How to stop oversharing (self-love) (friendship) (healing advice)

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[theguynextdoor]

As a guy, I used to be an oversharer before, and it backfired. The truth is that the world is not always a kind place, and some people don't have our best interests. People will gossip, misunderstand and twist what we tell them. Lesson from this is that people need to earn our trust. Strangers who seem a bit too interested, too kind, too caring etc... can be a bit of a red flag.

[kierralexis]

I needed to watch this video, I am very much an open person and I don’t feel shameful in showing that my life is not perfect but I’ve noticed over time that there are a lot of people that use these things and measure how they should treat you and sometimes end up doing the same thing to you as well that you’ve discussed, as I’m getting older I also feel like privacy is a beautiful thing, I don’t have social media but this was something I needed to apply in the real world and I’m still working on this

[Hilary]

Don't tell people about your trauma. They will use it against you.

[holli]

thank you for uploading this !! I’m an introvert but In the past I struggled with EXTREME oversharing. I was in around a lot of toxic people and had zero boundaries. I would just tell people everything about me, even though they had done nothing to earn my trust- it always backfired terribly. I’ve grown and learned a lot since then and am much better at setting these boundaries

[lindysglimps]

I used to overshare about having depression and I regreted it immediately cause people would react inapropriately despite how cool they seemed seconds before. Hearing things like ‚you’re overreacting, you’re lying to yourself, etc’ made me just sit and think ‚why, why did I tell them…’

[venusdoom]

I think I can agree that oversharing might not have a positive outcome in our lives sometimes, I think it depends on what we're sharing. I am personally very open with fully sharing my insecurities because they are kind of vague concept and many people can relate to them and it makes them feel more relatable, I don't have to mention why I have them. I think what we shouldn't share is the story of the situation that has led to the development of the insecurity.

[Dolce-Vita]

Thank you 🎉
I'm starting to keep lots of things for myself. My ex knew about some childhood traumas and...he used it to manipulate me. So, our "relationship" was another trauma to heal.

Never again💔

[lucka]

Few years ago I've explored the differences between being vulnerable/authentic and oversharing, which led me to insight that you can be vulnerable and authentic in your reaction without sharing anything your gut tells you not to.

[lulan_]

When I researched how to make friends years ago, it would always to be open but it never talked about oversharing. In fact, they would say that talking about your problems creates an emotional connection with the other. I wish I would have seen this video a year ago. I will always live my heart on my sleeves but today, i learned to trust myself and not talk about my relationship to others, besides, everyone have their own experiences and trauma.

[dark-vigilant]

I’m gonna be vulnerable here and am okay with sharing this information. I deeply regret telling my ex-friend that I had a crush on a married person. I trusted her and thought she was gonna comfort me. Instead, she immediately responded with “that person is married. You need to get over him.” I did not expect such a rude response. She made me feel like I did a “dirty” deed and was flirting with him when in fact, I was not! I just simply had an innocent crush and it was bubbling inside of me and I just felt like I wanted to tell someone and since she was a friend I trusted during that time, I thought she was gonna be empathetic about it. Except she was just plain disrespectful and snappy towards me. Update today: I no longer have a crush on that married person and she is no longer my friend. I just feel bad I trusted the wrong person to tell my secret to. I just hope she didn’t tell anyone…sighs. Lesson learned. I also have a hard time making friends so when I befriended her, I instantly trusted her about my secret. There are actually more reasons why I defriended her but this is just one incident that showed me who she really is and relates to the topic of the video. 😪😭💔💔

[bumblebee_ms]

Every single time I have opened up to the wrong people they used my private info against me. It's disgusting really.

[TheChillDil]

Such an important message! It's true, sometimes we get caught up in sharing our problems with everyone, but this video reminds us to focus on solutions and taking action. It's not always easy, but it's a powerful shift in mindset that can make a big difference in our lives.

[creatorsbootstrapping]

Learning to hold back is a mark of wisdom.

As Socrates advised, 'Speak only if it improves upon the silence.'

Reflect on your words because what you share can shape your reality.

Cultivate mindfulness in communication to foster deeper connections.

[vanellyc]

I was thinking about this for the past few days and was wondering why i keep doing it, thank you so much!! It came at the perfect time

[TeresaG-rw]

Hi thanks for your video. I can relate. Some painful family and work stuff slipped out one day with the wrong person and they did use it against me later, predictably. I have since sought some extra emotional support for a while but it's not terribly easy to move on after these occurrences.

[veronikar.]

you are like the big sister I never had <3

[avantikapathania]

Thank you so much for this, you're amazing ❤

[acdesignerx]

Thank you for making this video, I really resonated with everything you said and I appreciate all your tips!!

[RockDove]

Could you model some ways to politely shut down people's nosy questions so we dont end up oversharing in casual, everyday conversations just because they prodded or are curious? I hate it when i end up giving them the information they wanted just because they asked but i didn’t want to give that info away, but didnt know how to say, "thats my business " politely.

[yaknowamsayin]

What if my passions and interests are psychology, trauma and counselling, and the inner workings of my mind, and relating my experience to other people’s 🤔