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Timestamps:
There's A Lack Of Relationship Advice: 0:00
The Relationship Aura: 0:19
Confidence: 1:06
Tiege Hanley: 4:41
Kindness: 5:59
Assertiveness: 8:52
Ambition: 11:57
Lean In-ness: 13:52
How To Develop A Personality: 18:25

Topics: How to be attractive to girls, how to get a girl to like u, how to talk to a girl, women attraction

[abishaicampbell]

I feel like having this ultimate “mission and purpose” is a new phenomenon. Men back then could just be a hard worker at their normal middle class job, find purpose at church maybe, and that would be enough. From there finding a woman and staring a family was just easy. Society used to deem those men valuable and worth something. Nowadays it seems like you have to go above and beyond, with the ambition to be in the top 1%, just to be deemed a person of worth by other women and even ourselves as men. It’s hard to just fabricate a sense of self worth when everything in society tells you you aren’t worth shit just because you can’t play along with this rat race, superficial, narcissistic culture.

[johnparadise]

2:26 “Let People Dislike You” Best advice I ever got!

[TheDoomerGoGetter]

YouTube & cold approaching help my social anxiety too, before I started making YouTube videos I couldn't talk to anyone and had no friends, then making videos help open me up, then I tried cold approaching for videos and that help my social anxiety so much, next things you know I get multiple dates, a girl who wants me to be her boyfriend, a relationship that taught me Im not ready for a relationship yet and need to keep working on myself, im so grateful for both YouTube and cold approaching

[SirJoelsuf]

Cole was spot on with 7:30 - 8:30 about the difference between being genuinely good and being a simp/stan.

[DataDrivenActualization]

The emphasis on kindness is definitely lacking in the traditional dating advice as well as more extreme communities like pick-up, red pill etc. For a woman to want to stay with you long term, she has to trust you, and that trust cannot be opened without you showing your soft, loving, compassionate side. Great video man. I like the new animation styles as well.

[monkever]

I'm a confident guy who always holds my head up high. Jealousy is something that many people feel, but few will admit. People may not dislike you for whatever reason. But if they are jealous of you, you already know you are doing something right.

[mateopetit]

the moment i've stopped chasing woman by founding peace though myself and what i do, things has started to slowly get better, from the low point i was with depression at the start of the year, to christmass where i've got into my first relationship, the best gift i ever got, none of this would be possible without the work i've would have put into it, thank you cole for having motivated alot of people like me in this year to get better, happy new year cole =)

I really like the thing you've said on video games, most people who try to fully be in video games actually are founding girls with same interest.

[berkaybayarstudent]

Great video. Finally someone who is not telling us to be in the 1% to be worthy.
Thank you Cole!

[adeadpoet]

I wear my weird with a badge...i wear it with swagger and i'm extremely proud of my differences. Matter of fact, i'm pretty certain it's part of the reason women like me.

[machio]

Cole this is the video that I’ve been needing that I didn’t even know I needed. Thank you so much for what you do, keep up the awesome work!

[dflorez]

Happy new years Eve Cole Hastings keep on going with the advice you give to the world your doing great fam 🤙

[highsol]

That confidence bit really resonates with me 3 minutes in. Always sucked with girls but I was slightly better with them at a young age when I was in El Salvador. The awkwardness was there, but the occasional boldness I had to ask them out made a world of a difference. You have to be the man there right from the start, or the woman will be the dominant one or embarrass you in the way she rejects you. So you have no choice but to get in there (or cold approach as you guys call it here) unless you want the other guys to forever make fun of you for not being the man you're supposed to be. TLDR: It has nothing to do with this red pill "alpha male" BS, or being fully secure with yourself. Optimizing? Irrelevant. Talk? Irrelevant. We just do, and keep doing. Man I miss that environment.

[windstormstrike]

Thank you for consolidating all the dating advice from numerous videos into a more understandable info bracket. Much easier to understand. I think your next video should expand on how to talk to women as men today have high difficulty with that.

[Exposetheluciferianagenda]

Great video my friend. I’m 41 years old and I feel that all my life I never had a genuine interest for things making me not have a clear life goal or ambition or something to work towards in life, and even though I have always held my own and I’m responsible with my job and duties, I feel I’m living my boss’s dream and not mine by not knowing what it is that can make me happy and pursue it as a career goal. Time is passing by and I’m truly getting tired of 9-5 and not living my dream whatever that is. As much thought as I have put into this I have yet have a clear mind of what I want to do or where I want my life to be headed. I always envied the children that knew from an early age what they wanted to do in life. That was never me. 41 years later, I’m bartending for 21 years now and even though I’m great at it, I want to do something g more meaningful and I don’t want to do it any longer and I don’t know what else to do. This is one of the few things that I would like to have a resolution in my life so I can start enjoying it more. Thanks for all you do man, you truly are maturing and coming into your own at a very fast pace. Congratulations.

[Shartox]

Hey Cole, I just wanted to let you know that your videos are really invaluable. It's so good to see and hear that I and so many other's are not alone with their problems in this world, where apparently everyone around you is living a full and happy life. Thank you for the insight into your problems and thank you especially for the solutions you offer at the same time. Bless you!

[marcos.a]

Man I'm so happy i discovered this channel it's awesome.
It's really weird how some people view the "asshole" as someone who is just so evil and that instantly gets a girl, when in reality they start off as nice and then gradually show their true self. People are out here thinking women love guys that treat them like shit and slap em around. It's absurd. And people who are "nice" are doing nice things with the expectation of getting something in return, and it is so blatantly obvious that it never works out well for the "nice guy"

[United_Wings]

You've helped a lot especially with social anxiety and happy new year 🎆

[Noir_Nouveau]

Cole you doing actual good in the world with these lessons, continue to teach and challenge the fellas.

[finnconaty]

This video is great. Class nuanced advice. Brilliant Cole, keep it up.

[delmerfry]

... just wanted to say, Thank you for making videos and putting them on YouTube!
Hope you have a great new year!!