How I stopped people-pleasing & set healthy boundaries 🌱

When we are young and basically a blank slate, it’s easy to just let life “happen to us”.

Setting healthy boundaries & living for ourselves isn’t about privileging the self. It’s about giving our own needs equal weight, considering them alongside the needs of others, and finding a sensible compromise when in conflict - or, sometimes, even just standing firm.

📍 Shot in Bali, Indonesia where we live

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[Tenjiecorner]

I’m a single male turning 40 in June. My job title is bellman at a hotel I’ve been working in this department for a few years and people keep asking me why I don’t apply for the front desk. My answer is i work smarter not harder lol. Even though I get paid less than the desk I am stress free and get tips by just storing bags. I’m retiring from full time to part time next year

[sonialariviere]

I "Drink" every words you say.
It calms me and help me focus❤
Thank you so much😊

[dahliagotmail]

be kind to others. be kinder to self ❤

[shapeoftimes]

This is wonderful. I am now in my early 50s and just realized a couple years back that my whole life I was just a people pleaser. I am just now learning to love myself and trying to find out who I am.

[ratnoinamaew]

My favorite word to other people is "No"

[PutSumDirtInYaEye]

Showing more compassion and kindness to yourself actually teaches others by example to love themselves more

[angelo]

Your videos are so peaceful and inspirational- Thank you.

[MiaStayingCreative]

That is the cutest puppy I’ve ever seen 😍😍😍😍😍 and what a BEAUTIFUL video and beautiful message. I’m a recovering “codependent” so I needed this message today- THANK YOU! :)

[mitchsantell]

In 2007 I moved to New Zealand where I lived with my wife (37+ years) and my two youngest daughters. We moved 11 times and it was an amazing journey. I was never the same person when I moved back to California. I'd humbly suggest that if you can simplify your life, you'll live your best life. I'm alone a lot now but I am not lonely. Beautiful Video, thank you. 😀

[unsaltedbeurre]

Couldn't agree more. I'm lucky in a sense that I decided to live for myself and set my boundaries in my early 20s. I've been called selfish, ungrateful, stubborn, etc. by Asian standards, but I decided to stick with my plan to live the way I want and I'm so glad that I did. I saw a quote today and it says something like "Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love you". This has proven true to me so far :).

Looks like you got a new puppy! Congratulations! So cute!

[sonminorimitsuu]

Jean, I can't thank you enough for putting all these videos together, they bring me so much joy...Are you still living in Bali?

[jimstowell]

My gosh, thank you for this latest video. " Freedom is the letting go of the need to be approved by others."!!
What wiser words have been spoken. "Who am I" at 75 at the edge of retirement"? The question scares me....Thank goodness there your are for some guidance.

[hotncoolapps]

It's called good resonance or not. When the vibes (place, environment, activity, person) resonate with us, we feel peace, joy, kindness, love, laughter, etc.

[unknownbintang]

Beautiful video. I'm from New Zealand and live in Bali with my Indonesian wife and our newborn son. We're still 27 and 31. Your video has given the groundwork for extra thought towards our relationship moving forward. Peace and Love

[andreflavell]

you have a beautiful way with words and in this loud self serving world you are appreciated

[ShaiBB.]

Hi Jean! Your content helps me expand my philosophical perspectives. I've always struggled w people pleasing as i thought it would be the only way i would be accepted by the people around me.
Hopefully i'll find my tribe one day!
Blessings ❤

[johnswann]

I think you could consider articulating your values in a book. Many people will recognize something they have forgotten, and need to be re-minded of Thank you for sharing john

[vanhalen]

Wow. Deep sense of reflection and intuition.
Very touching narrative and recollection of childhood. Wonderful telling of the growth and rebuilding of self.

[Marj_Lp]

Being with nature is loving myself, the sound of nature is the language that tunes myself.
Love your videos...
Resonates a lot to me...
Thank you 😊

[desmonddass]

Nicely said. All of us have to find our true selves. Sometimes it's early, sometimes it's later.