Healing the Heart of a People Pleaser

In order to break through patterns of people pleasing, we have to learn how to help the heart of a people pleaser to experience healing and find new directions that are healthy and empowered. Today my purpose is to look at your heart and equip you to walk away from the trap of pleasing and into freedom.

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[BonBonHassan]

I'm going to rewatch these videos until my heart believes what my head understands

[beans]

After listening to this i realized how much of a people pleaser i am. I had no idea until i reflected listening to your words how much i need to practice self love. It's a sobering fact and now i know I need to learn my self worth. Thank you. I appreciate you opening my eyes. I am grateful for a new day with a brand new shift.

[tonypino]

The power of the Holy Spirit and using some of your methods has started a pattern of healing that I've been praying for years for. Thank you brother from another mother, and Praise Jesus!

[catherinecarelli]

When I finally set boundaries I was cut off from others.

[AdventuresofEmilyandLily]

I can't serve you if I'm pleasing you...super powerful. Serving is way more genuine and lovely in the eyes of our Lord

[christophermeadon]

It cost me my marriage. Lying to spare feelings, not being good with communication, not wanting to engage in conflict. I dont drink, never cheated, never abusive Reflecting back and asking for forgiveness from God. I pray that in time she will return. We have two kids. But for now I have/want to focus on seeking the face of God.

[Nightwalker-mu]

I'm 32 and have been a people pleaser for as long as I've had breath. This is the 🔑. I can't recognize if it's Spiritual gifts of giving or my ppl pleasing habit.

[VorpalBlue]

"We want love, but when it arrives we reject it." :O Oh my goodness, this slapped me upside the head! :D Thank you so much for the hard work you put into your ministry, Mark! I'm praying for blessings for you and your family.

[thokochikuni]

Avoiding bad feelings isn't Love. That sank in. 😢

[coffeytnmilk]

Part of the problem is people pleasers don’t attract healthy friendships, so there tends not to be safe people who (vessels as you call them) to encourage you in coming out of dysfunction. At least this has been my experience. My friends tend to drive me further into people pleasing. I’ve prayed for many years for these safe people but thus far I haven’t found them. In the meantime, I’m trying to trust God and endure/heal with His help.

[bettinabizer]

“Deal with your history” “process it”
Thank you Mark! That was key to me. Not easy to discern processing from ruminating though😃
Thank you for your teachings! God bless you❣️

[newchangenewlife]

My goodness this is reading me like a book. I had to step up and open my mouth to say no and establish boundaries in a relationship that was fueled by fear, anxiety, looking for acceptance and then with the other party using my service to their gain and my detriment. And the part where you said when you stop serving in church unfortunately these relationships dissolve because it was works based and not love based. I thought I was the only one that felt I had just work relationships with those in church.

[Psalmchild]

Wow- you are so anointed with wisdom from Holy Spirit brother. Praise God! Thank you and God bless you and your familu

[audienceofone]

These truths are HARD!!! Thank you so much for this. It’s time to heal!

[moniquepierce]

Thank you Holy Spirit for humbling me. I have to acknowledge myself and not judge anyone else! I'm not longer a victim and take responsibility for relational dysfunction I operated in for years. The roots started in my childhood. I was born to be a servanvt but overtime became a people pleaser to avoid being condemned, abused, punished, or rejected. I am an example of the first 5 things discussed. Now that I'm born again I want to be delivered from those 5 things and the identity of a People Pleaser. I am called to love and serve.. but when I start out that way..I end up people pleasing and not sure how to stop. I struggle to express my boundaries and uphold them. The guilt is overwhelming and I feel Lorded over. Holy Please with God's redeeming love, redeem me and Ramon and LaRaysha and Renette from these shackles in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏾

[margaretgrosskreuz]

Oh wow you hit on a good point Doing things out of fear of abandonment. So wise
Praise God for you Mark 🎶

[michelletschupp]

So so true! I can identify with everything you said. I am a people pleaser!

[veronicafravola]

Yes I agree I do want to please God and i am working on not caring what people think but I actually still do. Thank you for this video

[johnnieboy]

Your videos truly are wonderful Mark 💪

[estelleclements]

Get in the flow and if people don't love you back -its okay. Really want to stop people pleasing, thank you so much for this Mark. Love the squirm when not receiving a gift well😊.