how to stop caring what others think

how to stop taking things personally

in this video i talk about how i've stopped caring so much about what people think about me & some specific practices that will help you stop taking things personally & recognize that most of the time no one is judging your but yourself.

book suggestions:
- the four agreements
- the artist's way
- a new earth
- anything by alan watts

timestamps
0:00-2:09 no ones judging you but you
2:09 don't take things personally
7:13 use triggers to practice mindfulness
11:45 rejection therapy
16:21 other tips + expressing yourself

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[natesamadhi]

i think a big issue is people never take a long period to simply be by themselves and meditate on themselves. Every day, we're bombarded with social media, so if you've never known what it's like to live without other people's approval, you'll be conditioned to always seek that approval because you've never known anything else.

After isolating during my saturn return, I finally broke out of overthinking about what people think about me, because i got to experience simply being out by myself, going to the store by myself, not being on social media, and just enjoying the silence of independence. I loved it. Now that I'm social again, I'm at an equilibrium where I don't **need** people's approval, but I also don't **need** to be away from people either.

[moneyraw]

i recently started being super authentic online and i noticed that when you don’t let the fear consume you, it goes away so quickly! just let the emotion pass and it will. you don’t have to hold on to it

[alexisgiselle]

I’ve had the hardest time accepting myself as an introverted, quieter type of person and realizing that it’s totally okay to be this way. Being bullied and told whether it’s at work or in my regular everyday life that I’m not normal, I should change myself, or that there’s something wrong with me being the way I am has always made me worry about people’s opinions and feel incredibly insecure. I’ll work on changing this as I get older because I can’t constantly keep living for other people and their perceptions of me and my life. I’m tired

[garlicman]

That tip about code switching or not code switching is golden. As a black dude who works around a lot of black people, I feel pressured to speak slang or ebonics when I would rather just speak proper but when I speak proper, people make fun of me. I'm tired of it

[BB-wcnp]

I think people ARE judging us but the longer you spend giving a shit is the longer it will be detrimental. And when it is it will only be to yourself. I’ve had best friends throw tantrums about how I’ve changed but if I continued to cater to their comfortability I would have never leveled up in life. And now years later they say how great I turned out while they are still doing the same shit. I don’t care what they do and have the humility to still come around and want to hang out with my childhood friends but it’s a slippery slope because a lot of jealousy can evolve if you’re not living the same type of lifestyle. In retrospect be calm, be respectful but don’t let anyone deter you from your path. You will only live with regret

[Adrene]

Lynette, this make-up is so light and airy, brings out the green in your eyes, you look stunning!
Thank you for sharing, love you <3

[cjray]

I’m only 20 but I feel as though I’ve hit my Saturn return 10 years early. I was constantly bullied and isolated from peers for the past 13 years of my life and I also suffer from severe social anxiety which led me to develop body image issues and disordered eating/depression at 16 and 17. Once I started seeking help and got to the root cause, my brain was completely rewired to the point that I’m not that same person I was 4 years ago. Even then, I can’t even be around most people my own age because they emulate that toxic energy that I once held. Which is why most of my friends are older coworkers relatives in there mid/late 20s and even 30s

[intergratedpurgatory]

Completely agree, I am starting to learn how to let my experiences move pass me rather then clinging on to it.

[AchemySoul]

When i learned “i am not my thoughts” this was game changer. Glad you mentioned this.

[theetravelhippie]

we could all use a lesson in practicing non judgment just as we would not like to be judged upon first glance❤

[daisydenton]

Not me going on my ipad to distract myself from how shit I feel because I’m doing this exact thing and then I get this notification…

[Kingnadeer_]

Ppl can’t smile at one another in nyc because when you smile at someone it’s equivalent to smiling at yourself in the mirror, because everyone is your reflection. Most ppl in NYC can’t even find a reason to smile at themselves in the mirror which is why they don’t smile and so mean to ppl. Its a internal hindge they’re projecting.

[iamCray]

"the more you live life for yourself, the more you're going to be forced to heal."

[AmiyaEmerson]

I’m currently listening to this as I pick at my station at Amazon lol. After work I’m going to go home and post my video. I’m done overthinking and stopping myself from posting due to me thinking what others may think or say. ❤️🙏🏾

[kflecha]

The best time of the week is when the queen Lynette post a new video💓 positive vibes to everybody here ✨😎

[donovan]

The universe called me with this video. Thank you for uploading this. I know you JUST uploaded this but I was just thinking about how even tho I usually don’t care, something inside me is still screaming for validation.

Thank you Lynette, a subscriber for 4 years! ❤

[stacyj]

This video popped up at the right time because I've had the challenge of being my true self around friends which come across as insecure because they all want to dress a certain way which isn't my style. I know it isn't me personally and it's their insecurities but the struggle is real being amongst people like this. I appreciate your advice so much because there are time where am tempted to change my outfit. I'm definitely going to challenge Myself.

[NDVM]

thank you for always sharing your truth and positivity!

[sharonno]

i truly needed to hear this 💕 thank you so much for another video x

[TamicoShawn]

I am a victim of overthinking to the point where my anxiety kicks in full gear. I recently had to catch myself because I was laying around, thinking the ultimate worse scenarios about money, family, work and I was sleeping a lot I decided to get my butt up and get out, exercise and not let it overcome me. Like you have to take back control. I always think everybody is at me and if they are who cares. I’m taking one year to handle business, slow down and practice more self love and pour into my mental health.