How To Stop Caring About What Others Think – Butterfly Method

Sometimes we care way too much about what others think of us. And this is generally a bad thing. It causes us to feel anxious and lowers our self esteem. So in today's video I'm going to show you exactly what you need to stop caring about what others think of you.

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[WanderingWeirdly]

Stop caring so much about what others think of you by realizing that most people don't think about you at all.

[SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Traveling by yourself is a major key. I did study abroad one summer in college and it was life changing. Gave me a whole new sense of confidence

[camez]

true about traveling alone. It's the ultimate act of self-love and an immediate remedy for anxiety/insecurity. I love it so much.

[benjiyoung]

Half of the comments are "sToP cArInG wHaT pEoPlE tHiNk aBoUt y0u"
Like w0w thanks I've never thought of it that way.

[edge]

A big problem I think a lot of people can get into, myself included, is a need for acceptance. It's like a craving for recognition or for agreement to your opinions. That sort of "attention seeking" can be extremely harmful. Caring what others think could be a precursor to this.

[fwuuton]

"The second way you can take advantage of the butterfly method is by travelling by yourself"

Introvert: Whew! I can do that!

"…and *socialize* with the people there"

Introvert:

[axoNNNessj]

In some way we want to be accepted, by yourself, your family, friends or strangers. But I'm starting to doubt whether this is really human nature, or actually more like human culture. I used to care a lot about what people think, but when I started to implement new beliefs and thoughts that serve me better, I noticed how this desire for acceptance and social contact decreased. I still care a little, but not as much as a year ago. It is after all 1 year of self-acceptance against 17 years of fear...from when I was a toddler, I can't remember being so anxious at all, my parents told me I was even really extrovert. But from the moment I went to the primary school this desire for approval started to grow. a clear hierarchy was introduced there, and if you did not listen or had your own plans, you had to stand in the corner for punishment. I think these types of fear-based influences ensure that we do so much effort to be accepted. the more years I went to school, the more insecure I became. until I sank so deep at one point, that I had to take a full year off. This has done wonders for me. I went from almost suicide to a sincere love of myself, and life overall.

[spiritsofelderflower]

The way you say, "like a butterfly" at 1:58 😂

[PracticalInspiration]

The point of having an excess of social groups was really interesting. I generally focus within myself to avoid focus on others, but you're right, the butterfly method is totally true (I've had the experience abroad)

[riseupstudios]

A brief history of the way I broke out of crippling social anxiety in college. This stuff works. Thank you for putting it in such an easy to digest way.

[CoryRoberson]

Never heard about this method but will definitely try!

[ma-teman]

Another benefit of being in multiple groups is that if you get more satisfaction in one compared to the others, you can spend more time with that one so that you are more comfortable with those you spend time with and end up worrying less. You just need to keep on getting yourself out of your comfort zone until you find the right people for you!

If you don't find importance in actually caring what others think of you, like strangers on the street, then you shouldn't care what others think of you. *However, sometimes it's important to care what others think because you will spend more time with them, and you should value your presence to the ones that you care about. *

[aldavedesierdo]

Man when I started improving myself from being narcissistic introvert i can't describe how my whole life changed. I really wished i started this sooner when i was in highschool. I became dominant as people say, more friends, and i feel grinding my ass of everyday. Meditation and calisthenics!

[anonimanonim]

I thought this was going to be about knowing your own value, about striving for personal power that has nothing to do with how people see you, and eventually gaining confidence from within. This is how you stop caring about other's opinions, by perfecting yourself through discipline, because by becoming superior, their opinions will lose all value

[mintmittens]

this is attacking the problem at its source!! so much effort goes into changing how you think, but you cant take down very important social instincts! i'm glad i came across this video!

[daciancatalin]

Miyamoto Musashi said to his disciple: "Never try to seek to be respected by other people. Be yourself a man to be respected and they will do it anyway"

[imthelettere]

I was actually looking for this kind of a motivation. Thank you very much!

[simonluc]

traveling by yourself to be more carefree 100% works, I did it a month ago and weng to a 900 person event and now that im back home, i just feel more free in general, its crazy how much solo traveling can do for you. Great video Improvement Pill! :D

[shankar]

This was of immense help to me. Was going through emotional turmoil for couple of days, this helped in clearing my mind, and hence making space for fresh start.