How to Build Confidence in Your Kids | Dr. Becky Kennedy & Dr. Andrew Huberman

Dr. Becky Kennedy and Dr. Andrew Huberman discuss the importance of validating children's emotions, even when guiding them to participate in activities they might resist, emphasizing the significance of teaching self-trust and confidence through phrases like "I believe you."

Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and founder of Good Inside, an education platform for parents and parents-to-be. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a tenured professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford University School of Medicine and host of the Huberman Lab podcast.

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[bennick]

Just had a conversation with my kiddo about cleaning up after themselves. I started with, "Why do you think it is important to clean up messes?" After some time to think and hints, they got it. I asked why it is important they clean up their messes. They melted down as they don't want to do that. But after a cool down time, they came back with some good answers. I think asking Why also helps with buy-in and give them the message that their thinking and reasons matters. They aren't being arbitrarily asked to do things. It takes more time, but I think that showing this respect helps them build self respect.

[anthonyescareno]

Notice the preferred use of the word “and” versus “but.” Good advice.

[aaron]

When my pregnant spouse looked at me and said "I'm fat", i replied "i believe you". Now I'm looking for a huberman clip for protocols to deal with pain from being slapped

[myeuhue]

The way they feel should be supported as valid, while providing them another way to think about things, and reassure them that they have a choice in how they feel! Sometimes, as a parent, you do have to tell the child that they need to do what they might not want to do at the time.

[myr]

I’m struggling between the greater good of sharing this with my spouse so our kids can benefit, and keeping it to myself so I can use the techniques with my kids AND my spouse.

[turvus]

1:54 confidence comes from feeling trusted

[mysteradio]

holy moly this clip is full of actionable insight!

[tatripp]

Everyone is so focused on validating the feelings of their kids. You will do this naturally. Hyper-focusing on this makes kids think they are the center of the universe.

[viennadiscovers]

I just love what you said. It is not about fixing - just listen

[zenphony]

Becky’s so cute, and I love her advice. I’m also looking forward to when she has teenagers that are 15+. 😂

[stevetrevino]

Tell them the truth. Tell them it's okay, and teach coping skills. It takes consistency and effort, and eventually, they gain a solid foundation to stand on.

[alfonsofraire]

In the wonderful Word of people that try to teach parenting there is one thing that's not actually happening in reality: kids usually don't speak openly about their feelings, because they often lack the ability to do so (it's difficult also as an adult). The first thing imho is to teach kids how to communicate their feelings, then you can say stuff like "I believe you"

[JonathanWeisz]

100%. I read Making Kids, Feel Confident. Like Feel Confident Making Kids. Do that show.

[FightingforGold]

As parents we try to help by solving our kid’s challenges but a lot of the time they just need to be “believed”, steered towards the healthy course and they end up intrinsically motivated to find the solution.

[DurpyWhale]

Watching this as a 16yr old is funny ngl, in a good way

[LifeBacklogs]

You guys are modern Sigmund Freud. Gift for parents like us

[devo]

Confidence is self trust. Arrogance is self promotion. Separately I think the difference wasn’t that she necessarily used believe over heard, rather she used the acknowledgement statement followed by “and” instead of “but”.

[mactook]

6:20 is a bribe not a reward

A reward is for winning, not for doing the right thing


+ ppl don’t have time for mind games, dictate is the only possible way .

[MasterTattooing]

I’m reading ‘The self driven child’ which has some overlaps, but also different insights. Would love to hear your thoughts on that.

[wj]

At 8:42 huberman says "I believe you, but in this family". In truth she said "I believe you, and"