rare to see someone else talk about their marriage the same way we do. A true marriage is such an absolute treasure.

[jeslordischus-wealthkwarte]

"... because the mentality that marriage is the end of the adventure than the beginning of it is the problem..."

That struck me so much🥰🤗

[kellylynn]

Amen! This is solid truth! Your story is similar enough to ours that I just cant help but share it. My husband and I met at church camp, when he was 15 and I was 17. He was a young preacher boy, and we bumped into each other in lunch line. We lived 300 miles apart, so we wrote letters back and forth for the first year, then exchanged numbers when we saw each other at camp again the next year. And we started talking for hours on the phone every day. (That was before either of us had cellphones. It was landlines all the way.) We talked about everything. About God, what we believed, what we wanted out of life, what we expected out of a mate, whether we wanted children someday, how we wanted to raise children, what we liked and disliked... Everything. We became best friends. We fell in love with each other over the phone. When we saw each other again at camp the next year, he proposed to me and I said yes. At that time he was 17 and I was 19. We had lots of people tell us that we were crazy, or way too young, or that it would never last. The thing was, we knew that God had put us together, and that we were made for each other. The next year, he turned 18, and then graduated highschool a few days later. The day after he graduated, he got on a greyhound bus and moved to my small town. We finally got to go out on our first date together. That fall, we got married. We were both virgins. I moved into the trailer that he was renting. We didn't have much money, but we definitely had love. We had alot of learning to do about life, but we learned together. And now, 17 years and 3 children later, we are happier, and more in love, than we've ever been, and we have no regrets. (Or drama or baggage from past relationships.) We are still best friends and we love the life that we have built together. He now pastors the small church that I grew up in, we got married in, and we've both served God in. Now we are raising our 3 kids there. God has been very good to us. We are so blessed. ❤ Thank you for putting this message out there! As I said, It is solid truth!

[marcusshumway]

Married after my tour of duty in Vietnam. She was 19 and I 21. Been married 49 years and loving it. She’s the mature one. I’m still a diamond in the ruff. I agree a lot to what you’re saying. Keep standing for the truth. It’s nice to hear some fresh wisdom.

[darleneblakely]

We got married at 18 yrs old. My husband was in the Army. We will have our 50th anniversary in December.

[Invcto]

Thank you, sir. I'm 17 and have been wondering about a lot of this lately. I still have college and police academy ahead of me, and I didn't know when the best time to get married would be in the midst of all of that. I took to heart what you said about marrying earlier to have those adventures WITH the person you love. I'll navigate it with prayer, and I'm confident that I'll know the time when it comes.

[devchonka]

I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we got married in 2007.
16 years and 4 kids later... i can say this was the best journey i could have ever taken ❤

[jterrelltx]

Brother
You nailed it!!! I married young and it was and has been and remains the greatest adventure ever conceived. Her dad told me, “Jonathan, my girls do not play house! You have honored her by asking for her hand in marriage after 6 months of dating. Honor her in your time of engagement and I promise God will bless your marriage!” He was correct! I cherish my wife and would die for her without consideration. The older I get the more I deeply value the purity and innocence she brought to our marriage! God bless you brother and keep speaking the truth!