Do your parents support you? NO? Watch this.

It’s awesome and a lot easier when you have parents that cheer for you. I feel fortunate because I did (unless we’re talking politics lol 😉).

I made this video for those of you who don’t have parents that cheer for you. First of all, you deserve to and when you’re parents aren’t capable of it, because of their own trauma or issues with addiction or mental health, it doesn’t mean anything about YOUR worthiness. It’s a reflection of what they were capable of providing given what they survived in their lifetime.

Wishing it was different won’t change what happened. The most important thing you could do is become the parent you needed to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Cheer for yourself. Push yourself.

I want you to know, I’m here cheering for you and pushing you too. I’m so proud of who you are and who you are becoming. And in case no one else tells you, let me be the one to tell you that I love you and believe in you and your ability to change your life.

Tag anyone who needs this reminder❤️

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[ananyamaji]

They are always there to discourage and compare me, more than they cheering me up.

[raphasoul]

To have a family that neither supports you nor understands you is painful.
Whenever they try to pull me down and attack me with mean words I just start right away in the same moment talking to myself in a loving way. Cheering up myself, believing in me and forgiving them for their weaknesses. It‘s also important for me to keep distance what is sad but necrssary for the soul to flourish.

Never allow anyone to pull you down. Not even your family has the right to do that.

Love and believe in yourself unconditionally

[dorkpie]

Tears rolled down my cheeks when she said "you have me, I'm proud of you"

[AverageAngel]

"you need to become the parent that you needed" this hurts so much I'm just here crying now, I wish had the emotional support that people who came from good families have, now crying online and alone with nothing, despite always treating other people right

[juliandavidac]

Mel: "it's just incredible to know that you have someone who's always in your corner"
Me: It's the first time in my life that i realize how alone i am .... that hit me hard

[claresullivan]

This one got to me...so much so that I'm actually commenting!
I'm in my 40's and my parents have never told me they were proud of me. I do wonder what my life would have been like had they cheered me on? I'm incredibly luckily that I have a husband that does and I make sure I tell my children that I'm proud of them. I want them to always feel that I have their backs. I just need to work on cheering myself on...that's a tough one!

Thank you Mel for your lovely words.

[Iluvmydogs]

I never had a parent who cheered for me. Like most other Asian parents, I had a single mom who would always criticize and constantly put me down while telling me how disappointed she is, as a way to 'motivate'' me LOL. Now, that NEVER worked. I am 37 years old, and I still don't feel comfortable around my mom although I do care for her, and I have never emotionally relied on her, ever. I have 2 daughters and I want to educate myself on being a great mom because I never had that type of role model, so I appreciate watching your videos as a great learning tool.

[angied]

You're very lucky mel! I started crying when I read what they wrote. Many of us do not have what you have. What a gift

[curseword]

I legit woke up today thinking I need to adopt some parents.... and this just nailed the box for me!
Haven't had a mum or dad my whole life...
I have a mad cheer squad... and cheer for myself but sometimes... I just need an adult!

[thetruth]

I ran away from home when I was 18. I just couldn’t take the abuse anymore been on my own ever since. Had my first kickboxing match last year and even though I won I couldn’t help but notice the kid had family cheering him on and a coach who supported him giving him advice every step of the way while I was alone with everyone booing me. I wish I had that kind of love and support. couldn’t help but sit in my car and cry once it was over.

[CandidlySharonH]

You are very blessed to have that unconditional cheer squad Mel

My parents of course love me but they have never been capable of supporting me!
They have never understood my goals..

I ran a fitness studio for 5 years;
my mum bless her told me it’s great I had a hobby!


I told my dad I would write a book one day!
He told me I did not have the vocabulary to write a book!

That shattered my soul!

But funnily as my life has rolled on,

it’s through my writing and now my candid pep talks or I like to call them “morale boosts” on here,

It’s in fact my words that are now beginning to touch others!

Of course I could only hope one day to have even a percentage of the impact you have!

But I will write that book!

Actually I will write a series of books one day because I haven’t come this far through the storms of my life to go no further!

Thank you!

Your wisdom resonates always 💕

[burninsherman]

Legitimately just hear my mom shitting all over the work I've finally found, and am starting tomorrow. Acting like I'm stupid for taking work where i can get it like my failures haven't already made me feel like enough of a waste. Apparently even when I'm doing my best to have some kind of worth, it's just stupidity. I feel like shit right now, but i know if i cry I'll only feel worse. Thank you for this video. Truly. Thank you.

[stellatheimmune]

literally started crying watching this, ilysm

[GOKILAVANIVARSHINI]

Thank you so much! i almost cried listening to this .

[heladds]

Mel, I always liked watching ur videos...today u have touched my heart...thank u...im 47 and crying like a baby

[Alchemstt]

Sometimes i see people have fun and laugh with their parents, and still at 21 I just want to know what that's like. I've become everything I've wanted to become and I'm proud of who I am now but still, I just want a hug.

[doroty]

I'm really trying my best to succeed and become who really I aim to be. My parents didn't discourage me but neither support, they're like indifferent and I'don't talk with them very much. It's been almost like 2 years that I try to educate and motivate myself to be better every day but sometimes it's hard beacuse it's like a solitary route between you and yourself. But I guess life it's also this, thank you for this video ❤

Ps: sorry for my english, I'm not a native speaker

[bertarose]

thank you ❤ I feel terribly alone since i hit my 40.. its seem that i was numb and didnt realize i was sooo alone. im 44 now and going to hit 45 soon.. im trying my best to be strong.. but its seem my memory or headspace can heal from it.. matter im trying to think like you, be positive, cheer myslef up seem to not be enough to heal from having no familly.. maybe im doing things wrong because i feel more and more sad everyday.. and im doing my thank you for your videos, I will try to make it better and not give up.

[TheRealLivingWithLisa]

Yep... I have one those non-supporters. I try my best not to let it affect me. Thanks for all that you do.

[URLkcrcnm]

My daughter and I live by the motto: Friends are the family that you choose for yourself. People like you have cheered and supported us through some very hard times. The fact that your parents rooted for you made it possible for you to encourage others. And then we lift up coworkers and neighbors, and so on...