Couples Therapist: 5 Steps to Repair Conflict in Your Relationships | Eight Dates

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Today, I share 5 steps to help you resolve conflict in your relationships based on the book, Eight Dates, written by two renowned couples therapists John & Julie Schwartz Gottman. These steps include identifying the conflict, understanding why it's happening, and coming up with a plan of action.

If you're struggling with conflict in your relationships, then watch this video! This therapist will share 5 steps that will help you fix the conflict and restore your relationships. These steps are easy to follow and will help you get through arguments and fights. So if you're looking for ways to repair your relationships, then this video is for you!

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[kaylan]

My partner and I have been binge watching your content and applying it into our relationship. Thank you Dr Steph 🌸

[WiddleMousie]

I would love if you could do a video on “genuine responses” as opposed to “pacifying responses”. And how to respond in those situations

[laurafreeman]

I don't have a partner but I do enjoy the content that you give give out and I think this is good for all relationships not just people who have a partner

[furiousstyles]

"Never try to win the argument. Win the heart. Then there is no argument to win". -Some dude.

[aaliyahahmed]

I normally shut down and am afraid to Express myslef coz I've been mocked lots of time all my life actually by those around me

[RMaines]

Thank you for being so generous with sharing your knowledge and experience.

[chelaxnart]

I wish my ex and I found your content before we started having issues. I felt like we were slowly getting here with couple’s therapy but we were both very much not aware of our defense mechanisms that destroyed everything we were working on. I need to heal and see how I feel about the lost relationship. Maybe one day I’ll want to reach out and we can try something completely new. Of course if she is willing and has worked on herself too. But for now. I have to keep building upon myself to be a better partner for myself and whoever else will want to give it a go. I feel so much more confident in myself and can depend on myself better than I have in the past. I feel ready for the future and am excited for the process. Can’t hold onto hope, but I can see how much we’ve grown with each other. And it’s not about comparing each other’s growth. It’s the willingness to put in the work and admire your partner for the work they are putting in.

[balbineguylaine]

Hi Steph 😊 needless to say that I love your content. It’s so so helpful! A question I have: have you ever considered doing a video (or a series) on long distance relationships? :)

[ES-gwzh]

I hope the videos I've watched so far and the notes I've taken help mend the lack of communication in my relationship.

[splamy]

I have a hard time talking about issues because regardless of whether we give it time to cool it down or not, I get angry or upset pretty easily and then he doesn’t want to continue. I do t know how to stop doing that. It feels like he just wants to let things settle and move on without talking about it. I need to talk through it to get over it, otherwise it feels unresolved.

[pigdpsp]

I love your videos, they've really helped me be more introspective with myself. I'm wondering if you have content about long distance relationships- the struggles, how best to keep them healthy, etc? Thank you Dr Steph!

[SS-ints]

This is very helpful for all relationships, relating in general. Thank you!! I’m saving it and keeping it handy. I have done a couple of these things and didn’t realize how much I contributed and made things worse.

[emmasmith]

You have the most gracious, eloquent presentation I have ever seen!

[NDObeats]

I’m really enjoying this book so far! Thanks for the recommendation and video. Love reading with you.

[stevensantora]

Great video Steph! I have bought the book. Thank you for all the work that you do.

[johnrainsman]

I'm currently mad at my girlfriend. See, we've had arguments so many times, and so far, it's always been my fault. I was always the one who was wrong and had to apologize. The one who had to redeem themself. And I have no problem with owning my mistakes. It's just, I'm tired of being _that guy._ Yesterday, I told my girlfriend that I was jealous of her. Jealous that she was always right and I was always wrong. That it brought me so much pain and self-doubt. And she said, "It's not always about right and wrong."

That actually angered me. Can anyone guess why? I don't want to have to explain it. I want someone to understand how I'm feeling without clarification. So again, I told her how I was jealous of her for always being right...how I was in pain by constantly being "the bad guy" while she was "the good guy" in our conflicts...and she said it isn't always about right and wrong. Why do you think that response bothers me?

[aaliyahahmed]

Been strangling with finding a partner am alyah and my mom is making it so hard I do belive in prayers make me part of yours

[JennyGaston]

Another great video! As long as too individuals desire to grow and have mutual respect, then the relationship can flourish. Sadly many relationships are about power and control and breeds toxicity.

[nataliam]

I really appreciate your content. Makes me reflect on myself like nothing else before. Thank you!

[Miss.Bri_]

I enjoyed this video, definitely retained some great tips to apply to my currently relationship.