Signs they're not Self-Aware. BPD and NPD have this in Common.

Individuals who have signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder have one major thing in common, a lack of self-awareness. I am describing 30 signs in this video that will help you to identify when an individual lacks self-awareness. It's extremely important to have self-awareness to create the life that we want. It helps us to understand why we feel, think, and ultimately helps us to understand why we have made certain choices. Being self-aware gives us the ability to end negative unhealthy patterns. If you're in a relationship with someone who seems to lack self-awareness, whether they have signs and symptoms of BPD or NPD, we need to get to the core of the issues. When someone is lacking self-awareness, it will contribute to arguments within the relationship. A person who lacks self-awareness doesn't have the ability to fully see how their actions and attitude affects another person. When we look closely into an unhealthy relationship, we find a lack of self-awareness. We need to be sure we are self-aware and apply it to ourselves in order to be more successful in every aspect of our lives. Self-awareness is key to mindfulness and understanding one’s self fully.

[josephinezapata]

Whoever is reading this, my prayers and support go out to all of you who are working for a better life! We got this! Because wonderful and encouraging people like Ashley, is giving tools, awareness and support all the way! Thank you Ashley for your insightful and extremely honest channel.
Many, many Blessings

[monaelabed]

You hit the nail on the head with every point this video is so educational, it gives me a bigger understanding on who I’m dealing with

[chiefhood]

i feel that Ego is a destroyer of all visibility of true facts. Ego can make someone blind and start rejecting every form of logic of admitting wrongdoings or even listening properly to others. Acting on ego will make you feel a winner while in reality you lose it all!!!

[TheBorderlineWarrior]

I’m a self-aware (or maybe semi-
self aware can’t quite tell yet haha) borderline who’s working on themself.

The last couple of months I’ve realised that the ultimate key to managing BPD (cannot speak for NPD or ASPD) is building self-awareness. Without that, we’ll always repeat the same cycle of unhealthy relationships and forever have a poor quality life.

There’s quite a few maladaptive patterns I’m happy to say I’ve learnt to manage but theres also a number of things I did not realise until seeing this video!

Sometimes we need to accept criticism wether we like it or not…. It could be the very thing we need in order to change.

Thank you for this video

[LR-yumx]

Excellent list of explain ing the attitudes of these people... no self-awareness. And it helps us find purpose in our lives! Thank you Ashley. They do not care about their loved-ones'feelings, at all.

[richardwalker]

Thank you Ashley. I have learned to take a daily inventory. I promptly admit my shortcomings. By doing this, I see how I can become more content and happy. Today, very little stress, and the happiest I have ever been. I now set boundaries, and chose to be around people who support me. Abusive people? No contact or grey rock. 4 years of therapy opened up my self awareness. Videos like yours, keep me grounded in reality. I can only change myself. BTW, I prayed to God to help me, and I was lead to therapy. Keep your videos coming. Sending kind thoughts and love. 👍🏻🙏🏻🌹❤️😊✅♥️

[sandyheld]

Anger the toughest to keep ones cool when person trying to set one off!

[gregoryritchie]

Ashley: BINGO! Lifelong lack of self awareness! People pleaser. Fall for "you're selfish"! When it's really in my self interest. Really confuse the two.

[aljazkolar]

Why is it so, that they can't say " i don't know " . I remember talking to my narcissistic mother about something i've learned when i was a kid and i was like " mom, did you know that...?" And the answer was always the same " ofcourse, didn't YOU know that?" Trying to stay above me and to put me down, for not knowing before... Even if she had no idea about the fact just revealed her..

[MikeTheTruthThatMatters]

When you put all this together you realize you are not living in the same reality as someone who is self aware. They are dangerous people.

[itzajdmting]

Fantastic information. I always thought I wouldn't be believed after a nightmare situation with a narcissistic therapist.... however, whenever I told the full story everyone has understood me. I was in a vulnerable place an really needed someone to talk to. She turned on the charm and I believed her goody goody motherly act. Once she felt I was hooked she became less enthusiastic and very controlling - telling me what I could and couldn't speak about. I eventually held her accountable for lieing to me which had thrown me into cognitive dissonance. She denied it initially but made an impulsive admission. She then became a totally different person. Like a spoilt little girl that got told NO. Eventually she used my case history of trauma to retraumatize and gaslit me to the point of near insanity. I'm still troubled by this two years later and don't know if I should start the formal complaints procedure or just move on. I spoke to the governing bodies and the police and both were appalled and supportive. She's stalked me online with fake accounts and told me she'd been to my Street (she lives hours away - our sessions were over Skype 80% of the time). This experience has caused me to really struggle with trust now.

[stacimclaughlin]

You did it once again! I come to your page because you help me learn about my own disorder and how I’m affecting those around me. Some of these don’t really pertain to me, but ruminating on the past is a HUGE problem for me, and also overreacting over the super small things. I’ve always felt as if I really didn’t “know who I was”, because some days I’m so empathetic and fun and happy, and other days I’m screaming at my husband’s face ☹️
Don’t stop making these! If we are made to face it, then we have to change it!

[AgentWDx]

My biggest observation of those who lack self-awareness is self-sabotage. They blame others for their failures and shortcomings, and then they continue to go on in life repeating the same behavior. They are unable to see or admit how their own actions might have contributed to a problem. They are also can't see how their actions affect others. This can be observed in interpersonal relationships, the decision to break the law or engage in criminal activity, and even with how people vote.

[jeffrey.a.hanson]

The ‘lack of a strong identity’ is quite interesting. My own father has used Stephen Coveys
“7 Habits” as his belief system in an open manner for 15 years.
Prior to that it was the ideals of the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all Small Stuff”

This method of identity provides a lot of emotions, protection and external control.

[SAHamel_]

Spot On! I had 2 such people in my life, wore me out, and I had to disconnect. :-)

[larrycork]

you nailed it, I see my reflection and can think of times I have done it

[galaxy]

One or more of the things I find extremely aggravating is that, if they suddenly become angry at me over nothing, they will lash out, they will tell me that everything is my fault, that I (not him) am the one who doesn't understand, they will tell me that I am dishonest, deceitful, misleading, etc. and that they have examples, but they won't give you any examples so that I can understand what he is talking about. Dishonest and deceitful and misleading is actuallly how I would describe him. They can be very nasty and evil, and it's a challenge when trying to keep his words from destroying my self image and my self esteem.

[dr.marnihillfoderaro]

I always learn something new when I tune into your informative videos. Thank you Ashley!💕😃🙏🏼📚

[ericamoritz]

Dated a undiagnosed bpd and he hits all these actions. Run if you are in relationship with one.... never gets better.

[erich]

Nailed every point, spot on. One of the best videos I’ve seen in a while on borderline and narcissism