The Mind of a Covert Narcissist - 10 Mysterious Signs 🕵️

The Mind of a Covert Narcissist - 10 Mysterious Signs. In this video, we list ten little-known signs of a covert narcissist that you need to know about. You'll learn tips and tricks to help you spot covert narcissist traits - the hardest type of narcissist to identify.

Do you know that covert narcissists are less obvious but more dangerous than overt narcissists? Covert narcissists, also known as introverted narcissists, are fragile, shy, and self-deprecating people who are usually sensitive to what others think of them. Overt narcissists, on the other hand, are extroverted, bold, and attention-seeking people. These individuals are very aggressive and aren’t sensitive to anything around them.

The psychological make-ups of overt and covert narcissists are not the same. There are different signs to distinguish a covert narcissist from an overt narcissist, which we’ll be exploring in this video.

Covert narcissists are also known as vulnerable narcissists, introverted narcissists, and stealth narcissists.

Today, we’re going to share with you 10 mysterious signs that may indicate you’re unknowingly dealing with a covert narcissist.
Make sure to watch until number 1, because it’s one of the most secretive signs we've ever seen!

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[sweetone]

If you remove the self important, lack of empathy, and jealousy aspect of covert narcissism, you have a shy person or introvert. So, for those who watch this video, please make sure to know all shy or introverted people are not covert narcissist.

[juniormonroe]

That’s bullshit a covert narcissist will definitely go to parties to asborb attention narcissist jump from one behavior to next depending on the situation

[trevor_mason_reed]

Yes! Thank you!!! I've been researching about coverts and overts for 3 years! And lemme tell you, coverts are the most malicious ones ever, they're good at masking and using empathy to control you! And as for overts, they're extroverted, talkative and chatter boxes, coverts are shy, timid and passive.

Edit 1: People forgot...there's a thing called *masking*

[andytheindividual]

Honestly, the hate on introverts here is pretty wild, some people just don't like to have to go to parties, or would rather be grinding on skills to better themselves. This video is biased I believe!

[debramendelson]

Sadly...it took me 5 years into a Toxic relationship....and my decision to leave....that i then came into info on this topic! :( I was previously married to an extroverted narcisist for 22+ years without knowing it! I am an NOW i am fully aware of these 2 opposing sides of a narcisist!! THANK YOU....and please continue putting out these videos.

[kayellis]

Covert/overt--all narcissists are tedious and heartless. I think the coverts are more slithery than the overts, but both types would insist their paper cut is far worse than your torn meniscus. I'm shocked more of them are not horsewhipped.

[Rodytur]

This was an excellent video. And to an actual covert narcissist like me it speaks to the core. I have actually told a few people that I'm a covert narcissist and they don't even believe me! The reason is the same as you that you may view the characteristics described in this video as perfectly normal even though they're flawed. From the outside they may seem normal, but they're not. I really encourage people to read this. Let me give you an example from my personal life.

The "excuse" is recognizable. We always make excuses. Not long ago I started a study costing € 8000, - . I never finished it. Basically wasted money. I always had an excuse why I didn't spend time studying. Too busy, my mother was ill (she actually was, so I could pretend that bothered me, even though it didn't), I had gotten an exemption (baloney, of course). I just stopped going to college or do anything. Just kept on making excuses until people started to stop asking about it. Thus problem solved.

In reality my family had paid the majority of my college fund. I didn't care at all. I was happy to not have anything to worry anymore. No study, no exams, no stress, no excuses. Now you could conclude that's a bad situation in which I was a victim as well. But now comes the trick. I never intended to complete the course when I applied! I knew I wasn't going to do any real work for it, so if it became anything beyond trivial I was going to quit. I can't fail! You may say: "well, you did, big time!". But in our minds we didn't really fail, because if we had actually worked hard perhaps we could have had a grade, so this was not a sign that I wasn't super intelligent. And that's what's all about. Our own perception of ourselves. The rest doesn't matter.

A covert narcissist as a partner is incredibly destructive. It could cost you your whole bank account, your friend cycle, your family and worse. I'm not kidding. I'm a covert narcissist because I was raised in an unsafe household, since my father was a covert narcissist. My mother lost all her friends from her life before their marriage. She became the black sheep of the family even though she never did anything wrong. And has been mentally and physically broken for the rest of her life and even now she doesn't really understand what happened and why. She still blames herself.

Her father (my granddad was a great familyman) and she was his beloved daughter. When he got cancer my mother was devastated (as most normal people would). He only had a few days to live so the family made a contactlist to make sure everyone would be notified if his last hours may be there. My father volunteered to be the first contact for my grandmother, so he could call up everyone. He was calm under the circumstances (logically, because he didn't care), not the closest family to have to stay at the bed, so an "ideal" candidate.

When the time came, he phoned everyone that they should come to the hospital because the end was near. Everyone. Except my mother. She was just at home. My mother visited my granddad as much as possible, but she also had to work, do all the housekeeping (cooking, laundry, groceries, cleaning, everything) and had two young kids. My mother would never have seen her father alive again if it wasn't for a lucky coincidence that made my grandmother call her up to bring something with her on the way to the hospital (I can't remember what it was). My mother raced to the hospital and when she walked into the room my granddad had just enough strength and awareness to call her and grab her arm. Five minutes later he was dead with a smile on his face, because he had been able to say goodbye to his daughter.

The motivation for this behaviour is obvious. My father was jealous that my mother was loved by her parents. He wanted to break that relationship at the end. Leave her with guilt of being the only one to not have attended his death. Make her look bad to the rest of the family. And isolate her, so he could be the comforting partner at her side. Still sounds normal to you? By the way, he had all the excuses. Couldn't reach her from the car, got the voicemailing machine (even though we didn't have one), actually called but nobody picked up the phone etcetera. They divorced after a marriage lasting 20 years.

[princessluvvsg]

Wow someone I was seeing I figured out the guy was a narcissist then discovered he's a Covert Narcissist..

All this describes him all to well, I didnt understand what was going on. This was my first and hopefully my last narcissist relationship/situationship.

He was so draining!! He drained my energy I was always exhausted. They wear you out mentally!

I NEVER MET ANYONE LIKE THIS AND DONT WANT TO AGAIN!

[grantaugustyniak]

Coverts never go out with others because they can’t compete & keep up with their own peers. Also they want to be the absolute center of attention- therefore keeping one friend at a time. And that way they can keep track of their lies better. Until they age & get forgetful & can no longer keep their lies straight.

[frederickalmost]

Isn't that basically the definition of a narcissist pretending to be someone they're not? And then they show their true personalities once they got you hooked. This is basically all narcissists they mirror the person that they want to manipulate and if you're shy they're going to pretend that they are too to a certain extent.

[garycordle]

This is so spot on, observe don't absorb and once you know you go you get out and you stay out 🙏👍

[zandatee]

regarding Nr. 1 - Covert narcissism is a psycho-pathy itself.

[wvtrucker]

my girlfriend is a covert narcissist I've been with her for almost 10 years and she has taken my soul! I don't even know who I am.. she has chased away friends that I've had for almost 30 years and I don't go anywhere anymore, she gaslights me nonstop to the point I don't even know what's real anymore I don't know if I said the things she says I said or did the things she said I did.. I'm not a human being anymore I'm just walking on eggshells trying to find a place to hide away and fade into the darkness.. I swear if I ever get out I'm never gonna get into a relationship again.

[kaylac]

This to a T describes my ex narc and he also attempted suicide but failed. I tried to help him, but there’s only so much I could’ve done. In the end it wasn’t worth it. They drain the life out of you and suck you completely dry and you’re so dry you break.

[spookyanalyst]

Woah. This video describes one of my colleagues at work to a T! I stopped being friends with one coworker at my job months ago because I was beginning to notice most of these characteristics from this vid segment she had exhibited. The irony is the #1 listed that hits the nail on the head...she does have mental health problems.

OCD, Social Anxiety, and Major Depressive Disorder are the 3 out of 4 diagnoses she told me she struggles from. She admitted to me that she did have suicidal ideations before and she struggled with substance abuse of opiods. I believe that she has abandonment issues which is a significant indicator that she might also exhibit signs or behavioral characteristics that are portrayed by individuals diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. This video was very insightful.

[steveconn]

A fine line to balance. A conscience helps check oneself from slipping. Covert narcissism symptoms sound close to depression.

[agnesmurr]

I have seen a relationship between a covert and an overt narcissist, and it worked very well thanks to their ability to trash and use others in a duet.

[Gthesecondpower]

This is the first video I've come across that describes the person I dealt with to a t. We would get invited to so many things, and they either said they couldn't make it, or they said they'd come after work and then just wouldn't show up. I was constantly left at social gatherings on my own.

[Oberon]

I don’t know any more. Someone recently called me a narcissist and I’ve definitely done a lot of these behaviors before in my life. But I thought it was just due to emotional immaturity. I feel like I work a lot on changing… and I do legitimately care about other people. But I’ve also always seemed to be pretty self absorbed.
🤷🏻‍♂️ Where is the line between immature and “narcissism”?

[kimberlygabaldon]

Are you saying that the majority of introverts are narcs, (because it sure sounds that way)? Most introverts keep to themselves and don't like parties, either.