Dangers of oversharing #shorts #animation #relationships

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“We hear so much about the difficulties caused by those who cannot be intimate, who seem incapable of disclosing anything of what they genuinely feel, it can take time to register the opposite but no less grave problem: those who cannot keep enough of themselves to themselves, those whose hunger for closeness overwhelms their concern for their own safety, those who will, in a poignant bid to hold others’ attention, lay out – within minutes of a new encounter – secrets that they would have been wiser to take to the grave.
This isn’t to deny the fun that oversharers can bring to social life. These won’t be the types talking about the economic contraction or where they last went on holiday. Contact with other humans should be about getting to the marrow of things, they believe, which is why we will quickly get to hear about their ex’s sexual difficulty, the vicious row they had about their mother’s will, exactly how much they earn, the troubles they have with their digestion, their favourite bedroom position and the nature of an early childhood trauma…

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Produced in collaboration with:

Hannah O’Brien

Title animation produced in collaboration with

Graeme Probert

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[theuserintheroom]

That’s why we create Reddit posts using throwaway accounts

[morganprescott]

in childhood when you don't have anyone who really understands or accepts you over sharing becomes the constant fight to be seen,
then in adulthood getting over the fear of being misunderstood becomes the hardest thing. it's okay to sit with a misunderstanding instead of trying to clarify everything all the time. the people who love you will learn to give you the benefit of the doubt and allow time to process things gently ❤

[Masanumi]

It just hurts to share and being abandoned. But it also hurts to handle everything for yourself. Either way, pain...

[tonysmith]

If you find yourself in any kind of relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, oversharing will inspire a lot of regret.

[disappearintothesea]

People always think I’m aloof and indifferent at work, but I really just don’t care to share anything in the office. It’s a good work life balance for me.

[margo]

You always inject your pieces with kindness and compassion. You must think really well of humanity. ❤✌️

[DrakonicMonarch]

I'm never sure where the lines are, so I tend to bounce between the two extremes. I tend to err on the side of over sharing.

[ItachiUchiha-gfls]

Agree. Actually I’m not close to my family or my in-laws. And automatically it is seen as indifferent. It has gotten me so much backlash as they think I think of myself highly - which I don’t. Me and my husband just decided to keep distance and keep our finances and our problems to ourselves. There is so many people that do not wish one luck even if they’re family. Sad but true. Nonetheless when you try to explain this to them in the most respectful way, they still think you don’t like them. It is very difficult.

[BebbaDubbs]

I'm loved and appreciated for my oversharing because I say what people wish they could about themselves and their inside thoughts. That's what I've heard my whole life so I'm inclined to trust it.

[chey]

Oversharing is common in people who get misunderstood (genuine communication issues or surrounded by terrible people who do it on purpose, perhaps a mix). Extremely common in neurodivergent people especially autistics, but is just plain common in people with cptsd around communication.
It can be assumed that it is connected with confidence, but without even small victories without it you cannot improve confidence in your abilities. And the lack of feedback is neither positive nor negative when people shy away from interactions with an oversharer.
As far as I've seen no one is offering a proper solution, and only shaming people for a reasonable response (when every other option seems a worse outcome).

[pedrostormrage]

It's a complicated balancing act, especially when you don't even know if what you're sharing is something the listener wants to hear. I think a safer approach is asking questions instead, but without prying into personal matters (like asking people about their interests, areas of expertise, and so on). That goes to yourself as well (don't share anything too personal, at least not initially).

[neynahnehnah]

True. Nost of the time you will regret sharing. While you learn to share less your brain tricks you to think "not sharing means being deceiving". You have to teach yourself that not everything is ment to be shared and you should keep it for yourself in order to keep yourself safe.
You don't need to air your relatives dirty laundry to your partner when is not related to them. Sure, if they are asking you for money or investing on their project tell them that they tend to not to pay back and they have done this before. But if your partner is not involved what would you share?

[ktbiwk]

"That they would have been wiser taken to the grave" is a HEAVY imperative 😂 (meaning the form of verb that is used to give orders), and a little presumptuous😂

[ericaamina]

I had to learn how to shut tf up the hard way. Don’t over share y’all

[Niranjana-kznm]

Isn't it hard to identify what's under the "over" category? How do you guys see it..?

[Vic-jwvb]

Why would they be wiser to take to the grave, what if they are in a DP environment and make a cry for help??

[georgeduncan]

💥💥 i knew/know people whom r neva happy unless with a lot of people or noisey distractions

[terrancekayton]

People LOVE to over-share with me, & I’m always like 😒do I look like your therapist, lady 😑.

[floramew]

Huh. Expected this to be about trauma dumping, lol.

[grimace]

I’ve met several women who within 10 minutes of our first conversation are describing a harrowing grape experience.