Make Peace with Your Grief and Watch Where It Leads You | Susan McCorkindale | TEDxTysons

When author Susan McCorkindale lost her husband to cancer, she knew one thing: how she did not want to handle her pain. She did not want platitudes, and she wanted more than peace. By describing her journey of what she learned from sleepless nights and being still, her talk gives both those who are grieving and those who love them the tools to get the good stuff from grief.

Susan McCorkindale is the mother of two sons, a well-known autism advocate, and the host of the popular You Tube show, Flaws Are the New Black. She is also the author of two memoirs, Confessions of a Counterfeit Farm Girl and 500 Acres and No Place to Hide: More Confessions of a Counterfeit Farm Girl. Susan McCorkindale was born and raised in New Jersey. She loves Bruce Springsteen, the New York Giants, and the Jersey shore. A graduate of Marymount Manhattan College, Susan spent five long, hard minutes pursuing an acting career before making a detour into marketing. She has held top spots at Family Circle and Popular Science magazines, and today is the editor of Haymarket Lifestyle Magazine, Gainesville Lifestyle Magazine, and The Business Voice.

[janinelewis]

Five months ago I lost my mother and husband both unexpectedly in the same week. I have been told I have complex grief. All I know is two people who meant the world to me are gone, and because I have children who are also in pain life must go on. This is the best explanation of grief I have heard. Thank you for your wisdom.

[dreamyboyd]

Grief is just one of those things that is so different for everyone but this lady is so right - any motivation, any little bit of house work that gets done... Should be celebrated as win.

[arnoldschram]

Grief can be the most transforming and humbling thing to go through. I loved the way Susan told her story... Kind of magic. Beautiful.

[bjw]

I lost my husband a month ago. Which seems like eternity, and just a moment.
Your talk was remarkable. Thank you!
I am going to think of margaritas when I wake up in the morning each day, and wade through my ocean of grief.

[randisoh]

You got to take care of yourself first so you can be whole to help others.

[XianKai]

Awesome talk. After dealing with multiple losses in just one year I am still looking for HOW to navigate my days. You've given a path to take.

[sylviamcdevitt]

It has been 20 years since Chase Daniel left us at 4 1/2 months old. We still have difficulty, but we are able to talk about him and speak about some of the sweet memories we have, though he was with us for a very short time. While the tragedy will never leave us, we are able to keep his little soul alive. He is our personal angel.

[ghostdog]

My daughter died and I'm having a hard time functioning very well. Thank you for sharing that

[AnastasiaCostcalla]

What a superb woman she is, having gone through all this and now helping those of us who struggle. Thank you for your words, your honesty and your understanding.

[philaman]

I have no words. I am just in awe of this woman and everyone else who has experienced such trauma.

[sherrieglewis]

I love that, being still. Lovely talk.

[cstrongman]

So much heart, so much spirit. Incredible talk. She absolutely nailed it, to hear that she did so much good after going through such a challenging time... That's a special kind of lady right there. Damn!!

[roxg]

I’ve been busying myself since my hubby passed 4 years ago. I’m exhausted too. Trying to “grieve” during covid ...Thanks for sharing your energy.

[bcarr]

I saw this on Facebook and watched it here on YouTube. My husband died last year and it has taken a year for the real grief to set in. Your talk was very moving.

[jilllatif]

"We don't move on from our grief, we move forward with it."

[davidnevin]

Love the speaker. Thanks for sharing.
My wonderful wife passed away four weeks ago. I had cared for her for many years with dementia. Yes I grieved. But my wife is definitely in Heaven enjoying all God’s Blessings. What could be more wonderful than that. She is the lucky one, and I use her inspiration to have myself now helping others in our Community.

[geenaremsby]

Beautiful metaphor, sitting in an ocean to feel her grief, she didn't drown she found peace. Thank you Susan, really appreciated this and very timely for me.

[emmasmythe]

This talk really got me, tapped into some real emotions about my sisters death, thank you Susan 🥰 😘

[maxpoyntz]

The most important thing in any loss or change to living, is to feel the pain you are feeling when you're feeling it.

[leotencall]

What a breath of fresh air... Wow. Grief is such an overwhelming emotion, something I feel I've had to deal with too many times... I think I'll need to rewatch it a few times to be able to let go what I've been holding onto... Susan, thank you for this.