Why some narcissists drink so much | The Narcissists' Code Ep 782

Why some narcissists drink so much. As a diagnosed narcissist myself i think that i drink to avoid the shame. to make the shame go away for a little bit but when a narcissist overdoes the drinking the shame can take over.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[Freethnkr]

Narcs deal with a lot of depression, anxiety, vices, and addictions... Most of them, if not all, have something they use to cope with stress, life, and past trauma

[SuperBikeRacer]

It fills their emptiness and gives them liquid courage!

[whitneyparker]

Yup my ex narc drinks every single day he can’t go without a drink

[debraannedimezza]

When he drank all, he talked about with his past his past relationships he would tell me things I shouldn’t of even been told he started going in to intimate details with other women describing their flaws in their bodies. It was terrible. I know way too much about many many women that I never needed to know.

[patreceperkins]

😢💔😩 the alcoholic narcissist is so much harder to deal with. The evil spirits fuel the narcissistic behavior… the narcissism fuels the disease… it’s a never ending and no win battle. I thought giving up made me look weak. Now idc how weak I look. Y’all can HAVE HIM.

[karenmajor-zain]

So glad I found this guy. I have learned so much. My husband of 10 yrs. is a narc. I didn't even know what a narc was! My daughter enlightened me. Been separated since Jan. He drinks like a fish! When he got drunk (daily), he was worse! I'm not going to put ALL my business on here but lets just say this Guy has helped me so much!

[wendydaniel]

They drink also to avoid responsibility and accountability..They usually have other addictions along with the drinking. Sex, attention to validation, cosmetic surgery, work, addictions to name a few...

[ChamberedMaiden]

I keep reading comments from those who have sympathy for narcissists. They assume that their behavior is caused by some type of trauma. *You're exactly where they want you!*
Hell, we've all been through something.

We don't feel the desire to entrap and destroy those who sincerely care for and about us as we play victim.

I don't feel sorry for them. I learned that emotion is wasted on them. If anything, your compassion opens the door for them to abuse you in worse ways.
A very cunning and manipulative evil resides in them. The only change you'll ever see in them is that become more proficient in their craft. Pay attention, you'll catch them practicing their dialogical deliveries.

*Narcissists aren't bothered by the damages they inflict, they're elated when they are the architect of your misery. They're megalomaniacs. Don't let that fact slip your mind.*

[gailyhanna]

My ex narc was an alcoholic. Come to find out, he also does coke, and who knows what else. Discarded me to continue his affair with his friends drug addict wife. Yeah, not a good person, and grateful to have him out of my life. To all of you that are suffering, hang in there. It does get better!❤

[dianaprince]

Alcohol is a very handy excuse for their awful behavior.

“Why are you bringing up those hateful names I called you last night? You know I was drunk!!!”

Note: Ppl with borderline traits or Borderline PD diagnoses tend to do the exact same thing.

[christinagipperich]

I work in a detox program and see narcissistic people everyday. If you struggle with narcissistic traits, please stay away from all substances. Once you get to needing our program, you likelihood of dying from alcoholism is pretty good. It’s a slow, horrible death. Trust me, facing your issues with shame is a lot less terrible. Plus most healthcare people won’t want to deal with your narcissism…their too burned out on it because narcissism is everywhere. The best thing you can do is the hard work of addressing you shame issues.

[janewanderlust]

Addiction, narcissism, and codependency are a toxic thruple... sometimes, not all the time, it is the chicken or the egg- addiction will create a narcissist or a toxic person who depends on narcissistic behaviors to survive.
Recovery is possible, from narcissism, from codependency, from addiction.
Sending love to anyone caught in any part of this dynamic.
But only through the INDIVIDUAL- you cannot save anyone, but yourself.

[tiheshakp]

It's sad. The self-destruction is depressing.

[donnahale]

He would also get nasty and get into fights BUT the NARCS life is MISERABLE and they will never ever b happy...It's sad but I DON'T have 2 worry bout him cuz I LEFT!!!

[daniellem]

There are NOT enough videos on alcohol /substance abuse and narcissism. PLEASE make more.

Mine had a black out episode last week (started an argument to use as an excuse), he walked in the next day like everything was ok and couldn’t understand why I was upset. He gets the luxury of forgetting but I get to remember the horrible things I was called etc…I started to cry while trying to fix my broken iPhone and he mocked me by saying “boohoo” and boy did that trigger me. One thing led to another and cops were called…

Its been depressing being here alone and wondering if the past 7 years was a lie. Haven’t heard from him… but I know he blames me.

A monster and I mean monster comes out when there’s liquor involved. The rage demon.

[donnahale]

The ex narc i dealt with drank 2 much and when i would tell him 2 get help he would say he is ok...but i don't have 2 worry bout that now cuz I LEFT NEVER 2 RETURN AGAIN!!! Let someone else deal with his addiction(s)!

[lesiawinters]

Son/Brother you are telling the truth this is so true my friend is so full of SHAME and drinks more SHAME. Do shameful stuff when in blackout and once sober does not want to discuss anything he shamefully did while drunk I so pray for him because he is

[TheGangstaNunOnTheRun]

The crazy part is that a drunk narc might drink to numb the shame thinking its gone BUT it amplifies (thats what they dont see) and shows exactly their pain on full display. It brings it all out cuz their mask is off.

[cherankimiorak]

My ex narc would drink at least 3-4 times a week prior to me and with me. He started to drink 6-7 days a week once I was catching onto his evil ways. Lies, cheating and manipulating he couldn’t handle it.

[jennifergreen-flowers]

It's not just alcohol...many have addiction to drugs as well. My ex does both.