honest convo about marrying young

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[jeremiahgarcia]

Im 21 my now wife is 21
We just got married yesterday! Pray for us!
God is good

[Yard_Machine]

Got married at 21 after 4 months of dating. I had no desires to be married young or be dating or anything. But the Lord hit me hard with the greatest girl I’d ever met and after our first date I knew I wanted to marry her.

Edit: 26 now, 3 kids. Life is good.

[kennalynne]

I’m 22 and married to my husband who is 24. I prayed a long time and I 1, 000% believe God brought us together and that were meant to be in this relationship. And I love him to death.

[christophermcdonald]

39, never had the chance at love. Lived a Christian life. Hard to not be embittered when it feels like other men got to sleep around and still marry.

[mostreal]

I wanted to get married young. Never happened, but getting married at 36 this year.

[DonovanJ]

The reason why fast marriage is a touchy thing is this, at least to me:

The bible tells us the qualities to look for are loyalty, dilligence, wisdom, prudence and kindness. You dont know a person has these things, truly, for a while.

For the first 6-8 months, you're talking to the representative. You dont know this person as they truly are. You dont know a person is loyal until there's a reason for loyalty to come into the fold. You don't know a person is wise until wisdom needs to be front and center. Etc.

When you marry, you're committing yourself to this person in spirit and life covenant as one. It's the most important choice you'll ever make outside of Christ Himself. The qualities you need for a life partner, need to be demonstrated and the foundation of the relationship needs to be rock solid and tested BEFORE you covenant yourself to that person. Otherwise you'll be signing up for a bad time.

The word tells us to move in wisdom and prudence. Seek God first to see if that person is your destiny partner, and then measure by what the Word says. Keep in mind that people can act, or hide their true selves.

You have the rest of your lives to be married. Use the time you have now to inspect the fruit, build a fantastic foundation, and make sure this is the person who you truly want to share life with, and make sure they feel exactly the same.

[BillyMenno]

I married at 19, my wife was 18. (Mennonite, lol)

We are not even close to the same people we were when we were married nearly 20 years ago, and that's a good thing. We have grown, but like you mentioned, we have grown together. We have made our marriage a priority and have been blessed because of it. Christ at the center, and a resolve to always figure it out when times get tough, and I am a blessed man.

[jseels]

Met my wife in High School when we were 15 and felt the instant connection and attraction to her. We immediately became exclusive and I quickly realized she was the one I wanted to marry - I never dated or kissed another woman. We got married at age 21 and just celebrated our 11th anniversary. We have two beautiful children. Looking back I can see that this path might not work for everyone, we got lucky enough to find such a good match so early… but we still are learning about each other, learning to communicate our deepest feelings, and learning life together. What a beautiful life God has given us ❤

[PineappleRacer]

My wife and I got married young right out of college so we were both 21.

The hardest thing for me was dying to myself. As a person who was in and out of relationships my flesh actively fought against the idea of staying together.

For a long time I surpassed the feelings but that hurt our relationship. It wasn’t until I was open about my struggles and had a conversation. Bringing that earthly desires to light instead of hiding them really strengthens our marriage and we are so strong today

[MajorMustang]

My wife was freshly 19 and I was 20 when we got married. 11 years later, through lots of trial and error, but more forgiveness and humility; we are very happily married with our 5th child recently born.

Edit: oh, and we dated for 6 weeks.

[abigailccc]

I got married at 18. I'm 30 now and I can still say it's the best decision I ever made. I'm so glad I got married so young. I'm so greatful for my husband

[hooptyhoop]

I’m 34 and reached a point in my life where if it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. And you know what? I’m trusting God’s plan in this. I would like to be married, but really have just begun enjoying singleness for once in my life. If I can stay this way forever, that would be amazing.

It would be more time with God. But God could easily put this contentment of singleness all into end with having a girlfriend eventually. The truth is, I hardly have dated in my life. It took me 15 years until I actually got into my first ever relationship, until it came to an end. But before my last relationship, no one was ever interested in me and that really hurt.

I did the one thing that was a horrible mistake for me. With my ex, I dated a non Christian because of how desperate I was. I did anything to keep that relationship going so that I would never go back to being single because I knew I would struggle again with trying to find someone else. The worst part of this story is that, I clung onto an abusive partner and hoping she would change, but she was the one to end it and she was so stuck in her ways.

Everything I knew that would go wrong, went wrong. I tried again after the break up and nothing was happening. I started to become increasingly angry with God because my desire to get married just wasn’t happening. I also was starting to feel left out because of all the friends I made after my ex all started to date and get married, which really, really made so alone in my struggle.

It wasn’t until recently, I did a prayer that took away this idol that I had in my heart along with the anger and everything else I was feeling away. I feel free from not having this burden anymore, allowing God to work in this situation. If He has me marry 5, 10, 15, or even 30 years from now, that’s where He has me, but if I live to take care of myself and do life by myself and with God alone, I’m also set.

I encourage everyone single here in the comments section, trust in God, no matter what age group you are in. His timing is perfect when it happens for you, it won’t be too early or too late. Be content in your current circumstances and relationship status doesn’t define you, who God defines you is all that matters in the end.

[YegRon]

My wife and I married at 20. Marriage is awesome! It’s also ALWAYS hard work. As is everything of value.

We were both still in university though we had part time jobs. We got a cheap apartment ate the cheapest food we could find and despite many people thinking we made a mistake, with God’s grace, we made it work.

You both make excellent points. You’re gonna grow up together. You’re gonna have adventures together. All of that is going to help bind you together. I can’t imagine doing any aspect of life without her.

Sometimes, I think we make too big of a deal about whether or not “she’s the right one”. Do you love each other? Do you have some common interests? Do you both love Jesus? Do you both share a high view of marriage? Then by all means pray about the decision, but regardless of who you marry it’s gonna take work.

[zendrukev]

23, I was that kid who had a really good relationship but listened to those people that said “meet other people and don’t try to commit when you are young”… Easily was the worst decision I made and took me down a destructive path. Luckily it made me super strong and drew me even closer to God. I HIGHLY recommend looking at the fruits of the labor of people who give you advice! It’s very important. If they are not living that Godly life you want take none of their advice. Follow God or suffer from mistakes like me.

[obad.iah.]

I'm 18 and this video and channel is a big blessing. Thank you for the wisdom Isaac. One of my best friends just got married as well at 18, and his wife is 19, and it's really beautiful to see them grow together in a God-ordained and blessed union.

[aeris]

I’m not even religious, which was odd that I got this recommended. But I clicked on it because I’m 19 and my fiance is 19 and I thought it might have some interesting things to say. I think it did. Keep up the good work man.

[KingdomCurrency]

I was 19 and my wife was 18 when we got married in 2021. Now I’m 22 with 2 kids!

24 isn’t that young to get married (but obviously I’d be bias)

My parents didn’t want us to get married young, but we wanted to and I don’t regret it at all.
Getting married matures you. If you don’t put yourself in hard situations you won’t grow.

Getting married and having children turned me into a man.

[mary-elizabethcroy]

I really wanted to get married young. I'm 27 now and doing my best to trust the Lord and His timing.

[christianjairoreyes]

Dude I've literally just prayed about this topic a few minutes ago and this video popped up and its been uploaded today. Thank you LORD my prayers have been answered.

[norenem]

I am turning 29 and I am losing hope. I dream to be a good and faithful wife, I hope one day 🙏🏻