Guilt tripping parents get it all wrong

Getting guilt tripped by your parents doesn't just feel awful, it creates lifetime patterns of self-doubt and issues with setting boundaries. It's especially worse when you've been working hard to meet their expectations, and yet never feel like you came close to meeting them. In this video, I'll give you insight into what's actually happening when they guilt trip you so you can process these moments differently and move forward in your healing journey.

Asha

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Asha Jacob

[reexg]

Having toxic parents helped me TRULY understand the saying “Every child deserves a parent, not every parent a child.”

[tingyang]

"You are so selfish", "You are so ungrateful", "I know when you grow up, you will not take good care of us". These are what my parents told me.

[Speckz]

This is why I dislike the 'I live for my kids' parents because they never had a great life, mission or tasks before they had children. They'll want their children to be successful and take care of them.

[sarasspace]

I am 29 yo and I am physically sick because of this guilt trip and feeling of never being good enough...it's horrible, tiring and no matter what I do I am always the bad person ..

[urjthdm]

It is crazy in dysfunctional families that parents think they should be first priority in your life.

[tm.]

This. I never asked to be born. My parents chose to bring me. If I had kids I would raise them my way but never dislike them for not turning out as the exact cookie cutter I favor. Kids are humans not copies of you.

[CT]

I finally moved out last year at 30 and never looked back!! We don’t owe our parents anything! Glad to finally have my inner peace!

[GMSjk]

26 and can't wait to move out. They're trying to keep me here, but it won't hold much longer. I've been reading the comments here and I know we're all gonna make it, no matter what. Great video, really needed to hear it. Thank you so much. God bless you all.

[Duncman]

Making my parents proud means NOTHING to me, I don’t love them enough to do so. Reason being is because their definition of making them proud is being the version of me they created in their heads

[maureenw]

Why do I feel such guilt cutting off people who make me feel the worst? I just want to be free. I don't hate them but they destroy me.

[theredone]

I love reading all the comments it helps me feel less lonely and not the only one dealing with toxic parents. My mother plays the role of “I live only because of my children” and she goes to me to seek advice, dump her trauma on me, and depressed from my father being an ass to her. Then my father guilts everyone, I give you so much and you owe me person, controlling, and overall a very narcissistic individual. I love them but I’m so emotionally tired and I’m only 18 but as soon as I graduate Im moving out. I can’t have my own opinions, he’s pissed if I don’t follow everything he says, can’t make mistakes, and I can’t express how I feel to them unless it’s happiness. But I’m constantly second guessing if I should move out and stressing if my parents will hate me.

[parkourfreak]

I'm trying my best not to be like my dad and the family. I'm always the mean one to them. I'm always the asshole to them. I'm always a problem to them. He always guilt trips me and it honestly makes me want to cry as a 25 year old man. I honestly just want to be left alone. I've never been the family oriented type. I'm never the favorite. I never seem to do anything right. I just want to move away and never come back.

[demiladeayeni]

I hate my parents because they made me a people pleaser riddled with guilt now at 21 I’m here on youtube watching videos about toxic parents when I realised they gave me imposter syndrome and perfectionism that made me fail uni

[HK-qdou]

My parents have sacrificed for us to get all the education that we needed. I want to help out my parent because they are at the age where they are getting older. They don't demand anything from me.... I just want to help them out because of gratitude ...

[Gabriela.H]

My mother is like that. She always wants me to help her financially, meanwhile she refuses to get a job. She refuses to seek help for her emotional issues. Ive done more than enough for her for the past 12 years and I’ve finally set my limits with her.

[nemo]

Many parents just genuinely resent seeing their children move out however, some keep quiet and deal with the sadness alone, that also triggers a sense of guilt in the child moving out if they are empathetic

[Rls]

My mother constantly told me that I wasn't appreciative enough.A lot of your ideas expressed here were really good and really insightful. You skillfully articulated a lot of this that is often difficult to express precisely in words.

[CN-ysqv]

If you love someone or something let it/them be free. Humans are so obsessed with possessing flesh it’s so cringy

[vernon]

Holidays are the worst with toxic parents. It’s what led me to this video.

[vm]

I told my mom she only wants to have kids so that someone will take care of her when she's old. Now, my sister, whom she used to hate is forced to take her in because no one wants her because of her attitude.

She only wants to take your side if that person has money. She will only love you if you have money.