Why Are There So Many Annulments? (Jason Evert)

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Jason Evert and Matt Fradd talk about the increase in annulments and the annulment process

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[bobthebuildest]

"People spend more time getting ready for the wedding than they do for their marriage"
2:22
dang what a quote

[fbermeo]

You want stronger marriages? Have those engaged to be married answer and document their responses to the the battery of questions that are asked when a nullity is pursued. Those questions hit deep and don't beat atound the bush. If answered honestly they reveal ALOT.

[Lancer-yg]

If Henry the 8th would’ve been in any U.S. diocese post 1970, he would have had his annulment granted

[timclark]

Why does every diocese in the United States require a couple seeking an annulment to get divorced first? As Jason says, the Church presumes that the marriage is valid. Weird thing for the Church to tell a couple to get divorced if they are validly married? Oh, and divorce isn't a final step, it's the FIRST step in the process. They won't start the process without a divorce decree. Frankly, that's a scandalous policy.

[AJKPenguin]

Short engagements, small weddings, long marriages.

[trish]

In the aftermath are all the children of divorce and annulments who weren't advocated for by the Church just so that their parents could be remarried without sinning. Where's the care for all of us whose parents' divorces have caused deep, lasting wounds?

[jimisoulman]

Speaking personally you can want to go to counselling and try fix a broken marriage all you want but if the other party is not interested it's over. The hardest truth the Church can't rectify.

[theignorantcatholic]

My wife and I went to counselling every week for two years, then every fortnight for a year, then every month or so etc etc.

We figured that if we can invest thousands into a single semester of Engineering, which is a fraction of our degrees, why couldn't we do at least that for our marriage, which is soooo much more important. It was an investment into how to do our marriage better.

[MrMustang]

What I don’t understand is how kids born in an annulled marriage aren’t illegitimate if the marriage never was in the first place. That doesn’t make sense to me.

[middlebst]

One major problem is that annulment tribunals won't hear cases until the couple already has a civil divorce. That undoubtedly skews the tribunals to presume the marriage was invalid, because who wants to inconvenience already-divorced couples?

Jason is being obtuse if he thinks tribunals presume the validity of marriage when so many annulments get rubber-stamped.

[betyg]

The talk about how things have gotten so bad I the culture that people don't know what they're getting into is ridiculous. You cannot talk about marriage being a sacrifice, and at the same time claim that a person may realize their incapacity to love later on in the marriage. My mother discovered that my father was an alcoholic on their wedding night, she proceeded to suffer for most of their marriage in an effort to save his soul. She succeeded despite temptations to annul their marriage many times. The last twenty years of their marriage were the fruit of all of her sacrifice, and that was the beautiful example that she gave my siblings and I.

[jameskroeger]

There are lots of marriages where people have no idea what they’re getting into. Do annulments not invalidate those too? Even some of the successful ones?

[billbill]

Jason Evert’s chastity talks really changed my life

[AlixPrappas]

How about we listen to our Lord’s words. “…because of the hardness of your hearts.”

[mikesarno]

How are we expected to navigate all of this? I gave my fortune, my career, my health, and the best years of my life trying to play by rules that society had stated is for suckers and has structured everything against such people. How do we move forward?

[jotcham]

From my priest: The annulment process begins with a meeting with a priest. He can then guide a person through the process. Depending on the circumstances with the marriage, it can take anywhere from a month to well over a year. An annulment is only given when there is some grounds for the marriage to be invalid. Lastly, a couple must already be civilly divorced to begin the process.

[daniellemoss]

Our Catholic church just preached about Mark 10 several weeks ago. And it was made clear that infidelity does not justify getting an annulment. Jesus said people are allowed to separate for severe abuse, but infidelity is not an exception for an annulment. MANY marriages go through extreme trials and suffering that does not mean one should get an annulment. Additionally, many Catholics, if not most Catholics, who got married very young can’t completely comprehend what marriage entails and what is coming down the pike in their marriage. This sounds like you’re leaving many doors open to exit a marriage

[chateaumojo]

Why is there so much domestic violence? Why do many people conceal their true natures until after they are wed? Why are there so many dangerously mentally ill people and addicts? If you can't work things through, should you stay married and raise children under the circumstances in question? Would you want your child to stay in a dangerous situation because they'd promised you they would?

[leannhendrix]

Is Sacramental Grace given/received in a marriage that eventually is declared null? Also, what other Sacraments of the Catholic church can be declared non-existent or null?

[domineprimatus]

Just to say it though, annulments getting increased is because of really bad discernment on the part of the Bishops. Most repeals that are submitted to the Roman Rota get approved, thus the Rota overrides the annulment by the Bishop... Marriage is not as complicated as this video makes it out to be. Monks and priests take vows, just because they struggle later with that vocation doesn't mean they can just turn around... Fact of the matter is, the modern annulment situation is Catholic "divorce" and its really bad. Most of these were valid marriages and the Roman Rota attests to this.