Narcissistic Family: Why Nobody Believes the Scapegoat

In this video, I talk about why nobody ever believes the scapegoat in the narcissistic family. Learning about this will help you remain your differentiated self and emotionally non-reactive, even if others never stop falsely blaming you.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[Trollophile]

Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to someone who is committed to misunderstanding you. 🙄

[mm]

I was desperate for validation from my extended family. I finally found peace by realizing that the only person that needs to validate me, is me. I believe me. Took me a long time to get to this place of mental health.

[moscowcowboy_]

Move as far away as possible and start a new circle of family and new friends.

[s.q.-e]

"They didn't do that intending to hurt you."
They did it knowing full well it would hurt.

[annohalloran]

As a scapegoat I’ve quit this family. No contact. No social media. I’m so much happier!!!

[katryk]

The terryfing thing is that people outside the family (teachers, doctors, policemen etc.) do not believe the scapegoat

[Agameda]

The lack of ' evidence ' is often because it's done out of sight of others. This is my experience

[DReardon-hqvb]

OMG. This is so right on. It's terribly painful to be bullied by your own family.

[musicandpoetry_]

No one believes the scapegoat because if you speak up, it looks crazy while the rest of the family is calm and acts like the scapegoat is being too dramatic so everyone else sides with them in thinking the scapegoat is being too dramatic therefore exasperating that feeling that no one has your back and you’re all alone :((

[fifilafleur]

Scapegoats just have to leave. They must leave the family. The enablers and abusers leave them no other choice. The ultimate act of self differentiation. Leaving the family. Forever. There is no winning with a narc family cult. They will put you in the ground if you continue to allow their abuse.

[davehendricks]

You called it a scapegoat. Growing up, I called MYSELF, the black sheep.

[OK-Take]

It took my whole life (several decades) to finally come to terms with the fact that I was the scapegoat in my family. I quietly removed myself from that position and I have no idea what they're doing with my absence. Here's the best part, I don't care. 😂

[prescottlady]

"Don't upset the apple cart!!"
And then you finally realize the cart is full of rotten apples!!

[VessicaPiscis-qpgc]

The role of a scapegoat creates so much anxiety; you never feel safe, you feel betrayed, trapped, as if there's no way out, and then there's the lack of self-worth. Thanks so much.

[DrmCom]

What's worse is when you try to validate yourself and everyone else tries to ruin it.

[SusanaXpeaceu]

I've realised that they never wanted to communicate. What they wanted was that nothing change.

[bl]

It really helped me when a shrink said, "Oh, these people have wanted you dead, since you were born."

[melliecrann-gaoth]

I’m amazed how they can tell so many lies by twisting the truth.

[shoshishararecordingsshosh]

Narcissistic families don't love, but the do need, the scapegoat.